They did this last year for us as we live in an apartment and don't have room to host a party. It would just be immediate family members for cake, ice cream, and gift opening. They seemed OK with it last year, but my husband's Mom just looked beat!
2007-04-12 08:43:20 · 14 answers · asked by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We do everything....clean up, provide the food, etc. All they do is enjoy everyone's company and open up their home.
2007-04-12 08:55:55 · update #1
She only has one set of grandparents and it's in JULY so it will be too hot to have a party at the park. I've already thought of that.
2007-04-12 09:01:56 · update #2
You could mention that you don't have the space for a party and see if they offer to help. If they don't then don't pressure them. Maybe your MIL was really tuckered out after the last one and just doesn't feel up to it this year.
2007-04-12 08:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not tacky, but maybe a little intrusive. If they are retired and slowing down and your mother-in-law looked beat last year, it will only be harder this year.
Why not try a Pizza party, at a restaurant, or another type of family oriented restaurant. There's plenty of time to look around and get some price quotes and save some money for it.
On the other hand, your child is only two and won't remember the party anyway. I never could understand why people make such a big deal about birthday parties at this age...but then I don't have kids.
2007-04-12 10:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by meg3f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they offer to take on hosting a birthday party, then that is one thing. But for you to ask - I personally would think that it is RUDE!! I think it is taking advantage of your in-laws generosity to ASK them to host another party.
Perhaps you can go to a park or rent a building or something and hold the party there. Where I live, people are always using the park to have a birthday party. You might need to talk to the city hall to see if you need special permission to hold a party in the park.
Perhaps you can explain to the family that you would LOVE TO HAVE THEM ALL at your apartmant, but since it is small, perhaps there can be two parties. One party with one set of grandparents and then the next weekend ( or whenever you decide) another party with the other set of grandparents.
There are ways around this problem. Perhaps you have friends in the same boat ( same problem) that you could ask what their solution was.
Hope this is of some help.
2007-04-12 09:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Su-Nami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given the additional information you provided, then I would ask them if they minded, and be very aware of the body language when they answer. If there is any hesitancy then withdraw the question. You can always find a public place to have the party, such as park, museum, beach, etc.
Be sure if you do use the house, that you go over in the days before to do the necessary housecleaning/yard cleaning for them. And then take them out to dinner the next week.
2007-04-12 09:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. If they offer that is a completely different thing. Maybe try to rent a venue, like a small room at a banquet hall or like a fun park, (Chucky Cheese) I am in a similar situation and I am planning to have my daughters party at a local theme park and have pizza, cake, the whole shebang.
2007-04-12 08:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are willing to...i would make it clear so your husband's mom isn't so beat that they dont have to necesaarily host but just provide the location, u'll do all the work(set up, playing host, clean up), and there wont be massive about of stangers and people they just enjoy the time
2007-04-12 08:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, well, it's a strecth. It's not as much os a stretch if you make sure to be the one doing ALL of the work and paying for everything...
but still, if the thought doesn't come from them, then, you know, maybe not a good deal.
On the other hand, considering the way mothers of fathers don't get to see kids as often as mothers of mothers, geez, you'd think she'd jump for joy.
And then sit down and relax.
All day.
2007-04-12 08:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite...I do imagine thats tacky. A 365 days previous has no concept whats happening and for this reason dont acutally want some thing in certain. So its in basic terms mom and dad registering for issues they need for the newborn rather of shopping for them themselves. i ought to in no way in an entire life examine out a registry for a celebration.
2016-12-03 22:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask. If it's only immediate family, shouldn't be a problem in an apartment, regardless. You will manage just fine.
2007-04-12 08:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always ask them but they may feel obligated.
Why not ask if you can have it at their house but YOU do the party? Don't put any burdens on your mom-in-law. Remember, that means clean up also. Don't make her do anything.
2007-04-12 08:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by JessicaRabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋