im 16 and my bf of 9 months and i just broke up. i broke up with him. but anyways i still have all the presents and stuff he gave me. what should i do with them? and he keeps telling everyone he doesnt care that we broke up. but i have a feeling he does. why wont he admit, even to me that he is mildly upset. i think it is because he is a guy and does not want to let down his pride! but, do you think there is another reason? please answer both questions. (ps. i aam NOT burning his presents!!!)
2007-04-12 10:12:08 · 37 answers · asked by gymnasticsluvr96 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wasn't going to tell you to burn them! i was going to say keep them if the memories they hold are happy, but if they're sad, give them to charity or something.
i think you're right. he probably doesn't want to let down his pride.
2007-04-12 10:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by rt1290 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What should you do with his presents? keep them, if you don't absolutely hate him... just keep them...
About the reason why he tells people he doesn't care?... he probably does not care... really... after all the things he did for you, he might just have had it... he could be a little angry since everyone looses something when a relationship ends... but if his friends are concerned he will tell them he's fine... that is just human...
I think you should specify why you broke up with him in the first place... because with the little information you are giving it just seems like he is not the bad guy here...
will update if needed...
2007-04-12 10:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well about the presents issue i don't think you should throw them away but if they make you sad or anything and you want to get over him just throw them away but if you don't really care just keep them. Also some guys just act hard around their friends like you said that he is saying he doesn't care about the breakup. I think you should have a serious talk with him and just ask him how he feels about it so he doesn't feel the need to hide behind his "pride" or anything. Hope this was helpful..
2007-04-12 10:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hurt but admitting it will make him hurt more. This is not a man psycology simply a human psychology to try to ignore and foreget and overcome the sadness by assuring himself and others that he is not hurt. A fast and speedy recovery from the incident.
Never give back the presents or burn them, that may hurt him even more knowing that you hate him so much that you don’t want to even keep those things that ever remind you of him.
And try not to contact him again, give him some room to recover, otherwise, that might put a wrong impression on him and he will try to find a way to get back in.
Good Luck to you and Him,
And I know you are also sad and hurt somewhat if not as much as he is.
2007-04-12 10:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Azhar M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the presents together somewhere. You probably have a lot of great memories of you two together, and as long as you are still friends, it will be nice to have some things to remember the fun times by. I'm sure his problem probably is largely a pride thing. Since you dumped him and it was likely unexpected, I'm sure he is dissapointed but doesn't want you or anyone else to know that. Also, he is probably trying to convince himself that he doesn't care in an effort to get over your breakup.
2007-04-12 10:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by dustmonster02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has another woman before he broke up with you. Maybe you ouhght to move on, chances are when people break up at least one person didn't want the relationship. Sounds like you are the one that may have wanted the relationship.
Keep the presents if you can use them without associating your bf with the presents> if you can let go --than tose them or give them to the thrift store or something
2007-04-12 10:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by darknight_is_here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regarding the presents if they give you any grief about them, return them to him but otherwise keep them as a reminder that there was a relationship if even for a little while, that this was a good time (was it?) while it lasted.
He probably won't admit because he doesn't want anyone to know that he is hurt, most men don't like to talk about our feelings and that is a big problem in itself. Otherwise he could also be using it as a defense mechanism in order to keep himself distanced from you or from people who like to talk behind other people's backs.
I'm sorry to hear that you broke up and I hoped this helped if even a little.
2007-04-12 10:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by JV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The presents are yours to keep.
As far as your ex saying he doesn't care that you two broke up - what difference does it make what he is saying? Is he supposed to be all tore up inside and act like his life ended because you broke up with him? Would you get joy out of seeing him suffer? A mature person suffers at home and doesn't go around complaining to others about things that can't be changed or controlled. Male or Female.
2007-04-12 10:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to do anything with the presents? Just keep them. You may be wrong about him being upset - perhaps he had been thinking things were not working too and was relieved when you broke up with him.
2007-04-12 10:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke up with my girlfriend last October out of anger. I still love her, but the way she reacted to the breakup made me feel it would be unsafe for me to attempt to get back with her. I think it is pride. It's normal for a man to hide pain. If you still love him, keep the presents. If you still want to be with him, you need to make your move soon, or else as time goes by, it'll be less likely to happen.
2007-04-12 10:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you burn them? He gave them to you because he wanted you to have them. They were gifts. Put them away for a while, then decide six months down the road what you want to do with them. Use them, give them to someone you know (who doesn't know your BF) who might like to use them, keep them in a box forever as memories, or donate them. Don't burn them, don't throw them away, and definitely don't give them back. That is hurtful... you don't want him to think they didn't mean anything anymore or that just because you broke up you don't care about his feelings anymore.
2007-04-12 10:17:31 · answer #11 · answered by Calico Skies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋