Im the son
2007-04-12 09:26:14 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Jesse♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hmmm...thats a hard one. It's similar to the question "how would you handle your kid telling you they're gay/lesbian/bi?" Honestly, if one of my boys told me, i would feel a little confused, but it comes down to their decision and what makes them happy. If switching sexes is what will make them happy and feel complete, then as a mother i would say ok. I may not agree with it or understand why they want to do it, but my sons' happiness is what matters most in my world. With my husband, i know it would be a competely diffierent story and he would have a very hard time accepting it. A lot of fathers are like that when it comes to their sons and being different in any situation.
Think over your decision long and hard. Make sure you have a 360 degree veiw of the huge choice youre about to make. Hopefully you have very open minded parents that'll want your happiness to come first.
Good luck and best wishes hun =]
2007-04-12 09:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i honestly don't know for sure. i'm sure i would be shocked at first. i would probably feel guilty as well. like i did something wrong to make you not want to be the person you were born as. i like to think that, given some time, i would come to accept it and the person you would become. i think it's important that, after the initial shock, you explain exactly why you feel this.there is so much said about this now on t.v. documantaries and such that it isn't a new thing. everyone is aware of it now but, this will be close to home.i would want to make sure this is really what my child wanted to do. there is no turning back once you do it. it would take some time but, i would get used to it and i'd love my new daughter the same as my son.
2007-04-12 19:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hopefully your parents are understanding---- but before you tell them anything, make sure you have a back up plan.
All parents are different... I have a son, and I honestly don't know how I would handle it... Of course it would be up to him, but I'm not going to be one to go out to buy dresses and make up saying "I've always wanted a daughter".....I love and will always love my son in any situation-- And I'm sure your parents feel the same.
I really hope you the best.
2007-04-12 16:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for most children (parents like it or not) all you say is GOD made you a BOY! And you are a boy for a reason. Tell him that it's normal to wish you were a girl but that you were born a man. Do you relise 90 percent of sex changes result in the man or woman wanting to change back to being a man or a woman on what ever they were from the start. Be supportive but explain that it's not a good idea medically to alter your body!
2007-04-12 17:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Toni V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I would just tell my son I loved him & give him a huge hug, let him know I am there for him, always. The sad part about this situation is that you would have to have extremely open-minded parents to reveal / expose your inner self. I feel if I was in your situation I would find some support from someone before telling them, you never know how someone may react.
2007-04-12 17:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by momma_zen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask my son how long has he felt this way? Has he tried dressing as a women to get a feel for it? Has he had counseling to see the pros & cons of this? Has he thought about banking his sperm so he can one day have a surguote to have a baby for him? Then I would hug him and tell him I love him. I am the type that would be at the mall buying dresses for him!
My son is seven and loves to in his words " to decompress in the bath while listening to Cher" My cousin says put the down payment on his West Hollywood condo now!
He is my baby and lived in me for nine months I would love him no matter what!
Have you been to www.dailystrength.org? They have great supprot groups,
2007-04-12 17:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a gay son that's 27....so it might be easier for me than some others.
I would definitely go to some joint counseling sessions (the counseling is a long process before the change is approved, and can take years). I would NOT blame my parenting skills or my son for this....it just sometimes happens.
Bless you, you'll have a hard road if you're truly serious.
2007-04-12 16:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.....I don't know what I would think....That is really tough.....In today's society it would be VERY hard to accept it due all the discrimination. Your parents would have to be very open minded people. It would probably be harder for your father to accept. Your mother would probably take it easier becuase of her maternal instincts to love you NO MATTER WHAT. But either way...they will come around.
I think you should really think hard about why you would want to change. If you still feel the same way...good luck to you. Hopefully you choose what will make you happy and your parents care about the happiness of their son.
2007-04-12 16:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go dress shopping with him to find out what looks good with the new heels i will buy him also.
Seriously i would accept it and try to support him in whatever he choose. I had a relative that was in that situation and his parents totally abondoned him and never talked to him.
I would rather have a relationship with my son then none all because i didn't agree with his lifestyle, cause i'm sure there are things about me he won't like either :)
2007-04-12 17:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by ilovemykids 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it is SO important a a parent to be supportive of your son (soon to be daughter), after all this world is still not ready to accept transexuals openly and if the parents arent the ones providing support then who??? that said if i was a parent i would be understandably distressed and would try to talk my son out of it but if at the end of the day that is what makes him happy.....just remember that it is not reversible...
Find out all your options and really talk to someone before you proceed, I wish you all the best =)
2007-04-12 16:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by knowerofallthings 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋