My dad always gripes about having to pay child support and calls me names like "rent a kid" and says that im a car payment. This really hurts my fealings but he does it anyway. How would you handle this?
2007-04-12 12:24:47 · 11 answers · asked by white_and_nerdy_93 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know, my Dad thinks he's a funny funny guy - but he's not.
He's just sarcastic - and not even in a funny way.
It has cost him friends and at least one job. I assume job promotions and other opportunities have passed him by for the same reason.
When I was younger, I actually started to immitate him and be sarcastic too.
But after a while, I saw how people's expressions changed when I told my funny funny joke.
It slowly dawned on me that I was not actually as funny as I thought - and I stopped.
That's also when I saw clearly how my father was paying his own price - only I guess he's never seen what a turn off his "sense of humor" really is.
I suspect your father may think he's being f'ing funny - but he's not.
I have never talked to my father about whether he thinks his jokes have actually hurt him more than they ever made anyone laugh. I just have no desire to go down that road with him.
I say - tell Dad that you actually are taking his jokes personally and that they hurt and can he please stop.
If he doesn't, then just know that he really doesn't mean to be hurtful and offensive - but he just can't change a bad habit this late in the game.
Best wishes.
2007-04-12 12:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore him at the end of the day he has to help support you and he has also got to get over the fact that the media of today say if you want to see your kid pay up or do without. SDociety does not make it easy for parents or children. Next time he says it and asks you to do something shock him and say the rental agreement has not got the request in the contract details you'll have to pay extra cash in hand and say it every time he'll soon get the message lol
2007-04-12 19:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so, so sorry that you have to endure this kind of conversation from your father. I am sure it makes you feel that you are unloved. I don't know how old you are, but you should develop some boldness and sit your dad down and talk openly and honestly with him. You need to tell him how you feel. Let him know that the things he says are hurtful and make you feel bad. If he loves and cares foryou and is concerned about your welfare, he will understand and appreciate your honesty. Young people need to learn to speak up. Parents are not perfect -and sometimes they carry over old wounds and hurts and their children are the ones who suffer. You should not be. Tell him what you think and I pray that he will understand and change his conversation to something more positive. The fiight is not with YOU - it's with adults.....
2007-04-12 19:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How horrible. When you have a child it is a lifelong commitment...and its sad that he didn't realize this before deciding to have children. Next time he makes a comment, make a comment back about it makes you feel. You didn't specify how old you are, but I think at the age of 16 you have the option of no longer engaging in visitation. You don't deserve to be treated that way.
2007-04-12 19:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your Dad is such a jerk. He should NEVER say that to you. As a parent he has a reponsibilty for his child. He needs to grow up and realize that he his hurting you. Tell him that what he says hurts your feelings.
2007-04-12 20:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that i would tell him that you are not a 'rent a kid' nor are you a car payment...that him saying this hurts your feelings...if he does not stop, then consider him an uncaring fool...if he is uncaring why do you bother to go around him? tell him that if that is all you are to him, you don't care to be around him and don't go around him.
2007-04-12 19:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id just flat out tell him how you feel. Im sure he thinks hes being funny and doesnt know its hurtful
2007-04-12 19:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no one ever knows the BEST thing to do, but i can tell u this.....
tlk to him. tell him hes hurting u
or if u just cant stand to tlk to him, try and be w/ ppl u love to be around
or do something u enjoy. if things continue, then u must sit him down
and tell him whts wht!!!!
i wish u much luck!!!
2007-04-12 19:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by xo3cheersxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you wish that he would stop making snyde comments that you really don't need to hear his remarks..
2007-04-12 19:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad sounds like a pretty kewl guy. HOLLA!
2007-04-12 19:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kwijibo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋