Found out boyfriend is cheating...don't know how to bring it up.?

Question

I found out my boyfriend is cheating because I have his e-mail password (he doesn't know) and he's been going on dates with a girl. He acts like everything is perfect between us, there is nothing wrong with us right now so I don't know how to bring this up and break up with him when we're having no problems. I can't tell him I checked his email
Any ideas on how to break it off?

Answer 1

Just tell him you know he's cheating, and it's over. If he asks how you know, tell him you found out from reliable sources that you don't care to share, and that you don't owe him any explanation beyond that. He should be the one trying to do some explaining, not demanding that YOU do some explaining.

Answer 2

F**K THAT! You say what you gotta say! Dont waste anymore time being polite and playing a role, confront him and end it. If you plan on staying with him knowing all this, then you are dumb and shouldn't bring it up. If you're going to bail because he's a liar/loser, then who cares if he knows you saw his e mail. He'll just be angry that he got caught and try to turn it around on YOU. Make YOU feel bad/guilty for sneaking into the e mail. Then it'll turn into a whole thing like, "Well who cares if I saw your e mail if you have nothing to hide.." and on and on.
DONT STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS CHEATED. You will never trust him properly and fully again, so why waste your time, love and energy. He'll undoubtedly do it again, since he knows he can get away with it and you have no self respect to have gotten out.

Answer 3

catch him in the act. If they are emailing each other about it then next time you see them planning another date don't say anything. Happen to be in that same place or around that place at the same time (when he thinks you are going to be doing something else) catch him in the act. Yell at him, kick him in the nuts for cheating, and end it. That's what I'd do lol. I don't know all the details so I don't know if this will work for you, but that's the best I could come up with based on what I do know. Goodluck.

Answer 4

Well if he cheated on I would say there is something wrong with the relationship. I would confront him and tell him you know about his dates. Maybe don't tell him how you know but give him enough details to be sure that he knows you know whats going on. Then you can either dump him or tell him to break it off or whatever you feel you need to do. I just wouldn't ignore it. That will only make things worse.

Answer 5

He cheated on you, you don't owe him an explanation as to how you found out.

But if you are bound and determined to give an excuse, why not find out when the next date will be and ask if he wants to go out with you. When he makes up an excuse catch him in the lie by going to wherever he says he is going to be...he's not there...grounds for a break up.
Don't forget to get the girls email and email her anonymously that she isn't the only one.

Answer 6

He is the one who is doing wrong, you don't have to justify how you found out the information. Confront him without him knowing you have hard evidence - there are a lot of way you could have found out, and he knows it. Take great satisfaction in being the one to dump him. He may claim she "doesn't mean anything", but a cheater is a cheater, and you can do much better. Do get checked for STDs, the harsh reality is he could have given you one.

Answer 7

Im sort of in the same situation too and i know exactly how you feel. I found out my bf's myspace, which he never told me about, and i saw that he's with another girl. And he doesnt know that i know. They've been sending comments to each other. And thats how i found out he's cheating on me. Its really weird, because he acts perfectly normal most of the times and its hard to suspect he's actually cheating, without me finding out his myspace. But now when i think about it, it all makes sense to me why he's been not really talking to me much lately because he claims he's busy... However, when i on purposely asked if he's actually avoiding me, because rarely talks to me now, he tells me he doesnt intend to do that... Anyway, I found this out about a month ago and i have no idea how to tell this to him at all so, im stuck with all this misery, knowing he's cheating on me, yet im still with him. Right now, i feel like i want to break up with him, but a part of me thinks that maybe im wrong about my assumptions. But i've been leaning more towards breaking up with him because i keep on thinking negative things about him.

Just simply dump him if you feel that you really know for sure he's cheating on you. If you feel guilty about knowing his pw to his email and how you snooped up on his emails, just dont bother telling him. Just say you want to break up with him. Or if you do plan on telling him exactly everything you did to find out he's cheating on you, it wont matter because the whole point is that he was lying to you.

Answer 8

He is cheating on you and you are afraid to say you checked his emails!!!! Don't let him walk over you like that. Tell him one of your friends saw him out with another girl. That will start a problem yall seem to be lacking. Then the rest comes naturally. Good Luck and make sure not to take him back when he asks!!

Answer 9

Just call him up one day (I like the phone b/c it's cheap and spontaneous, you know, you can just call and be all angry and not have to bring it up in regular situations, thus avoiding some awkwardness) Tell him you know he's cheating and that you're breaking up. If he asks how you know, don't tell him. It's none of his business, he's the one who screwed up. Or, if you're a good liar, lie about how you found out.

Answer 10

His cheating is far worse than you hacking into his email. I'd probably print out the emails and show them to him. If he's living with you, have all his stuff packed at the door ready for him to go. Unless he's paying the rent then just pack all of your stuff while he's gone and leave. Put the copies of those emails on the front door.