Am I Depressed?

Question

Am I depressed? Lately, I've been crying in class for no reason, I feel as if I'm not wanted by my family and friends. There were a couple days where it got so bad I started crying because I wanted to die. Only one person seems to understand and I don't even know him very well! Am I depressed?

Answer 1

Never, my friend! You are NOT DEPRESSED. What you are is IN-PRESSED, if I am allowed to coin the word to describe your situation. Everybody of us has a thirst for the INFINITE BEING within. This thirst gets manifested on the level of the body as YOUTH (I will not use the word 'sex'). On the level of the mind it gets manifested in a miriad forms, spontaneous impulse to cry being one. This is LOVE at the pure spiritual level, which eventually and usually finds its direction toward the opposite sex, only to discover that that is also not the totality of the solution. Actually, you need not look for a solution. Rather, feel the importance of the problem, if you ever want to call it so. Just look at the problem. T5hat will make you exceptionally wise. I see something special in you. But please don't tell anubody about it, unless she/he is very close to you. It would be better if you didn't tell anybody about the fact that all this is a sign of something special. Doctors will make you mad by showing you their certificates. Here is a little help:

The Death of Sorrows

The Value of Sorrows

What’s happiness? Nobody can define. That’s not because it can’t be defined but because it can’t be defined in a common language. Still everybody believes that they can be happy in their own ways. Hopefully, it’s enough for one to feel that one is happy. And one can say that one is happy when one feels so.

What’s sorrow? This also nobody can define. And observations similar to the ones expressed above are also relevant to this case. But, though it might seem weird to many, unhappiness exists mainly because of our inability to define it. For one who has learned to define it in the right way, it either becomes a source of happiness or gets transformed into a capability that leads to happiness. Unhappiness is a gift. Fortunately, there’s nobody on earth that has not been endowed with it. But, unfortunately, most of us hardly ever happen to perceive its real worth.

The fact that you are unhappy implies that you could be happier. The fact that you are unhappy suggests that you should not be happy with the small things that you have now. The fact that you are unhappy shows that events of small happiness can no longer satisfy you. The presence of unhappiness indicates the possibility of the absence of many limitations in your real being from which you seem to be suffering now. If there were no unhappiness, you would remain satisfied with small, meaningless things. So unhappiness is rather welcome than rejected.

Causes of Sorrows

As I have already said and implied, sorrows are, in most cases, determined by the way we look at our inability and weakness and happiness is determined by the way we look at our ability and strength.

If we had no weakness or inability, we could fulfill our desires and be satisfied. There would, as we think, be no sorrows. So instead of looking at the desires, let's look at our idea of weakness and inability. Let me inspire you by saying in advance that we can transform our weakness and inability in an instant, probably in the time of a snap. And you don't need to do anything for that. What could you possibly do within a second or two? Or at best an hour? Nothing important. So don't think of preparing to do anything. Rather, be prepared to learn that you can't escape success and happiness  that's because you can't escape change and your fate is going to be changed the very moment you change your knowledge of yourself!

It's self-help service. So try doing it yourself. And that you must.

Your weakness and inability must die. They can't live long. You can kill them even before their normal death. But to do that you must find them out first.

I have asked many people about their weaknesses. My question was: "What's the inability that has become the biggest cause of your sorrows?" Different people have
answered in different words. Some have replied, "My biggest inability is that I can't eat a lot. I can't digest some of the things that I like most." Some have said, "My biggest inability is that I can't earn a lot of money." Some others have said, "I can't memorize much material. That's the main cause of my grief." Still others have complained, "I'm sorry that I can't be the leader of my organization/country."

I've also found some replies like, "I wish I could win others' minds by esoteric powers. My mind won't find rest till I've achieved a lot of power of that sort."
Alas, my dear reader, no one has expressed their grief saying, "I feel sad because I can't make somebody smile." What would it sound like if somebody felt their inability in a different way that would make them say, "I wish I could rather be easily attracted than vainly try to attract others." A group of people might also complain, "I'm sorry that I'm unable to sacrifice more than I usually do."

What you're looking at determines what weakness and inability you'll discover in you. If you have an intention to walk on water, you'll discover yourself to be inferior to a fish. If you have an intention to fly in the sky, you'll discover yourself to be inferior to a bird. If, likewise, you are obsessed by the desire to eat a quintal of food, you'll see that you're far too inferior to a hippo.

Yes, we should try to find out more and more of the inabilities that we have. So we must have more and more intentions in the mind. The mystery about discovering weakness and inability is that if the right weakness is simply discovered, a lot of strength and capability is automatically achieved. And another truth about the knowledge of weakness is that the mere discovery of one basic weaknesses and inabilities removes some secondary weaknesses and inabilities and strengthens the mind and intelligence.

The End of Sorrows

Your intention discloses your weakness. Your feeling of weakness makes you feel sad. So you can change the whole world within yourself simply by looking at the range of your intentions and changing them if necessary or understanding them anew. Just sit for a while with the balance sheet of your intentions.

 What have you always wanted to do?

 To get a good degree?
 To influence others?
 To make money?
 To attract others' attention?
 To buy a lot of land and . . .?

 And what have you always wanted to be?

 An enemy to your friends? Surely not.

 An oppressor of people working under your supervision? Certainly not.

 A worshipper of money and wealth in such a way that you happen to be a cause of suffering to others? I guess not.

 A famous person in front of whom others will consider themselves mere ants and flies? Probably not.

If not, then you're going to get whatever your heart needs to be happy, and if yes, you're going to change instantly

so that you can be yourself and get whatever your heart needs to be happy.
Again, what have you wanted to be? Sad? Certainly not. Still you have been very sad and dissatisfied all through your life.

What have you wanted to be? Angry and upset? No, you haven't. Yet you've often found yourself to be so.

What have you wanted to be? Rude? No. But, unfortunately, you've happened to be so three or more times a day.

My friend, you've wanted to do many things but haven't been able to. Now you're sad. And you haven't consciously wanted to be certain things but you have discovered yourself to be so somehow or other. And now you're sad.

When we become what we have never consciously wanted to become we become the wrong person to ourselves. You can't escape being something or other. So it's wise to consciously want to be the right person.

You've always wanted to have something. How often have you wanted to be something and not something else?

You've wanted to have money or degrees, but how often have you wanted to be rich? Surely, to be rich is much more than to have money and degrees. So why not desire for the thing that's greater? If you do, then you will certainly get the right things, including those things that will also make you materially rich.

You've always feared to lose something. How often have you thought that in this process you're unknowingly getting and storing something that you wouldn't otherwise even collect under a tree for free? And at the same time, worse still, you're losing something that, only after losing it, you discover to be important to help you keep the things that you didn't want to lose.

I've seen people who haven't wanted to lose money after getting it. They have worked heart and soul to keep it and even to increase it. They have looked at money so intently that their idea of value has changed. In the course of time, they have happened to pick up and store some things that they didn't consciously want to  rudeness, anger, fear, anxiety, enemy, insomnia, and restlessness. The consequence has been very undesirable but foreseeable  high blood pressure, diabetes, back pain, chest pain, acidity, weakness, depression, headache, heart problems, and many more. Also, they have lost the things that they had never wanted to lose  children, spouse, relatives, friendship, rest, confidence, trust, steadiness of the mind, emotional intelligence, health, the clarity of understanding, sound sleep, the ability to get pleasure, and, ironically, money and fame and convenience at last, the things that goaded them into indulging in so much mental as well as physical activity. They have lost what they got and wanted to store safely, only because of their getting it!

The entire life is a collection of transactions  an open business. Here if you get something consciously, you also get something else unconsciously with it and have to lose something consciously and also lose something more unconsciously. Suppose you want to buy a costly watch. Then you'll have to lose some money. With the watch you'll also get some things, both positive and negative  personality, beauty, convenience and pleasure; fear of losing it, the furtive glance of the thief, the envy of your fellow people, etc. With the money you'll also have to lose some things  a feeling of security, alternative possibilities of using the money, any possibility of misusing or losing it, and so on.

Our concept of getting and giving is often confused with our concept of gaining and losing. Getting something doesn't necessarily assure you of gaining something. Remember that getting is the most superficial level of any transaction. You can get anything  money, fame, or deception. So if you look at getting, you'll lose a lot because of your unawareness of some things. And you can be unaware of some things only because you're much too aware of something else.

On the contrary, you can't gain anything easily. You gain only what is positive and promising. So if you concentrate on gaining, you'll automatically know what you should get and what you should lose, to what extent in each ease. You can get any material thing, but you can only gain your own life and self, which includes satisfaction, personality, and love.

Losing, by the same token, must not be equated with giving. The mere fact that you give something away doesn't necessarily imply that you lose it. You can give sorrows as well as happiness. So you must be careful about it. What you'll get will be determined by what you give. And you must not forget that you can lose no other than yourselfyour won happiness, personality, and love.

Now we can look back at sorrows and happiness. Happiness is the state of mind arising out of one's feeling of the concept of gain. If you gain the right thing, you'll be happy. If, on the contrary, you don't look forward to gaining the right thing, you'll be unhappy even after getting many of your coveted things. Sorrow, on the other hand, is the state of the mind arising out of one's feeling of the concept of loss. If you have lost the valuable things and haven't been aware of it, you'll never be happy. If, on the contrary, you don't lose anything even after giving away a lot, you'll be happy because then you can't but gain the right thing.

What you will gain or lose depends on what you are prepared to give and take. What you will consciously and unconsciously give and take depends on what you think your ability and inability are. And your feeling of inability and ability will be according to what you're looking at. If you discover that you are weak enough to do great things that would be beneficial to others and if you feel sad for this inability, then your capabilities will increase tremendously. So if you feel that you have some specific capabilities, then instantly dig into your mind to discover what great incapability you have. Your capabilities will increase and be really effective only when you have a greater and nobler feeling of incapability. Unless you desire to be of use to others, all other desires of yours will grow up into herbs and shrubs, not perennial trees.

Source:
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Answer 2

i am fourteen years old and i felt exactly the same, don't worry about thinking you are depressed because your not, your just going through hormonal changes or you are just going through a rough patch.
You seriously need to talk to someone about this, don't talk to a counsoler, talk to someone you can trust, like your parents, a friend, a teacher, somebody who can sort out any problems you have.
I was feeling exaclty the same, some time ago, all I was doing was sitting in my bedroom thinking I was unwanted, when my dad came in and asked me what was the matter. I told him all my problems and I cried a lot but he eventually helped me through it. Now i'm feeling much better and you should do the same.

really hope you feel better soon.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you're going thru this. It's a cold world out there and I can relate to what you're going thru. I'm not close to my family either and when you have little or no family ties, you're afraid everyone thinks there's something wrong with you if you can't be close to your family. (i.e. like it's your fault) Well it's not your fault. What you might find helpful is to figure out a hobby you might be interested in. I find that's the best and healthiest way to meet other people who you have interests in common with. Even joining some kind of organization or group(?)I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Ok...I know you've probably already thought of doing this but here goes anyway. Talk to your family. ANY of them. Let them know you are having these feelings. These feelings of wanting to die do worry me and I feel sure that your family will feel the same way. I am also a mom. My heart goes out to you and hope that you talk with your mom, dad, siblings..whatever you have to do to gather the courage to talk to them..please do. For yourself if for nothing else. I'm sure that they will be able to help you and even have a better family life as well.

Answer 5

hey u .. every1 goes through this stage sometime in there lives, its ok to cry ,even scream , if it helps ok but what u need to do is find yourself . when the world turn their backs on u just remember god still care about u.dont say u want to die cause theirs so much more to life.get out more, smile more , enter a competition or get active in sports -it will take ur mind of things , just dont give up ! sounds like ur realy depressed but smile n deal with ur problems head on ok!

Answer 6

What age are you? High school? The hormonal changes a body goes through during puberty can sometimes trip off or be tripped off by temporary blood sugar imbalances. Blood sugar imbalances can cause emotional changes, and problems.

Check out www.hufa.org, especially the symptoms link. If you suspect hormonal/blood sugar problems, then start watching your diet for excess sugar or foods that turn quickly into sugar. By cutting down/out on those foods, your body may rebalance. It can take a few weeks though. But it is long-term worth it.

If you just need someone to listen, feel free to e-mail me through my profile.

Answer 7

it sounds like you might be suffering from depression. You need to take a step back and look at what has been happening around you.
Has there been a major event in your life? A traumatic event? Hormones? If in doubt it never hurts to seek help

Answer 8

I would recommend going immediately to your guidance office and ask for help. They can likely find a doctor in your area who can talk with you. It sounds like you definitely need a professional to talk to...and that's not bad. I believe everyone at some point in their life needs counseling. Then the doctor can ascertain whether you truly are depressed and need medication, or if it can be treated through regular talk sessions. Either way you are being smart and proactive about your wellbeing. Good for you...and please get help for yourself!

Answer 9

Always remember this.You are a child of the Most High God.No matter what you or anyone else thinks.You are a vital part of this world.Dying will not solve your problems.You have your whole life ahead of you.Trust me,better days are ahead of you.There is no problem you can encounter that God will not guide you through.

Answer 10

oh sweetheart i think u r, please seek help...let your family know and have them take u to a therapist

and whatever happens DON'T HURT YOURSELF things will be al right trust me

and tell ur mommy to get u good quality vitamin B supplements like B12 and/or multi B plus take fish oil rich in EFA and omega

and surround urself by good FUN people
u'll be fine

Answer 11

i would think so dear...assuming there are no other stressors of course...or it may be your period, not sure how old u r