I really care about him, but I have doughts about our relationship because of his past.
2007-04-12 08:58:57 · 29 answers · asked by LaToya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you cant let the mistakes hes made in the past affect the relationship you have with him now. who he was isnt necessarily an indication of who he is. what he did before you cant affect what he does with you now. dont stress about it, and enjoy what you have with him without worrying about the burden of his past. good luck hun! :)
2007-04-12 09:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by sophia bush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past in the past. You're with him for who he is now, not what he's done before he met you. The person he was engaged to obviously wasn't right for him because they didn't get married. I would just take it a day at a time, and don't start any drama about it because it's not a very big deal.
2007-04-12 09:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ARE you suppose to feel? I think the bigger question is how DO you feel? Apparently you have some concerns & questions.
What about his past? Has he been dishonest with you?
You're worried because he was engaged?
Why don't you ask him to explain the situation to you?
Have you had previous relationships; they just didn't get to the engaged stage?
You need to figure out exactly what it is that bothers you so it can be dealt wit.
2007-04-12 09:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have second thoughts if you love him and want to be with him. People have pasts. He didn't just drop down onto earth to be with you and you alone. You've probably been with people before, too. Should he worry if he's not your first love/sexual partner, etc.? She's his ex for a reason: It didn't work out. Don't stress out about this unless YOU want to be in the ex category, too.
2007-04-12 09:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this an issue? At least he had the brains to end it if he was engaged to the wrong person. Unless he was never serious about marrying her, you should view this as strength of character and know that if he commits to you, he means it.
2007-04-12 09:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats his past have to do with what the 2 of you are doing now? what? he isn't allowed to have past relationships that didn't work out? why do you feel he has to disclose everything about his past? his was engaged it didnt work thats all you need to know, if it bothers you that you werent his first love your going to lead a sad lonely life because we all have a past and unless it effects you directly its really none of your business.
2007-04-12 09:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by michele_zanella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, everyone has a past.. unless you are a shut-in. Ask him about the relationship, and if it is totally over. You don't have to get into all the gory details, but it never hurts to ask. As long as he is certain that it's you he wants and not her, then let it go, don't worry about it, and enjoy yourself.
Good luck!
2007-04-12 09:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by ganjagoddess2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that situation! my (now ex!) boyfriend had been engaged to his highschool sweetheart whom he was with for likr 4 years. I felt a little sad that he had cared for his ex so much. But remember something, there is a reason that he didn't marry her! Don't let it ruin thigns between you two, btu also make sure that he is completely over her.
2007-04-12 09:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keyword: engagED. Maybe things just didn`t work out because they weren`t right for each other.
You could be the one. Don`t waste time worrying about the past. Worry about what you & your boyfriend could be.
2007-04-12 09:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by miscellaneous `=) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word there is "ex". He's with you now so he apparently didn't want her and evidently still doesn't. Enjoy your relationship and don't worry about the past.
2007-04-12 09:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by DOT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋