He lies SOOO much. now i cant trust him. when i ask him a question i dont trust his answer because of all the lies hes told me. hes never cheated or anything like that (or at least thats what he tells me..he says he would never cheat on me or anything like that) but he wont stop lying. ive talked to him about it, he said he just cant stop lying, it just comes out. anyways..he just lies soo much, it hurts. and idk what to do. please help..
2007-04-12 09:28:07 · 28 answers · asked by Maddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him!!!
2007-04-12 09:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i had the same problem with my current boyfriend and to tell you the truth I'm tired of it... What made him stop was when I told him that I couldn't trust him anymore,It's like I almost warned him that I'd leave if he didn't stop lying. Tell him how yyou feel and be keen when he responds, if he acts like he doesn't care then you should consider leaving. I hope the best of luck to you and I know, I hate liars....;) hope I helped.
2007-04-12 09:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Chilly_Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overtime your trust for your boyfriend should strengthen and not weaken. If you really feel that you love him or want to be with him, try building up the trust slowly. If he compulsively lies and you can't change that, don't let it be a burden to yourself. Sometimes the best thing to help someone change is for you to give them time alone. Hope this helps! =]
2007-04-12 09:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Em&Em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesuschrist! The answer stares in you face! Drop him like a bad habit.
You say he lies about everything why the hell you trust him thet he never cheated on you?????
It's just another lie.
Move on girl, you deserve better.
And there is sooo many nice, truth speaking guys...
Best of luck!
2007-04-12 09:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
few things ...
he is afraid of how you will react if he tells the truth
hes probably not being honest with himself, so he lies to you
he has learned somewhere along the way that it's easier to tell people what he thinks they want to hear
he may not trust you
and in all of these cases, plese understand that it's not about you ... its about him
now .. heres the one thats gonna freak you out
he doesnt have a problem lying to you ... you have the problem (being lied too)
accept him and give him the time and space to become himself, and stop nagging him .. or move on
(btw, I'm not saying you have to put up with it, but understand that hes not lying to hurt you, in his mind i'm sure hes lying to protect himself)
you cannot fix him ... he has to figure it our for himself
2007-04-12 09:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend use to lie too before. Whenever i asked him the most simple questions he had to lie because he thought it would hurt me for some reason. Tell your boyfriend that you want an honnest relationship and if he can't be honnest when you ask questions now, then what would he lie about later on? So tell him and if he really doesn't care then that's his problem.
2007-04-12 09:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by betty514boop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lies to you about other things, what makes you think that he's not lying to you about cheating.. I think you need to reconsider this fantasy relationship you have with this guy. When you've heard enough lies, than you'll know what you need to do..good luck!!
2007-04-12 09:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't make him change. If he wants to change, then he will do something about it. But it sounds like he doesn't really care. So your choice is this: settle for a guy who lies, or cut your losses and find someone who can give you the honesty and respect you deserve.
2007-04-12 09:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's awful, trust is so important in any kind of relationship.
i don't know what to say, because i'd probably breakup with someone who lied to me a lot. i don't think he's worth it. i think you should find someone who values your companionship enough to stop lying. he has problems. spare yourself anymore pain, and end it with the liar.
2007-04-12 09:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new bf, because the lies will wear him out and he will constantly be getting caught up in his own stories, so you will never get to really know him!
2007-04-12 09:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Peter G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart. This relationship won't ever work out in the end. Trust is a KEY ingrediant to the overall batch of cookies. If you don't trust him, you dont' have him. He probably doesn't care about you enough to trust you. i am sorry to break it down to ya!
2007-04-12 09:32:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋