Been dating a really sweet guy. He's 43, smart, a bit immature. Admittedly pretty dense.Say he 'doesn't get women', or many things.
He leaves out pertinent facts about situations; letting me assume he's going home, then doesn't. When I found out he says that's not lying, but then apologizes.That leaves me wondering; mistrustful.
His roommate hit on me in a crude way. Bf didn't think it was a big deal, still wants to hang out with him.
He is helping his ex live-in of last yr.Says they weren't bf/gf she needed a place to stay, but were intimate.
He's taken care of her dog for 2 mos.now, they talk on the phone. They had lunch last week! He 'stated' it to me after the fact. That's it. Left it to me to ask anything further. I did much later and he felt 'cornered'
Expects we'll hang out with her at a weekly event the 'gang' goes to.We did; they were huggy/kissy, but he was to me too.
Leaning toward ending it. I'd like to stay friends since I'll be around him there.
I need words!
2007-04-12 13:01:56 · 7 answers · asked by Marie123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dump him. Who wants to be with someone who is huggy/kissy with someone else in front of you? Tell him you don't feel like you are treated as a girl should be. Tell him you would like to stay on good terms but you are no longer interested in dating. If you do this, stick to it. No sex!
2007-04-12 13:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by iceemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "I've been thinking, and I feel our relationship isn't really going anywhere. I think we should see other people. I still want us to hang out b/c I think you're a fun person & I want us to still be able to have the same friends. But . . . I feel like I'm not getting what I need out of this relationship romantically." If he is misleading you in where he is spending his time when he is not with you, he is being dishonest. Maybe not lying persay, but it's still dishonest.
2007-04-12 21:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by naebfli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to KTMFTTC (kick that mo fo to the curb) Get out. Good bye. See Ya, Have a nice life, Don't let the door hit u on the way out! I'm outta here. Stick a fork in me, I'm done!
There are 50 ways to leave your lover.... pick one.
Get free!
2007-04-12 20:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by choose happiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after thinking about this for a few minutes....it sounds to me as if he's your boyfriend, and your his buddy. To him, there may not be any "breakin' up" to do.....especially considing what he's said about his "ex"....
I'd be concerned if I were you, he's given you reasons to somewhat mistrust him, innocent as they were to him...important missing factors to you.....his feeling cornered after being questioned is a "fight or flee" tactic....lol, gives him a reason to do either, and not answer you in the process......
I'd probably just bow out gracefully from the relationship.....
2007-04-12 20:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy seems to have a lot of issues, and not much sense.
maybe he is good for the time being, but i wouldn't get serious... there are other fish in the sea, hon.
take care of YOU...
2007-04-12 20:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this advice from a guy. KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!!
2007-04-12 20:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by og0925go 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about day jah vou... you just described my ex and his best friend to a T girl... RUN RUN RUN!!!!!!!
2007-04-12 20:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋