After a huge misunderstanding he moved out...he told me the day before he didnt have feelings anymore...then i found condoms (not opened)...i thought he was cheating..he never did....he did ask a girl out on myspace though...they never met up...he was jealous of my guy friends...but he encouraged me to hang out with them...he criticized my appearance...either i wasnt sexy enough or wasnt innocent enough...back to the condoms...he turned around and said the condoms were for me and he wanted to try to fix our relationship...he said that when he saw me after i came back from a trip the feelings were not there...he wasnt home when i got back and when he finally got home he just gave me a hug and acted really weird...later someone called and i could have sworn he said darling and said i was calling you to watch the game tonight...i kicked him out bc of the lack of trust...we both cried that night, he called the next day and i didnt get it in time...he didnt answer when i tried him back...
2007-04-12 08:32:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a lot of the problems also had to do with my lack of trust and baggage from other relationships...he also didnt like it if we went out and i got drunk...he wouldnt speak to me for days after...i would just giggle a lot and say stupid things while drinking...im 25, hes 34 but he is very very immature for that age...i mean hes on myspace
2007-04-12 08:33:44 · update #1
Forget him and move on!!
2007-04-12 08:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shi7 girl, what has the age to do with myspace. I'm on myspace and I'm 42!
Eighter of you is mature as you describe the situation.
Both of you couldnt commit to each other completely.
Both of you had some backdoors to get out of your relationship and do "your thing".
You both are inflexible, structured people with baggage from the past.
You girl have to work on yourself and your self-esteem to get a decent guy and retain him.
The bottom line is, even though you might think you miss him, you weren't good for each other as long term partners.
As soon as you'd get back together, the old problems would appear again.
2007-04-12 15:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you guys had more issues than just trust... particularly his criticism of who you are. I know it's hard, but maybe it'd just be for the best for the two of you to part ways?
It sounds like you probably COULD work things out, since it seems like there's also a lot of miscommunication... but again, you should probably take some time to seriously consider the value of this relationship in terms of how healthy it is for both of you before you decide to go that route. Good luck!
2007-04-12 15:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON! Get the partying out of your system! Date everyone committ to no one! By the sounds of it you have some growing up to do so that you can handle trust and committment! Quit hurting yourself in bad relatioinships! Our divorce rate is high enough folks, lets start being freinds and being ADULT!
2007-04-12 15:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by leachnissan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon, sorry you are feeling like this.....Good news is...he did call you...bad news is he did not return the call....I would not call him....he may be going through something right now..give it several of weeks....if he wants to calll you he will...if not you can find another you are still young......just wait several of weeks. The same thing happened to a coworker and he always called back....just do not give in and call him...let him pursue you...men love the chase
2007-04-12 15:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by china 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think you want to be with him you call him. but if you don't trust him there is no point relationships are built on trust and communication. without both the relationship falls apart. so think before you worry about him calling you. can you trust him again if not you have to move on
2007-04-12 15:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like this guy isn't worth wanting back ... he constantly criticized you and tried to control you ... move on with your life and find someone who loves you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
2007-04-12 15:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep calling and keep calling. If he still doesn't answer, go to his house in the middle of the night, when you know he'll be there. Good luck -- love's on your side!
2007-04-12 15:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by jjmpdx1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the relationship is over
Move on
2007-04-12 15:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you should just move on.
I'm in a similar situation myself right now.
We are both well rid of them.
Honest.
2007-04-12 15:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either has or planed on cheating; Move on.
2007-04-12 15:40:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋