She accused me of calling dept of child welfare on her... at first he believed her then he said I could not do such a thing! Now she said I called her job and had her fired! I told him that you can't get fired by one phone call. He said that it sounded very convincing to him. He said he was going to investagate himself and get to the bottom of this.. The problem is that employers can not give any information... How can I convince him that I did not do this...BTW his mother and father believe me! I love him him so and I know he loves me. He has been with her for 7 years... His Mom says he is in an abusive relationship in reverse!
2007-04-12 13:18:17 · 8 answers · asked by dawndelight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're letting his ex control your emotions.
don't pay attention to her. focus on YOU and your life.
you don't need to be involved, or discuss it, or worry over it. she has a problem, and it doesn't belong to you.
if your boyfriend doesn't believe you, then he has trust issues... i guess you and him do need to iron those out.
an abusive relationship isn't always on account of the man abusing the woman... there are plenty of women out there who abuse their spouses daily.....by the way.
take care of YOU... and i hope it works out. i guess i didn't have very good advice, but i hate to see someone consumed with worry and anger over a person who is obviously a little bit whacky.
2007-04-12 13:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that curious about what his ex said, tell him to grow up. You care deeply about him and would never do those things. You can only go so far in convincing someone that you've told the truth. If he still doesn't believe you, it may be time to get out of the relationship. You don't need him causing you misery as well as his ex. Maybe he and his ex deserve each other.
2007-04-12 13:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you actually said "you can't get fired by one phone call" then that clearly sounds like an admission to calling her employer. If you did that then you are WRONG! I know for many women it is extremely difficult to remain neutral I expect if you don't successfully find a way to do so in this relationship you will soon be the one on the outside looking in.
2007-04-12 13:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well..........that is something you have to think well.
How come he doesnt believe you?
If you are really innocent about all that, and he knows his ex......well........then the problem is not his ex......the problem is himself.
How come if he knows her well...he still trust her?
What about you??? It seems he doesnt trust you. So............that is not love.
Love is to support the other in all the ways. If he is doubting about your truth......then dear, the best thing you can do is leave him alone.
He is believing what he wants believe.
Dont try to convince him.....he has to arrive to the result and to the true by himself, without preasures.
If in 7 years he didnt learn how to know his ex....then he is not a mature guy.
Are you sure that you want to share your life with a guy that dont believe you??
Think about it.
By the way.......I know that my reply is not what you wanted to hear..........sorry dear....but it is the true,
Good luck
2007-04-12 13:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by حلاَمبرا hallambra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you're right. One phone call will not get anybody fired. She didn't want to work anyway. Second, why is he still communicating w/ her? And what does he mean he's going to investigate it? Honey, open your eyes. They deserve each other.
2007-04-12 13:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by bardettec 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats sad
2007-04-12 13:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jj JaZz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you, he'd believe you, not her.
2007-04-12 13:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what! F*ck her.
2007-04-12 13:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by db14 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋