We had dates for 2 years, planned out our future, talked about marrige, kids and then.....She told me it was over 1 week ago, then on Tuesday we had a little bit to drink and then we had sex. We weren't drunk enough to not understand what was happening, we knew what was going on. She initiated the sex, she said she loved me and then she fell asleep holding me. Then the next morning, she asked me if I wanted to go to breakfast after school, then we went to breakfast and talked for like an hour and a half. We said our goodbyes and that was it. Then the next day I asked her what was going on. I asked her if last night meant something to her and she said yes, then I asked her if we were back together or not and she said that she needed 2 days to think about it. So I don't know what to think, she put a time frame on how long it was going to take her to decide, I think she knows the answer and just isn't ready to tell me. Whats going on??????
2007-04-12 17:01:10 · 14 answers · asked by Dan H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
k well you two might have gone through with the after breakup sex cuz you were a bit intoxicated but like you said, you still knew what you were doing but its not that uncommon of a thing i dont think. if you're still attracted to eachother, the after break up sex can be more... aggressive i guess you could say but usually ends up more enjoyable. so she probably meant what she said etc at the time but then when is comes to figuring out whether you should date again shes probably going to decide based on those new events. you think she might know the answer already, and yes it's possible but on the other hand she might not, give her those 2 days or so to think it over because this type of decision is not one to be made on the spot. shes probably just trying to figure out all the confusing and powerful feelings and emotions she's having towards you. i think you should try to not to get your hopes up for dating again because that way you won't get hurt more but try to think optimisticly. by this i mean try to extract as much positive points from either situation because things are so much easier to deal with when they're more positive. good luck, hope things turn out well :)
2007-04-12 17:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by its me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks.
You need to not just be lying doormat and waiting for her to make her decision. If you do, she MIGHT come back to you but probably not, and even if she does she will lose respect for you, maybe "see what else is out there" knowing that you will always take her back.
If I were you, I would say "Look, I really love you and I cannot take these mixed messages. When you have a definite answer for me then let me know, but for now let's just agree that we are not together." and then WAIT.
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Guarantee she'll call you in like 3 days tops. Right now, she is thinking to herself "Hm, maybe I can do better" but she still wants to keep you near because she is not sure, that's why she slept with you. Show her that you can take initiative and won't stand for being or "I'm not sure give me time" guy and she will realize what she is missing out on.
2007-04-12 17:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by L'Ambitieux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your ex-girlfriend is so confused right now. i believe she is stuck in deciding whether or not she should move on with the consequence of losing you or should she stick with you with the consequence of not being completely happy in the relationship for however long. i suggest not making this easy for her cause in the meantime she is using you. having sex with her only complicates her decision making. during the two days she needs time to herself i would not have any type of contact with her until that two days is up. let her be the one to contact you and she must have an answer that day or else she will continue to string you along until she does figure out something. if she doesnt call you in that time span, just let her go. she cant have her cake and eat it too!
2007-04-12 17:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was told by another man to give him two days to tell her if he was interested and in the meanwhile she blew you off. She had sex with you in case what she really wants do not work out. Move on don't let her use you.
2007-04-12 17:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by sbahawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend did this to a guy once, she said she had sex with him as a final goodbye...has this girl ever been abused before...my friend had...i always thought it had something to do with that, something vengeful against all the guys that abused or used or hurt her.
2007-04-12 17:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her what is up. You should let her know that you dont want her playing with your emotions. She must obviously have some sort of feelings for you still.
2007-04-12 17:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her two days and see what she wants and go from there.
If she wants to get back together and you also want to get back together go for it.
If she doesn't thank her for a nice night and move on.
It's out of your hands right now.
2007-04-12 17:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think it's better to move on. Seems like she's just playing games. But then again, I could be wrong.
2007-04-12 17:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by tefutefu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she wants to get back together but wants to be single even more.
2007-04-12 17:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her, sooner or later she's going to start acting funny for no reason. She needs to be straight with you.
2007-04-12 17:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋