I have several friends who seem incapable of figuring out that it's time, and I wouldn't really say anything, but when they're guests in my home and the furniture smells bad afterward, what am I to do?
2007-04-12 10:23:23 · 29 answers · asked by Asuza 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Pull them aside and politely tell them that they need to wash up. They will understand if you say womething to them calmly and be polite about it.
2007-04-12 10:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by apbacker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are really the sensitive type, the first thing I would try would be to bring into the conversation some third party who is not present or is unknown to the others who never takes a bath and how all the people keep a distance from him because he smells so bad. And here's one possibility: my wife told me that when she went to see her doctor who is a nice guy that he had the worst body odor. Saying something like that might lead these friends to think about themselves, but they wouldn't know whether you are thinking the same about them. A next tack would be to remark about their clean odor sometime when they have happened to wash up shortly before. It's a tricky situation because people usually are not aware of their body odor or bad breath.
2007-04-19 21:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by xxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no "nice " way of doing so. But whatever you do, make sure you don't do it in front of a lot of people. Pull them to the side. There are certain rules for making and taking criticism and one of the main rules is to not criticize in front of people, it will make matters worse and if they are your friend they may not be after that because you will embarrass them. If its a guy, ask him to go shopping with you because you are going to buy a gift for another friend or brother. Ask him what he thinks of the different scents, when he finds one he says is really good, offer to buy him one as well for helping you. If its a girl, maybe have an at home spa day and try new soaps and perfumes and stuff.
2007-04-20 14:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by lil_missouri_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are not aware, some people do suffer from bad body odour even though they do shower. Some people may not change/wash their clothes very often so the smell stays in their clothes.
You could maybe buy a good quality deodorant and give it to them as a present. Give it to them discretely and say that you have problems with body odour yourself and you find this product very hepful.
2007-04-14 11:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are 2 ways of going about it.
1- be straight upand frank with them. say,"i am youre friend and thats why i am telling you this: you should really try to shower every day. you might not notie it, but you smell and im afraid that u are offending the people who u have known, and making bad impressions on theose who you are meeting
2- give them some shower gel and insist that they try it right away, they might get the hint.
either way do it soon;they will be thankful
good luck and i hope that i helped!
2007-04-16 23:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Live, Laugh, Love 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would take them shopping to bath and body works and shop for new bath products....or to a local shop that sells these products. It would be a great outing and everyone who buys new smelly goods wants to go home and try them out...if there is a guy who is visiting you, tell him that you want to go shopping and hit the "man shops" up first and then take him to a shop that sells shower products for men and say, "Oh wow, smell this!" Buy it for him and tell him that you want him to use it and that you want to hit the town that night..this is the most polite way I know how to tell someone or to hint to someone that they need to clean up...
2007-04-17 22:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a joke: To take shower once a month is against the law. My furniture don't appreciate it. He will get a message.
2007-04-19 16:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ FairLady ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I was In prison .We would leave a bar of soap ,Deoderant a washcloth and towel on their bunk. Just a polite way of saying last chance ,take a shower before the lights go out or get your head stomped in.
2007-04-16 23:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Snowman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If politely telling them, "You've got to take a shower" works...Do it! Depending on the personality of that person that YOU,,,know,,,Tells you what level of enforcement , you've gotta use. You've got as much right ,,,No,,,more right,,,To enjoy clean breathing! They may not like it! "Oh well!" You might hurt thier feelings! But right now ,,Your feelings and comfort are being disturbed by someone who either doesn't know,,or doesn't care. "Make it known!" Just do it! OK!
2007-04-20 01:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by kudo452 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That subject should be left untouched. The most you could do is give subtle hints. Offering them body spray or recommending your favorite body wash. Anything more than that may come across as rude. Maybe they realize the problem and are unable to control it, so avoid the insult.
2007-04-17 18:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is no other way than just to inform them graceously or may be with a little jokingly 'that having a shower at this time will be a maevellous go' and smile a bit.
2007-04-20 16:18:44 · answer #11 · answered by shrotiji_1942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋