ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 3 months now, she had 2 choose between me and this other guy and she choose me BUT her and the other guy have always still talk on aim/myspace/school even since she choose me over him and theyve been flirting a lot lately (( her friends tell me this )) and idk if i should be jealous or worried that he could come and steal her away for something and it really urks me that she still talks to him A LOT, any advice what i should do? talk to him or her about it?
2007-04-12 12:37:33 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be innocent. She could just want to stay good friends with him. Be that as it may, she still shouldn't be flirting. It's normal for you to be jealous and/or worried. Talk to your girlfriend and see what's going on, and watch her, but at the same time, not too closely. She'll feel smothered if you do. Be careful how you do it.
2007-04-12 12:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not about him stealing her away. It seems that your girlfriend is immature and not ready for a real relationship. I'm not blaming her but it is common in young people to experiment with relationships. When someone is ready to commit to a relationship, you don't even have to tell them what not to do. Always use the judgement, shoe on the other foot. Anything that she does, would she like it if you did it? If not, then why is she doing it?
I'm going to be honest with you, nowadays, it's tough to find someone who is faithful. Today, people have way too many choices and options. All that does is make them indecisive.
Your girlfriend may want to be with you, but she is still curious aobut the other guy.
If I was you and I had this information, I would make a decision. If you don't like it then talk to her about it. Tell her you definitely don't want any contacts with him. Give her the reasons why. And ask if she is okay with you doing the same thing. I bet if she cared, she would not be okay with you talking to another girl. If she doesn't understand or doesn't comply, then she is not ready for a relationship. Just be friend. I don't think you should talk to him. He is only a third party and talking to him wouldn't really make a difference because the relationship is between you and her.
2007-04-12 12:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Hollarback G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to your girlfriend about this problem. If it is bothering you that much it needs to be addressed. You should go to her and tell her how it is making you feel. A healthy relationship is one where any topic can be discussed and worked out.
I don't think going to him will solve any thing. He wants her and she choose you, so he is just trying to get her to rethink her decision. Going to him would probably cause a fight between you and him, or you and her because she will think that you are going behind her back.
Keep the communication open between you and your girlfriend. Who knows, maybe her friends tell you some of these things because they like you. They could be making it up so that they can try to steal you away from her. So, talk to your girlfriend and find out what she is doing. Good Luck!!!
2007-04-12 12:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by my2bratboys 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was just recently in this situation and I did the same thing to the guy I was with. It turned out really bad and it got to the point where i started hooking up with the other guy and i tried to keep it a secret. After he found out it ruined our relationship and now we dont even talk anymore. I think you should talk to her about it, and if she does like that other guy you guys can still be friends and not ruin your friendship.
2007-04-12 12:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Raindrops 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a reason why she choose you. However, if there were feelings for this other guy then you should give her time to get al lof this out of her system. if it was love you have to remember that love doesn't go away over night. but you should tell her that you have a problem with it and be honest with her, then see where it goes. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-04-12 12:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by nattabomb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you should talk to her about it.
First perhaps make sure that she knows if she made the right choice or not. Than see what is up with him and her, if she has feelings. Ask her all the questions you need to, to feel you got all the answers you need to know. and then tell her how you feel about the situation.
Mind you. your only in high school and only 3 months of being together. shes not worth it if shes still into her ex.
2007-04-12 14:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Advice giver 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dang son what u have to do is tlk to her and tell her how u feel i cannot stress this enough i see tons of questions like this!! dawg relation ships are all about communication if u dont tlk things out then its all hell for all yall! i suggest u call her tonight and tellher how u feel if she starts trippin then let her trip! why would she be mad if u asked her this? she wouldent unless she liked him right? so basically this is kinda like a test but also respect her answer if she says no then dont call her a liar NO MEANS NO i mean if u bugs u that much then maybe you should bounce with somebody whos been single for along time ya dig?
2007-04-12 12:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just talk to her nicely about it. Let her know that you trust her but it still makes you feel (upset, mad, worried, hurt) when she talks to him. Remember it takes a while for a heart to heal even if she doesn't like him like that anymore it might take her a while to realize she has something good(thats you) and she doesn't need him. Don't be to oncoming because you could push her away but it will be harmful for you to hold it all in.
2007-04-12 12:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have experienced this exact situation with my boyfriend's contact with his ex-girlfriend. Of course it is natural for you to feel jealous, I admit that I was jealous and somewhat insecure because of the fact that she was his EX. Obviously, an ex is a part of one's life emotionally as well as romantically, so it is common for someone to get worried. I would get upset whenever my boyfriend would talk to his ex and i did not understand why he would still talk to her because it hurt me. I never trusted his ex and my worries became a reality when he cheated on me with her (sex) after five months of our relationship. I could not believe that the one guy who I had fallen in love with had cheated on me with his ex! If i were you, i would try to talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel about the situation. Ask her how she would feel if she were in your place...I am sure she would not like it if you were constantly talking to your ex. Keep your eyes open...and be careful!
good luck.
2007-04-12 12:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by her 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her about it and explain your feelings but keep in mind that she choose you that must mean she must really like you or you are really special to her. And dont believe her friends cause they could be jealous or want you and her to break up that happens alot and you need to trust her so talk to her.
2007-04-12 12:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋