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Question

my husband told me he wants to join the national guard. i am scared and dont want him too. im 18 and have a small baby and have NEVER been on my own! he said he would be gone for like 21 weeks for training and stuff. please tell me everything i need to know about the national guard, i heard it goes by state or something so we live in texas. im scared , i dont want something to happen to him, i dont know what i would do! please no rude answers.

some of you seem to think he is trying to escape me, this IS NOT the case. his job cut his pay in half and where we live there is no good oportunities. he wants to provide for us not run away from us! and he isnt 21 he is 23 (for the guy who thinks he doesnt want his family!) my husband loves us dearly. im just scared of losing him, and i want to know all i can about the subject.

Answer 1

MY GOD I CANT BELIEVE SOME OF THESE PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN SO VERY RUDE. YOU NEED TO IGNORE THEM. THEY ARE JUST TRYING TO START STUFF OR AT THE MOST ARNET EVEN PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT THEY ARE RESPONDING TO. I APPOLIGIZE ON THERE PART.

COMMING FROM A NAVY RECRUITER. I AM NOT A FAN OF THE GUARD. SINCE THEY ARE STATE FUNDED NOT FEDERAL. THEY HAVE MORE MONEY PROBLEMS THAN ANYONE I HAVE EVER SEEN. MANY OF THEM AND I AM IN TEXAS. HAVE NOT RECIEVED MONEY AND BENIFITS THAT ARE DUE TO THEM. SO I WOULD SAY THAT HE NEEDS TO RETHINK THIS. NOT TRYING TO SWAY HIM TO THE NAVY. BUT WE DO HAVE A PROGRAM WHERE HE WOULD GET UP TO 20 GRAND FOR A SIGN ON BONUS. SENT TO A VO-TECH SCHOOL AND THEN HE WOULD BE BACK IN HIS HOME TOWN. AND HOPEFULLY THE JOB HE CHOOSE FOR THE NAVY AND THE TRAINING THAT WE SENT HIM TROUGH WOULD HELP HIM GET A BETTER JOB...

Answer 2

Ive got a friend in the Kansas National Guard...I can tell you a few things about it.

In the National Guard you are employed into the United States military subject to two authorities.
1. The United States Gvernment
2. The Government of whichever state he enlisted in...in your case it is Texas.

He will go to training for about ten weeks for basic training. And however manby weeks of trainng he receives afterward depends on what MOS he volunteers for. What MOS he chooses also determines where he goes to get his basic and Advanced Individual Training. Because to cut down on transportation costs, the government will put him in a training center nearest to the base where he will undergo AIT. This can put him in south carolina or missouri for his basic and any of the myriad of bases for AIT...not many training bases are located in texas where skills are taught to entry-level soldiers.
After this he will train one weekend a month friday to sunday and keep himself ready for the chance that he should be called to duty by the state or federal government.

Obligations to the US:
a. In case his unit is called into active duty (and there are wuite a few reserve and national guard units that have been called overseas) his unit will leave for an extended training period to get up to speed in equipment and tactics for whichever place they're being deployed.
b. they serve a tour then come back home. In theory there cannot be two deployments with one beginning in less than a year after the first ended.
c. depending on his MOS hell get this standard enlistment contract of four years of national guard service with another four in inactive ready reserve (which means by special decree he can get forced back into service without his permission or face criminal charges in a military (not a civilian) court. Other, more critical MOS's get a package of 6 years service and two years IRR. This depends on what MOS's the Guard is most in need of.

Obligations to state:

a. The governor can call up National Guard units in case of riot, natural disaster, civil unrest, and any other duties deemed necessary.
b. Assist law enforcement agencies.
c. Defense of the state in case of invasion...very unlikely this scenario will occur.

I hope the best for you and your family. Hope this helped you some...(most likely hell be put in a place as a support role not a front-liner.)


ex-marine

Answer 3

First, let me say that contrary to the ignoramus who made the rude comment about you "getting knocked up...", that you have the moral support of the majority of Americans who appreciate the commitment and sacrifice that both you and your husband will be making. We all hope that hostilities in Iraq and Afganistan have subsided to the point where our involvment is less than it is currently. Serving our nation in the uniformed services is highly commendable, especially when the likelihood of serving in a combat zone is present. Ask your family for its moral support and prayers and keep vigilant. Remember, that one's life can be taken in a variety of circumstances. Fate and destiny are beyond our mortal reach.
Speaking only for myself, you, your baby, and your husband will be in my prayers.

Answer 4

When I joined the Marines and had to leave for 3 months for boot camp, my wife stayed with her parents. Then I came home for 10 days and had to leave for 8 weeks for the School of Infantry. During this time my wife was still at her parents. Then I came home for 9 days before leaving for ten months for our deployment to Iraq, during that time, she stayed at my parents.

By her always staying with family, she had a live-in support system. Also, with you having a baby, you will need even more help.

I say go stay with your parents. Y'all will be able to save money that way too.

Do you live in the Austin area?

Answer 5

If you don't want him to go tell him you don't want him to go. Overall it is his choice, but let him know if you are adamantly against it.

I don't want to scare you but the other people seem more for it so I'll be the counterpoint. I know a guy who joined the guard (MO) and was sent to active twice. He was fine and he's back now, but at first he was gone before his son was born and then for part of his son's young life. He made the commitment before he knew his wife was pregnant.

He might not have to go anywhere, but i certainly wouldn't want to miss part of my child's young life.

Answer 6

Being military myself I agree with the person suggesting he enlist in the Navy. He would have more benefits, less likely at this time to see extended combat, you would receive a livable income and a paid education while in and after discharge.

Answer 7

He must be realizing that age 21 is too young to be tied down with a wife and family. This might be his only chance to see some of the world. Let him go.

Answer 8

He'll be gone for basic training, and required to serve one weekend a month.

If your concerned he'll be called for active duty, that's always a possibility.

It may be frightening, but serving your country is a noble and honorable endeavor.

Answer 9

Well, you already have one strike against you by getting knocked up as a teenager, wouldn't it be even nicer to deal with that alone while your husband is off in Iraq or Afghanistan for two years at a time?

The theory of the National Guard is that it is part-time service, but these days, given the current situation, it is extremely likely that anyone in the National Guard is going to get called up for active duty. Many have already and continue to be.

Answer 10

a lot of young mothers go home to their parents when Dads away
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