Who on here lost one or both parents?

Question

I lost a father, and i'm on the verge of losing a muther. so i want to know if anyone on here has lost a muther, a father, or both parents. I want to know what it will feel like after my mum dies. i feel terrible already about my dad dying. So has anyone on here lost one or both parents?

Answer 1

My mom didn't die, but I haven't spoken to her since 1999, and I've always been with my grandparents. Luckly I haven't lost them yet. Whenever I go to a funeral though I try not to cry. In my opinion, when one gets upset and cries at a funeral, they're only crying for themselves. Depending on your religion, they're going to a much better place, and one sohuld feel happy for them. Do you think it's better for your mom to be going through so much pain here on earth, or to go to amother world where everything it pain free? Yea, you will feel pain when that time comes, but always remember that they're in a better place and you will reunite again one day. Try writing your feelings down or go to a counselor to talk things over; it helps tremendously.

Also keep in mind that everything happens for a reason. Think to yourself that if -for example- your dad haden't died when he did, how much more pain he could have gone through, or him dieing could have possibly effected someone else's life in one way or another. Don't dwell on the past, learn from it.

Answer 2

I lost my Father at the age of 24 after his three year struggle with cancer. That was almost ten years ago and it is a pain that never goes away. Maybe it would be different if he lived to be older or if i weren't so young when he was diagnosed but as it is he didn't live to see any of us kigs graduate college, get married and none of his grandkids. I think of him all the time and always wish he was around to see some moment that he is missing like my baby girls first steps or my brothers huge promotion. I am lucky that I have a very supportive Mother that works very hard to be there for all of us so I can't imagein how you feel. You would really benefit from grief counseling with a professional and hopefully you have a supportive extended family and/or siblings and friends that will be there for you in this sadness.

Answer 3

I also lost my father and my mother is approaching 80 years old and I know that our time together gets shorter as the years go by and I try to appreciate every minute I have with her knowing that I don't know when the end will be. I really lost it when I lost my father because my parents and I were really close, but I was especially close with my father. And since his death I've become soooooooooo close to my mother that I now don't know how I will possible handle her passing and there are times when I think I could be an adult and mature and accept her passing with grace knowing she is going to God and will be in a better place, but on the other hand I know how much I will miss her and how much I will hurt. I will pray for you and your mother and I hope that God blesses you both with his comfort during such a difficult time.

Answer 4

My heart really goes out to you and I hope that you have someone there that is really close to you that can guide you and be there for you in this terrible. I lost my father over 12 years ago but I was an adult and it was hard and I know its got to be really hard for you loosing both parents. All I can say is pray.....there is power in prayer... I lost a husband a while ago and that was the most pain I ever felt in my life, I felt empty and alone but I surrounded myself with my church members who were more like my family and there were there for me and we prayed together and that saved my life. Im telling you what I know, if it wasn't for the Grace of God, I would not be here today. Get involved with church members if not already affiliated with a church group because you will need a support group to lean on at this time in life. I will be praying for you and God Bless you. Remember there is nothing God can't do, just ask and he will see you through.

Answer 5

I lost my Dad 7 years ago this July, he would have been 80 had he lived til December. Dad was never the healthiest person who lived, he had chronic pain from a war injury, high blood pressure, a heart condition and diabetes. But the thing that depleted him most was his struggle with Alzheimer's. When he passed, as much as we all expected it soon it still came as a shock.He didn't know any of us towards the end, was non communicative and almost entirely bedridden. Because of those circumstances I realize his end was a blessing. The one thing that gives me the most comfort is he's no longer suffering silently, no longer frustrated because he couldn't make us understand what he wanted. Its a really hard thing to lose anyone, it will hurt for a long time. But you have the memories of the good and happy times, and they continue to live on in you. I'm sorry for the loss of your Dad and your Mother's illness, but please know that when the end comes, they will be at peace.God Bless.

Answer 6

I have lost my father about 5 years ago. We were very close and it has taken me until now to get over his death and not cry as much. I still have my mother but she has remarried so I don't talk to her as much I don't care for the guy she married and we don't get along. I am sorry to hear about your loss and the possibility of losing your mother. The only advice I can give is that it is ok to grieve and for as long as you need. Remember the good times and if you need to cry. Don't keep it in let your feeling out. I hope you have a friend or partner to talk to. I have a great boyfriend that helped me though all my down times typically around the holidays.

Best wishes and take care.

Answer 7

My father back in 1992 to cancer. Ironically dying is a part of life and losing someone you care about can be rough because there is a void in our lives that they filled. But if you always focus on the bad you'll never get to the place you need to be. Remember the good times and cherish the time you had with them. Know that you're not alone and that you will see them again in the hereafter.

Answer 8

I lost my mother when I was only 19 and with that loss my father left us as well, I can tell you the holidays are the hardest time of all and time does not heal all wounds but helps you deal with these wounds. I have found that remebering that others in this world have less then I and still have not lost hope, keeps me from falling into the abyss known as self pity.

Answer 9

My dad past away last May 20, 2006 it was a shock he had a heart attack and the last thing we told each other was that we loved each other its very hard and I am still grieving and I miss him more every day but I always remind myself that he taught me how to live and so that is what I do I live and I try to comfort others because there is always someone that has it worse then you just think about it I will be praying for you and your mom make memories and cling to them you need anything you can email me a Friend

Answer 10

In my case, " lost " doesnt mean death but i can kind of relate to what youre going thru...kind of. Not trying to patronize you here. I wish I could tell you how it is and all that but I can only tell you that my Dad is slowly dying (SEVERE Diabetes) and I too dont know exactly how to deal with it. Who does? But I am so sorry for your loss and your recent troubles about your Mom. If you believe in prayer, do that. It really helps believe it or not. I never know when Ill get a phone call, if any, and I have tried to prepare myself for that day. My Dad has slipped into comas and hes been right on the verge of dying and I try to be strong about it but I really dont know how Ill feel when it happens. Ive only known my Dad for about 5 or so years. I rarely see him because he lives kind of far from here. I just wnat you to know that youre NOT alone and youll be in my thoughts and prayers. Your Mom too. Im sorry I cant help more.Try to be strong for her and positive. God Bless you. ~Stacy