If so, how did you ever get over such intense emotional pain and eventually learn to love again?
Tell Angel.
She wants to know!
2007-04-12 10:08:51 · 22 answers · asked by Devilish Angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh I've had my heart broken more than once....I think the last time was the most intense though, because we weren't just boyfriend and girlfriend we were best friends. We would talk for hours, send each other the cutest little messages, had pet nicknames for each other, we literally made people sick with how cute we were together. I truly loved him and he truly loved me and I tried as well as he did to over look quirks and insecurities, in the end he thanked me for being able to always over look his and we cried together when he expressed how he wasn't in a place where he could do the same with mine...
Time passing has been a tremedous source of getting over him, the support and understanding of my best friend, crying alot, screaming alot (lol), and finally the realization that if we had truly been meant for one another we would have found away to work past the obstacles in our path, but we couldn't, so now I know my soulmate is still out there waiting for me...
P.S. My friend gave me this poem after my breakup, hope it helps in some small way....
After A While
by Veronica A. Shoffstall
After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman, not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn...
2007-04-12 10:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-05 21:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While there is the possibility he is truly sorry and is feeling bad, it sound like your instincts are telling you different; trust those instincts. Did he perhaps get dumped recently? Has there been a death of a friend or relative that has been close to him? Has he been fired from a job or been in trouble with the law recently? It could be he is looking to bolster his ego and men seem to frequently run back to an old flame to try to re-kindle that flame to make them feel better. Even worse, he could be looking for a booty call. Once "his" needs are met and his ego is bolstered, he drop you like a hot potato, and do it again the next time he gets dumped until you are firm with him that you will not tolerate the situation. If you didn't part on good term, you do not owe it to him in any way, shape or form to "catch up". You have already told him you are in a relationship and if wants to catch up on old times you can just reitterate that, or offer to bring your new boyfriend with you when you meet up with him to "catch up"...if his motives are pure, he won't mind meeting your new beau.
2016-05-18 03:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by sheryl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was going through a broken heart, I thought it would never end. I didn't think I would ever feel safe enough to love again.
What worked? The passage of time helps. Focus on what I enjoy, on learning new skills, on enjoying my life - all worked wonders.
I also reminded myself that I would never find the right person if I was busy mourning the wrong person. Sure, give yourself time to grieve and even wallow in it, for a time. But then get back to enjoying your life.
2007-04-12 10:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have recovered from a broken heart. It was hard but, you have to focus on taking care of yourself first, in order to feel and know that you will be okay. It takes some time and sometimes you have to allow yourself the room and time as well to go through the emotions in order to heal and move on.....There is defintley more space on a person's heart to love again.......
2007-04-12 10:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha. Recovered from it?
Hun, I've done that and MORE!
I was in an abusive relationship, and after about 7 months of constant breakups, because his mood swung, and he screamed at me, I said "Forget it, I hate you, you don't deserve me, or anyone else. F*ck you!" and i left
By then, my anger had fought over my broken heart. Why should I be with a guy who doesn't love me, or respect me?
If you're looking for normal heartache?
I got dumped a while back for just a random reason. I cried, alot.. and talked with friends and my family. Did a lot of activities to get my mind off of him, and now, we're best friends. 3 years later. I realized that he was too immature, and just needed someone to be there for him.
2007-04-12 10:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Love is Patient, Love is Kind ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so I met the LOVE of my life maybe like 7 years ago we were together for 5 years and he lied and cheated and he was drama all the way around. He broke my heart and stomped it so bad, but I made myself get strong and made myself move forward. But I truly did love him more than he will ever know! I always still think about him. I dont love him like I used to but I always will have feelings for him we shared many memories and stories together. I didnt let the feelings of abandonedment get to me. I kept telling myself that I could be loved and I surrounded myself with great people who made feel special then I started dating again and 2 yrs later I was married to a wonderful man who I love so much! Never compare! Never Regret! Just Reminise! Youll be fine! Be strong!
2007-04-12 10:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Naomi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As trite as this sounds.... it just takes time and new experiences.
I'm 24 and have been completely devastated twice before, (two separate long-term partners; one female and one male)... but I eventually bounced back both times when I thought I never would (or could). Both break ups were mutual but hurt so badly and in some ways I'm STILL in love with them.
Currently, I just date and have ALOT of fun. I'm much more careful with my heart now.
2007-04-12 10:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kia A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...
Time heals all wounds...
Surrounded myself with positive and strong people.
My family was very supportive
Got rid of all memories...pictures...gifts....
didn't go to the places I know I would see him...
Just concentrate on me....got a new job, new apt...and new body...
worked out...and not worried about anything.
Didn't date till about 3 months after and I still wasn't ready but I had to try...
Have I learned to love again...no....
I haven't met anybody where I can really be myself with...I'm starting to forget what it was like....the whole butterfly movement!...I miss that....
2007-04-12 10:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is Angel? 13?
Good lord. If everyone gave up after their first broken heart, there'd hardly be anyone on the planet to fall in love with.
The best way to mend a broken heart is just to work through it. Move on. Don't try and work things out with your ex. Whatever you do, DON'T be friends. Trust me, in six months what seems like a black hole threathening to devour the universe won't even concern Angel.
2007-04-12 10:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by mantoothnation 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋