I have been dating the most wonderful man who has now become my fiance for 4 years. He has respected my wishes to wait until we are married to "do the dee" but we are now engaged and I am wondering if now is a good time . . . would God disagree?
2007-04-12 16:13:14 · 22 answers · asked by JJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's been 6 years for me, we are finally getting married. Trust me, WAIT. If you're Christian then the answer of would God approve is no. If you're not it's still no but you might not know that yet :-).
2007-04-13 01:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Chester M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to go by what God wants, then yes he would disagree if you don't wait. It shows a lot about a person when they're able to wait even if they have the opportunity. It also shows what kind of guy he is that he's respecting what you want. You've waited this long, so just wait till you're married. You may be proud of yourself that you were able wait when most don't. I'm 20 and waiting till I'm married, and I'm happy that I'm strong enough to do that (I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 1/2 years).
2007-04-12 20:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mekana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine what you wrote became rather attractive and that i favor there have been better adult males like you! i actually am a 23 twelve months old lady virgin and ive instructed myself that i might want to a minimum of wait until eventually i'm in love - i favor i ought to fulfill a male virgin in his 20s yet there doesn't seem that many! My suggestion to try to be to seek out females who're also virgins - dont get infatuated by using a woman who has already lost her virginity because in a lengthy time period which will come to annoy you no matter if you imagine it doesn't worry you presently - and in the adventure that your destiny spouse is a virgin it is going to likely be so much better particular - your bond will be so much better more suitable - you doesn't might want to fret about each and each and every of the adult males in her previous etc. As on your individuals if any of them say you're stupid only ignore about them because the very reality of the remember is they're stupid yet they're going to comprehend this in 10/20 years time at the same time as they're inmiserable marriages with females who were sluts in extreme college! You sound like an honourable guy - please stay that way - if a woman fairly loves you she will be in a position to no longer rigidity you.
2016-11-23 16:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by mondoza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WARNING Personal Opinion to follow:
I personally believe that God is a big picture kind of guy. He has a lot (and arguably more important things) to worry about than your virginity. He hopes that you are making good decisions and being the best person you can be and maybe even giving back to thing world while you are here.
I feel like if you focus on that then a just and loving God will be OK with you.
If you are living this life as though you are filling out a check (or don't check) list of the things you need to do or be to go to heaven than I think you may be missing the point.
2007-04-13 06:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by St. Judy's comet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have waited 4 years now whats a few months?? i mean he should be able to wait and actually be satisfied that all your waiting was worth until your wedding date. If you dont then why did u wait in the first place. ANd with your second question that "will god be mad?" the catholic church says that you should wait for you wedding night because its a way of truly giving yourself to you husband and only him. a fiance is not the same as your husband. Hope i haven't confused you only made your beliefs stronger.
2007-04-12 16:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by KARLA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would stay a virgin until you are married, because I get the feeling that if you do become intimate now that you are engaged you would feel alot of guilt. So, you waited this long, stay a virgin, and you will feel wonderful on your wedding night that you waited.
2007-04-12 16:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all up to you, personally i believe that GOD loves us all the same, and he forgives us for our sins, no matter what they are. it all depends on how you feel about the situation. if your man loves you, truely loves you, then he will not have any problem waiting if that is your wish. but don't let this little problem get in the way of what really matters, your love for each other. he has already made a big commitment by showing how much he cares, without having that. in todays world, that really says something....my personal opinion; i say wait and make it something to really remember....any way you go, make it special! good luck on your wedding! im getting married in 15 days!
2007-04-12 16:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by mrs smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is against the Bible if you had sex without marriage. If I were you, you must not do that. If your fiance loves you, he will wait for you to be married. And I guess he loves you because he waited for 4 years and how much more a few? Sex doesn't make a good relationship.
2007-04-12 16:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been given great advise above.
I believe its a precious gift for husband, and a fiance is not a husband. If the engagement was called off you'd be used merchandise. You've waited this long, may as well wait!
2007-04-12 22:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by Maria S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why such a long engagement and whether or not now is a good time depends on your values and since he has respected your wishes this long why now rush into a act that in the Bible,written by God is reserved for marriage. If you wish to know if God would disagree then tead in the bible what God says about it.
2007-04-12 16:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋