For those of you in a functioning ADULT relationship, how often do you fight?

Question

fight, argue, bicker, in either a serious or playful way. specify.

Answer 1

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 4 months. We've had maybe three fights, if that. They're all over very quickly when they happen.

The key is that we're really good at communicating; when something is bothering one of us, we talk about it when it starts to bother us and not let it sit and fester.

We tease each other all the time, though - in a playful way, NEVER meanly.

Answer 2

My boyfriend and I tease each other playfully all the time-that's just flirting. But we bicker and lose our patience depending on the situation: like trying to figure out driving directions, government policy (seriously-those are the tiffs that get the most frustrating, lol), and we've fought only a handful of times in the last 2 years, but those have worked themselves out. We're good about owning up when it's our fault, so things get resolved pretty quickly.
It's natural for a mature relationship to have its spats not and again...the thing is how willing/able you are to work through them and move beyond them.

Answer 3

To me there's a difference between arguing and fighting. Arguing is when we each have a valid point about something, and present our sides in an adult way without yelling. Fighting is the screaming, yelling and carrying on that happens in some relationships. My guy and I have differing views on many things, and we argue, and even playfully argue, on a nearly daily basis. Neither of us is upset or frustrated. We don't fight at all.

Answer 4

Adult or childish. Sounds like you are talking about non adult. All of the above but the fighting. No physical fighting should be tolerated ever. The worse thing is when one wants to work together and the other doesn't. It is hard to compromise when you can't even reach the level of considering one. Sometimes it can be hopeless. Good luck. Relationships aren't always easy but too much of what you refer to is not good. Even playful stuff can be construed as masked truths.

Answer 5

My fiance and I have been together almost 5 years. We have only had serious fights maybe twice in the whole relationship. We bicker sometimes, but we don't like drama, so whatever is bothering us, we try to talk about in a civil fashion.

Answer 6

Serious arguments about 2-3 times a month. Some months 0 then again some months we argue 20 days a month.

Answer 7

Playfully fight once a day or so, bicker or argue very rarely. I can't even put a number on it.

Answer 8

We pick on each other playfully almost every day. Nothing cutting, though. We have a "date night" this weekend; dinner & bowling. I informed him that he'd better prepare for an --- whoopin'... stuff like that.

As far as "real" arguments, we average about once every two months. Something comes up, we're both stressed and wrapped up in our own "stuff", and we end up annoyed and aggrivated with each other. It's resolved as quickly as it comes up, and then we make an effort to reconnect and do something as a couple, to decompress and come back together, if you will.

Answer 9

well it depends on what you call fighting....like literally hating each other or just a normal thing because all couples no matter who they are.....are not perfect and will always have fights, spats, disagreements, its just what two people do because sometimes its in a playful way to where it actually turns each other on and then sometimes its for real and they can fight over the simpliest things....everyone has their flaws and we just have to love them for it and try not to say hurtful things that we cant take back later on....

Answer 10

Personally I think in my relationship, we playfully fight every other day. As far as the serious fights, maybe once or twice every six months.