I am a newly saved Christian, and seven years ago married my husband, who was married twice before me. Was this God's plan for me? Am I committing adultery?
2007-04-12 13:32:35 · 12 answers · asked by I do 26.2 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I realize that there are Christians of every order here. I have no experience in or knowlege of the tenets of Catholicism or anything else that isn't just plain old ordinary, "accept Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will have eternal life" type of Christianity.
You said newly saved, so I presume you accepted Christ as lord of your life.
In this case (non-Catholic, etc. because rules and ordinances vary therein), you have not committed adultery. now whether that was God's plan for your life or not is irrelevant at this point, because God doesn't arbitrarily dissolve marriages because of a person's (or couple's) past.
God plan is now that you two obey him about marriage, family, a godly household, etc. in all things.
He may have something more specific in mind, but you would have to ask God--individually, and as a couple/family.
If this troubles you still, please take it to God in prayer or continue to do so.
You should also verify this with your pastor, as things vary from denomination to denomination.
If you have no pastor or church home, there are many ministries I support that answer questions. You could email me, and I would do what i am able.
Hope I helped! God bless you!
2007-04-12 14:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Committing Adultery in my opinion is when two people are married and one or both step out on the marriage. If they get a divorce then that stops that relationship as a unit. The only way that you would be committing adultery is if you stepped out on this marriage. As for it being God's plan for you that is something that you need to find within your heart and soul. I do believe that everything happens for a reason. Weither it is God directing your life or someother force I don't know, you just have to live your life the best way you know how. Try to live as close to the expectations that God has for us. He is a very forgiving God so you will be OK!!!
2007-04-12 21:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends here. Many Christians are divorced and remarried.
In Jewish law - which is what Jesus is talking about - you could not remarry unless you got a Jewish divorce or your spouse died. And even then it would be seen as adultery.
I believe it is only adultery if you left a marriage that was ordained by God (based on love) for a marriage based in worldly pleasure.
That was what I was taught when a Christian. Hopefully others can bring more light to this issue. Also, some would say that since you were not Christian when married you wouldn't be held accountable to his past marriages because you would have sinned without understanding.
2007-04-12 20:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's first wife left him for another man. The Bible accepts adultery as grounds to dissolve a marriage. Sometimes the first person we marry is not the right choice, and is not the person God wants us to be with. It is more important to be in line with God's plan for your life. If your husband is the man God set aside for you, and if the two of you are "equally yoked", I see no problem.
2007-04-12 20:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this in this forum?
Can't your church provide a satisfactory answer?
If your husband lost his 2 wives in death, then death ends a marriage.
If he was divorced, it depends on the reason for the divorce.
The only acceptable grounds biblically, is adultry.
Did he adulterate?
Did either, or both of his previous wives adulterate?
Mind you, if it wasn't a biblical divorce, once the 2 of you did "it" then adultery was had.
Anyway you look at it, your marriage is legal in God's eyes, right or wrong.
2007-04-12 20:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
excuse me while I bang my head on the keyboard.
I think it's clear that if God had a plan for you, this is it. Regardless of what you call "this", this is all there is, and it's yours. Unless you're doing the pool boy, you are not committing adultery.
2007-04-12 20:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - how can you be? You are married to him.
Adultery is when you are having an affair when you are not actually married to that person or outside your own marriage!
2007-04-12 20:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by fijibabie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to the bible, your husband is committing adultery because you are not his first wife.
2007-04-12 20:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Islam has no such issues with remarriages at all. It actually encourages all singles to get married.
2007-04-12 20:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by HM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you're committing adultery.
If you are faithful to your husband, then no. If you aren't faithful, then yes.
2007-04-12 20:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋