Serious question: has anyone ever had thoughts of committing suicide?

Question

If you've ever felt that way how do you shake those thoughts off? I don't know at times especially lately I've had thoughts about commtitting suicide. I don't know why.

Answer 1

I had when I was a teenager and felt trapped by a disfunctional family.

The best way to shake those thoughts is to think about:

1. The people that love you and will be upset if you are to do something like that.
2. The fact that whatever situation you are presently in will not be where you always are. However only by living can you change anything in your life or the world.
3. That suicide is actually a very selfish act and shows that you are not thinking about anyone but yourself and you're not looking at the full picture of what is actually going on in your life.
4. Realize that at any given moment you can make the choice to focus on crap that is negative and depressing but that you are making the choice to focus on that. Make the choice to focus on what is possitive and good instead of what is negative and bad.

The power is in your hands or more specificly your own head. How you choose to think will deturmine how you feel life is. Focus on the possitive and see the negative as sign posts for what not to do.

Answer 2

Yes, I've had them. I struggle from depression, bipolar 2 actually. There are good ways to treat those thoughts through cognitive therapy but if your thoughts are being caused by chemical imbalances, you would need to see psychiatrist and have it treated medically.

If the thoughts are just thoughts, as if you wished you were dead, that is called suicide ideation. This is closer to a fantasy where you want some form of escape from your present situation. It isn't particularly dangerous, but you should speak with someone. If the thoughts become more concrete and you have ways in which you would go about doing it, this is more urgent.

Feel free to email me if you want to chat. I have fairly well read about some of these issues and I can recommend some resources.

I know two brothers who both committed suicided in the last six months and I think it could have been prevented.

Answer 3

Just look at it this way. If you do it, you'll go through the "left door" only to get spit right back into a life with similar circumstances in it. What you feel, the challenges you are facing is for you to deal with, not run away from! You will have to learn sooner or later, so why not sooner?!! Why delay things?!! Your life, your situations are created by you (before we come here), to learn from. You dished it out, now work through it!! It's really OK!

If you have these thoughts and you don't know why, then quite possibly in a past life you committed suicide around this age. It's called cell memory. We remember all of our experiences on some level from all of our life times. You could be feeling another time and place from another of your life times especially if you are thinking about this all at once when you haven't before...

Please just think about it. Don't do it!

You may email me if you need any help whatsoever.

Answer 4

I did. It took a long time to come to terms with my 'interesting' brain functions and between times I would just be so tired and bleak that I couldn't see any way out of it. Several things helped in the end:

I now have a 'family of choice' rather than my blood relatives who were encouraging behaviors that are bad for me.

I finally came to the realization that just because I had different beliefs than other people and couldn't be pigeonholed didn't make me less of a person.

And last but not least I was complaining to my doctor one day that I was thinking about suicide and he said "You can think all you want, you just can't plan".

As strange as it sounds it's permission in a way to know that I wasn't alone in the way I felt and that actually broke the cycle of "I'm suicidal - thinking about it is wrong - that makes me a horrible person - I'm suicidal"

Blessings,
Zimmi

Answer 5

I have definitely had those thoughts.

I just think "This is the lowest I can go. It only gets better from here." Also, if you were really willing to kill yourself, that makes you completely free - you don't have to worry about keeping a job or paying bills or running out of money. Now you can forget the grind and go travel or something. If I were ever serious about killing myself, I would drop everything and do all those things I want to do, but can't. I would start living. Then I probably wouldn't be depressed anymore. So my brain goes through that thought process and I realize I have more control over my life than I sometimes think I do. That makes things a lot better.

Answer 6

I wasn't a Christian at the time, but when I was contemplating suicide, I remember what snapped me out of it is I realized that there was always the future. And even though I might not be able to see any way that things could get any better... they just *might*.... and if I killed myself, that would be like the absolute end... there's no way it could get better after that.

And you know what, even though I had no reason to think my life would get better, it did. I met and married a man who I love deeply (I was dealing with an ill-fated romance at the time I was thinking of suicide), I live in a beautiful town, I have hobbies that I enjoy, and the best part (for me, and I didn't discover this until years later) was that I now have a relationship with the loving true God.

There is always hope, don't give up on yourself, you just don't know what might be in store for you in the future! Time heals all wounds, even mental and emotional ones, my friend!

God bless you!

Answer 7

I remember the movie: "It's a Wonderful Life". I play my not being here in my mind, and remember I want to be here for my son, and family.
So the thought changes to what can I do to help others, and my son, instead of me - me - me.
I may be normal, I don't know, but I thought this passing thought is something everyone has. It's like a mental exercise, not a REAL desire or goal.
Of course I am going to suggest seeing someone that knows if your under too much stress and this person will have suggestions to reduce your stresses.
As I am living with out my son, (he lives in Costa Rica with mother/ex wife), due to my stresses I lived through (I had the big 3 same month: loss job,bankruptcy, wife left w/son.) - you can live through yours - it's painful - but once you practice not thinking about "it" (for me it's my sons life without me) - you fill your life with things that bring joy to you, and the pain is placed in a box to open or not - IF you want, instead of drowning in pain. You know? Time - is also needed.
I wish I was a professional educated person to help more. Sorry to waste your time rambling on - with a "hang in there" - living with pain makes me ramble, because it's tenuous - I am NOT in pain now, but could be if a memory slips into my mind as I type this. Then I push it aside and live more.
Don't take any pills or meds unless 4 or 6 doctors agree. I had 1 "doctor" just after 2 visits start throwing pills at me saying "I see this all the time, take these." - NO! I went to 2 other real doctors and after talking about this - NO PILLS were ever needed or used.
Can't say "Good Luck." - you will have to make your own life/future as you want it more than others.
Make your life as best as you can!!
Peace.

Answer 8

I actually did it when I was 20 years old. I took a load of pills, but that wasn't enough to kill myself. I also really didn't want to die. I just wanted out of the dark pit I was trapped in. I was sent to the emergency room and told to drink charcoal. Oh that's the worst thing. As soon as my mouth tasted it, my stomach emptied the contents immediately. I didn't make it to the sink!

It was quite out of character for me to do something like this as I had a very good life and was very loved by my family and friends. I just somehow got sucked into a deep depression lasting a week, and I could not handle it. I ended up hurting my family. It really did scare them knowing that they nearly lost me. I was sent home the same day, as I was fine mentally and physically. No damage done.

But the biggest price that I paid for this was hurting myself the most. That is the WORST feeling ever, even worse than the depression I went through. It is horrible to feel that inside of yourself. It was too much that I could not face it until maybe two months later. The guilt and shame of what I had done was a huge wedge in my heart. At some point, I did not want to carry this around within myself and wanted to be free of it. So I just faced my inner hurt and forgave myself knowing that I'm human. That just because I did something like that does not mean that it becomes who I am. It's okay to fall down, learn from it and then get back up. After I forgave myself, I was able to not feel anything about that incident. I healed myself and can look back on it objectively. I don't look back on it and go "oh poor me, look at what I did. That was a horrible thing." Nope I don't think those things. I just think of it as an experience that taught me a lot about human nature, about who I am and about life as well.

To shake those thoughts, you need to replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. Also doing something to distract you will work. Talk about it in any way that you can, even in an online journal, vent everything you feel into it to release your feelings.

God bless!

Answer 9

Thoughts can come from our sinful nature or our spiritual nature. So if we are going to follow the Spirit of God we have to sift through our thoughts (2 Corinthians 10:3-5). This is the way Christians fight the fight of faith, if they ever learn to fight.
When we follow the Holy Spirit we don't just do or dwell on whatever pops up in our thinking (Galatians 5:16-17). The battle is in our minds (1 Peter 2:11) because all sin starts with a desire (James 1:13-17).
The Christians who are disobedient never learn to follow the desires of the spirit and therefore never find life and peace (Romans 8:5-8). Check the verses. The way we are to come to know Jesus as it is written in the scriptures is to put off our old desires (Ephesians 4:20-24). Those who don't still follow the spirit of disobedience as mentioned in Ephesians 2:1-3 which is how the devil controls the world (1 John 5:19). Check the verses to see if what I am telling you is true. It doesn't matter which Bible you use if your heart is right, because God can teach you (1 John 2:27; 1 Thessalonians 4:9; Titus 2:11-12; John 14:26). The verses I am sending you are the same in any Bible from Jehovah's Witnesses to Baptist to Catholics.
Those whom the Lord will send will speak His Words (John 3;34; Jeremiah 23:22).
Respectfully, Alan Ballou www.thehealingbook.com

Answer 10

I happens a lot. I went through a huge emotional period where I was convinced no one truly cared for me, that I was ugly as crap, no one liked me for who I was. I had suicidal thoughts, but I never went farther than that. I just wanted to tell you that if that's the same thing happening to you, it gets better, even when it seems that nothing in this world will ever change no matter how much you want it too. It took a bruised fist against my bed to come to that conclusion. I didn't want to leave my life behind just because I was unhappy. I wanted to continue and show everone just how amazing of a life I could have with or without their love.

I lost 20 pounds, had a guy tell me I had beautiful eyes, and have a better relationship with my parents now more than ever before. I am honest to god happy now, and it scares me to think I would have tried taking my own life.

I sympathize completely, whoever-you-are. Always know it will get better