i tell her no but she keeps going on about food how good it is
2007-04-12 12:22:35 · 8 answers · asked by penny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to be empathetic. In a lot of cultures this is the way people welcome others to their home. She may think she is being hospitable and welcoming. Try the food but only a small amount or ask to take it home because "it looks so good". Praise and compliments go a long way. Be thankful she could be worse and make you feel unwelcome. Good luck!!
2007-04-12 12:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by brian M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's just a cultural and age related thing. I remember my grandmother, the moment I walked into her house, the subject was food. It's just learned behavior and for these people food is the binding material to all other aspects of the relationship. She takes it a step further and seems to encourage that you actually eat large amounts, it sounds like. Just let her know that you don't have a large appetite and never have and say no thank-you. There is no reason to need go anywhere beyond that.
2007-04-12 12:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could always accept a small portion of the food and then take your dear sweet time eating it so that if she offers more you have the excuse that you're not done yet. That way she'll feel good seeing you eat and you'll feel better only having to eat a bit.
2007-04-13 03:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just say thank you but no thank you. you know, mom, how it is when you just don't feel hungry and there is just no way you can eat. it looks good, smells good, but i just cannot eat it. please don't do this to me or yourself. i mean you no disrespect, i know you worked hard on this meal, but, please understand where I'M coming from and that is i just cannot eat it right now. if you want, i'll take some home and appreciate how good it tastes when i feel hungry. like this she feels good that you want her food and you can decide what you want to do with it.
2007-04-12 12:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How annoying. Just politely but firmly decline. If she persists, you can always tell her you are allergic to whatever she is serving...although after awhile the list may get a bit long ;)
2007-04-12 12:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get up and leave the table or room? go home? or just keep saying "no thank you" or whatever it is you say to her.
or else you could tell her you're not hungry but would like to take some home if you could. that way, you don't have to eat it, and maybe your husband could have it left over -- or even your dog!
take care!
2007-04-12 12:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you cant........ i an very thin and my b/fs familt is italian and every time we go to his moms house she trys to feed me i have sat down with her and talked to her he has tryed to get her to stop but its just who and how she is its anoying but she means well
2007-04-12 12:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after she tells you how good it is.. tell HER to eat it
2007-04-12 12:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋