My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. She's about three months pregnant and we've been trying to figure out where to live. We practically live together the way it is but she lives in a really little apt. She has a prob. with even staying at my house so I always stay there. She has been living with her bf/ cousin for as long as i've known here. I own a 3 bed. mobile home about 20 miles away. She dosnt want to move in with me because its too far away from her home town. It's a 15-20 min. drive from where she's living now. Insted she wants me to either sell my trailer or move it closer to where she lives. The point of living together would be to save money expecially before the baby comes. It would costs over $2,000 to move it. The reason why I got the trailer is because I was sick of renting. But now she's talking about looking at apt. closer to her home town. Her cousin is also gonna live with us untill baby gets here I guess. I cant get through to her. HELP!
2007-04-12 14:02:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like she is a very self-center her way type person.... If she is complaining about a 20 minute drive to see her family something more is wrong here.... She needs to grow up and realize that you have a home for you and her and the baby, leave the cousin at the apartment... 2 families living together under one roof DOES NOT WORK. This i know from experience.... it leads to DIVORCE. You and she should set down and figure out what the real problem is..... If she loves you she will confide in you what her fears are and you can work thru them if not may be you should think of other options.... I know this sounds hard with a baby on the way..... But you need a solid stance on which to build a relationship..... No way should you sell your home, you may need it once the relationship ends. That way you wont be homeless and have to start over and she should realize the value of money and stop her foolishness.....
2007-04-12 14:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by little D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not sell your house, stay where you're at. With her cousin wanting to move in, the problems are just beginning. Her and her cousin can get a place together. You'll have your home and a place to go for peace, away from all the drama that will eventually unfold with her cousin.
2007-04-12 21:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't think of a good solution, but it sounds as if you're offering a good home for a start in your lives.
20 miles isn't very far.. it's not like it's light years away or something.
maybe you could talk about living in the trailer for a certain time period, then selling it at a designated time, and move somewhere closer to town. ask her to please compromise, if only for a while... see if you can come to an agreement. she is being foolish, in my view.
2007-04-12 21:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very selfish. A 20 minute drive is nothing. I suggest next time being more careful about who you pick to mate with. Marriage might be a good idea also since you are playing house, you might as well make it legitimate.
2007-04-12 21:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about renting your trailer out? Use that to cover the payment, then rent something with her. Once the baby's born, it will be better if she's by relatives. They will be able to help with babysitting.
2007-04-12 21:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are about a little tit for tat. I suggest you sell your trailer for her, but you get to make the final decision for what apartment you get.
2007-04-12 21:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Alana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋