i get this A LOT, and i've never found a "proper" or 'miss-manners-friendly" response. i usually respond with an "umm.... thanks?" , which usually just leads to an akward silence, or i just start explaining how not all (or most for that matter) mexicans are short and tan, which i think makes me sound a little too condescending.
2007-04-12 14:02:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know that type of situation can be infuriating. Since you're asking for a polite response, I'll suggest this: just smile and inform them that people of mexican heritage are actually pretty diverse. You don't have to go into detail and sound condescending, just leave it at that. If they ask for more information, you can give it to them, and you could end up educating someone who wasn't meaning to be rude, but just didn't know better.
As for the other replies who encourage you to make a smart-a** or hot-tempered remark back, keep in mind that that kind of reaction could just reinforce a negative stereotype about mexicans.
2007-04-12 14:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by luckylab8 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 05:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband (who was mixed but had a hispanic surname) was alive I used to get this when people met him - one even said "Oh, thank God, I thought you were married to a greasy Mexican!" - I too didn't have a good comeback for such stupidity and rude comments. Years later - now - I'd say : "I know you are not intentionally being rude but that's a very insensitive comment. Please don't say such racist comments around me in the future." The person might be offended but then so was I - and so are you. Don't let them off the hook because they need to be educated. I wouldn't hold it against them - especially if an apology is forthcoming and they don't say/do anything racist in future.
2007-04-13 14:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Santal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they don't look American or whatever nationality they are.....they'll probably get pissed and start telling you not everyone in their race/nationality looks a certain way, blah, blah, blah...then smile, and say, "Yeah, I know...Not all Mexicans look the same either".
P.S. I and a lot of my Mexican friends get this, too. I even get "you don't act Mexican". Have no idea what the heck that means.
2007-04-14 02:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mari76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this remark all too well, and my response to it is, "Really?" I do not take it as a compliment, because it is neither a compliment nor a slur; it is only a show of the person's limited experience with people of different races. I just change the subject with no further response.
2007-04-12 15:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by * 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The proper response is a shocked look. Followed by a change of subject.
A gentler version of Seij D's answer is also good: "I guess you haven't met many Mexicans".
2007-04-12 14:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that people are just blunt and don't know how to act around human beings. I think you're handling it perfectly.
If someone is going to say that you don't *look* like a certain ethnicity then they obviously have a preexisting notion of how members of said ethnicity should appear and that notion needs to be respectfully destroyed.
2007-04-12 14:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My response would be "Well...What is a Mexican supposed to look like?" That's just pure ignorance. Let them know it's offensive, and walk away.
2007-04-12 14:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its a woman .. Ask her when she is due(works especially well if she is not pregnant)
If a guy...comment nicely about the bald spot on the back of his head..Then walk away mumbling something in Spanish.
Good luck
2007-04-12 14:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by .G. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about, "But I am. It's true. I guess you'll just have to redefine what a Mexican looks like."
Or, whisper "Sssssshhh... I'm going incognito today."
Or even just, "I am. It's the truth."
2007-04-12 15:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by thejanith 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋