my boyfriend is seventeen and his guardian is making him join the military he doesnt want to what can i do?

Question

their also making him drop out of high school
and from what ive been told their only doing it cause they dont want to take care of him anymore please if you have any comments pleaze reply as soon as possible he was told this all yesterday and that he will leave in about a month pleaze help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 1

Check with some legal advisers, No one can make you enlist
unless you are drafted by the selective service. Talk to a lawyer an get a new guardian. A day in court could be worth it.
Also check with the Father Flanagans, Boys Town website for their National Hot Line, they will answer any questions and help solve any problems you may have. THIS MAY BE THE
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Answer 2

Well honestly if they are making him join and they dont want to take care of him anymore, it might be the best thing for him.. At least someone would care about him then.. If he drops out of school he can not join without a GED for one, and he has to sign the papers somewhere along the line, I dont think they can just sign for him.. A smart recruiter is not going to do this anyway, so dont stress and tell him that the Military is HIS choice not thiers.... good luck

Answer 3

Well, simple common sense coming a random guy, i'll tell you the first thoughts that come to my mind.

A) He's exaggerating his situation; he's making his situation out to be worse than it really is because he's trying to get pity points from you...the more you feel bad for him and think he's in a tough situation, the more punani he gets...lol.

B) He probably did something so bad...(like cheat on you with his cousin) that his family doesn't even want him around anymore...he probably did something so bad that he can't even tell you WHY his parents don't want to care for him anymore.

C) He peronally feels like a P*ssy in life and that his life is soo easy that it makes him feel better about himself when others think his life is harder than it really is... classic wannabe struggler....basically he's a momma's boy who wants to be able to tell his kids that he had to work hard for where he got in life...so he makes his own situation "seem" tougher than it really is...

D) His school grades suck and his parents told him if he keeps it up, he'll be going to the military...he got his spoiled panties in a bunch and decided to make his parents look bad by talking **** about them to you.

It's probably something close to one of those choices...He doesn't have to do anything he doesn't want to. At seventeen, his parents can't MAKE him join the military...he's the one that has to sign...this isn't military school...it's THE MILITARY...slight difference...If his parents are ready to kick him out because he's an ungrateful f*ck up with bad grades and no job, then the military would be a good thing for him, but they can't make him. If he's getting kicked out, then the military may be his only choice next to being homeless or mooching off of you. The military happens to be a good thing for practically everybody. Your boyfriend, like anyone can benefit from it.

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P.S. I just read your question again and you said guardien instead of parents...that makes things different. I know many more f*cked up guardiens than f*cked up parents.

maybe his guardien is a real bastard, but until he's eighteen, the guardien has to keep him in school. Can't make him drop out. Again, the guardien can't make him join the military. It has to be his choice...which wouldn't be a bad choice.

If he doesn't have any parents than I apologize for my first statements A, B, C, D. But again, his guardien could be doing the right thing and your boyfriend is making it into something it's not. Dig a little deeper.

Answer 4

No one can't make him Join the Military ,he has to do that on his own free will.They also can not make him drop out of school if he is under 18.If he won't tell someone you need to go in the morning to your School counsel and tell him or her what you just told us.They will investigate and try and help him out.

Answer 5

Tell him not to sign up, he cannot be forced. He has to sign the recruiting papers himself. If he refuses to sign he cannot join. Plus he has to be 18 to join. Same with leaving school, he should get to his counselors office right away and tell them he does not want to drop out. Are there friends he can live with until he graduates. Noone can be forced into these things.

Answer 6

Um, your boyfriend can't be forced to join the military or drop out of high school. All he has to do is refuse to sign the dotted line and continue going to school! It sounds like he's consenting to these acts.

Answer 7

He can't be forced to join the military. He needs to contact the authorities and turn his guardians in.

Meanwhile, if I were him, I'd hire a lawyer and sue for emancipation. Once emancipated, he can pretty much decide for himself.

Answer 8

I could be wrong, but I believe you have to be 18 to join the military and you have to sign yourself in.

Your boyfriend's guardian cannot make him sign up. He's not old enough.

Answer 9

umm he cant drop out then go in the military.........unless he gets a GED first, and if he doesnt want to go he can just fail the GED test or the ASVAB lol (j/k) he needs to call social services if they are FORCING him to do it. he has to sign the papers himself and usualy the recruiter insists on talking to them alone, if that happens all he has to do is tell the recruiter i dont want in they are making me....voila nothing signed they cant send him anywhere

Answer 10

You can't force anyone to enlist in the military.

You could ask him to tell the truth.

He's joining because he wants to and he's blaming the guardian so you won't blame HIM.