Suicide!!!?

Question

My frined who's in 7th grade just told me she hated life, her family and have tried to kill herself 6 times. she told me if i told i told anyone she was going to like freak out and kill herself sooner. i freaked out. i'm confused. she slits, i didn't know that and she hates the school counsler, i'm a 9th grader and scared to death. ADVICE!

Answer 1

Well you are going to have to decide between your heart and your head, cause you know in your heart she needs help right.. and you know if you tell she is going to be mad..
Alot of time people do and say this to get attention, she has tried so many times that I would to be scared.. She is not going to overcome this if it is the way you feel, you need to break down and decide who you need to tell to get her the help she needs and hope they take you serious.. You dont want your friend to do this I know that.. and you dont want to see her hurt anymore.. I think you might being calling her a slitter and in my age they are called cutters, I had a freind that did this, and I had to stop being friends with her, it was to much on me and my family and she didnt want anyone to know.. She went to a treatment place and got the help she needed.. and now we are friends again.. I didnt turn my back on her she just would not see that it was wrong.. God I sure dont know what to say other then as a parent I would want my kids to tell me this if it was them or a friend.. good luck sweetie... and hope this helped a little bit

Answer 2

Hold the phone!

I cannot say with absolute certainty she's lying to you, but I can say everything I know and have experienced tells me your friend is jerking your chain. I'm not saying to ignore her but I'm telling you to keep a level head when she makes her claims.

She's in 7th grade, which tells me she's probably 12 or 13 yrs old and she claims she's attempted suicide 6 times before.

I've attempted suicide 11 times and I am 38 yrs old. First, if she for each suicide attempt she would spend a minimum of one week in the psych ward. After being released, she would be watched closely, and even more closely for each subsequent attempt. Even if her parents are clueless and negligent, her teachers and other adult authorities would watch her like a hawk for signs she might be depressed or suicidal. My experience is that for at least six months or more the person who attempted suicide is driven nearly crazy by well meaning people who critique every "odd" mood or behavior after an attempt. The person is smoothered nearly to death by people who want to protect her or prevent it. Given this information... she would have had to started her first attempt at around age 9 or 10. If a child of that age attempts suicide they're watched doubly even triple fold more intensely. Add to that if a child is attempting suicide that often at that age, the authorities get involved, usually with court order to investigate the family life.

I don't buy it. If she were threatening suicide, no matter her age and were giving me sufficient signs that she might in the least bit be serious, I'd report her to a school councellor or call 911 and let her freak out. If she's pulling your chain as I suspect, she might learn from the experience that suicide threats wont get her the desired reaction and if she's NOT pulling your chain, she will get the help she needs.

Answer 3

Hello. First this person sounds like she has no perspective. Tell her to think about how selfish suicide is. Tell her to think about all the people out there who live pis*-poor lives and don't kill themselves. Tell her that she could have depression. That or she is just throwing a fit to get some attention like a small bratty child. If she still talks about it tell someone who can help her. She may hate the counsler but think. Would you feel worse if she were to pout about it or if she spilled her blood all over her room.

Answer 4

the fact that she told you and that she has tried six times really seems like a call for help. if she were 100% done with life she would have tried once and suceeded. act quickly though she may be just warming up for when she really can't take anymore. seek advice from any mental health facilities in your area. your best bet is to try to get her in a psych ward where she be on watch 24/7.

Answer 5

First you need to calm down. Second tell your friend that you care about her too much to just let her die. Third tell her Beg her to call one of these numbers fast 1-800-784-2433 that is the national suicide hot line or tell her to call 1-800-394-4673 this is known as the Hope line and they will tell her important things that could save her life! Forth remember that you cant control her if she does go through with suicide its NOT YOUR FAULT. You need to tell your parents EVERYTHING and NOW!! Even if she told you not to be sure to tell your parents that too. God Bless and good luck

Answer 6

It sounds like your friend is committing parasuicide, which means it's a cry for help. If she really wanted to kill herself it wouldn't have taken 6 attempts. Your friend needs counseling. You can always submit an anonymous note to a school counselor or her parents that she appears to be in danger.

Answer 7

You need to tell someone, she needs professional help and fast, if you don't she will end up killing herself sooner or later so you haven't got much to lose and save yourself from years of guilt and regret.

Answer 8

Believe me, she is not going to freak out and kill herself if you tell someone, so do it, she needs help and you can not provide this for her.

Answer 9

You being just a child yourself, and although your intention would be to help her, confide in a parent, teacher or school counselor.

She's too young herself to understand whats she is doing. Suicide is forever. She needs help fast.

Answer 10

Good for you for being a good friend.

But you have no choice. . If she really does commit suicide, you will never forgive yourself for not telling her parents. You MUST tell her parents

She definitely needs hospitalization and meds and therapy. But that's for her parents to arrange. Not for you.