She'd been living with us for some yrs but it started happening recently.Instead of telling her mother or us,she allowed it to go on for several months before going to the police & making a complaint, which is how we found out. My sis, my cousin & I are in the same age group(18-20) & share the same friends. Me & my sis found out that she had told a few of our friends what was going on ( she even told my sister's bf) & all of them had kept it a secret all the while although we saw them practically everyday. I live in a small community & the whole thing with all the gory details was in the newspaper(including my father's name) & now EVERYBODY i know (teachers, classmates & friends) know about it. I HATE leaving home because of the way people look at me, (with pity or smug satisfaction) & I HATE the silence that descends in a room whenever I enter & the knowing looks people give one another from which i can tell we were just being discussed. It's getting harder & harder to ignore.
2007-04-12 08:10:20 · 13 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just remember, your DAD is the wrong one here. Your cousin did not "allow" this to go on. You cannot blame HER, she was raped. Your father committed a crime. Many abuse victims don't report the crime for a long time, some never report it.
People are going to talk, they're not blaming you. They know that you don't want to talk about it, so they stop talking. If you want to discuss it with someone, do so.
But, you must remember that the rape victim is not to blame.
2007-04-12 08:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-09 01:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by hillhouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's EXTREMELY upsetting to me. Someone else makes a very bad choice in life and you have to reap the consequences right along with him. Not fair nor is it right. Unfortunately, we live in a extremely insensitive world and with unsensible people. I wish I could really help but the only thing I could suggest is to change schools. Sounds unreasonable but what else can you do. These things happen more often than you know and I wish there was a real good solution to your problem. You both need counseling as soon as possible as this is not a simple nor painless situation to get thru. Good Luck to you both,.
2007-04-12 08:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by luv2love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow that is a hard one, you did nothing wrong and if people want to talk they will and there isn't anything that you can do about this. Gossip will fly until there is a new subject to speak about. Just hold your head high and ask these people to continue their conversation when you walk into a room because what they have to say cannot hurt you any more than their deafening silence knowing they were talking about this. Hold your head high you did nothing wrong
2007-04-12 08:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid you just have to deal with it. If you show people that you are strong, they will soon get bored of giving you smug looks. Everything will die out soon and that will be old news. Just wait a while and everything will be ok. Be strong. Take care of yourself. xxx
2007-04-12 08:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by rav b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, you are allowing yourself to be a victim in this scenario. Go where you want, hold your head up high, show no shame, be polite to everyone and keep a smile on your face. You may think this will show you don't care but it won't - it will show your self confidence knowing it was not YOU who did wrong.
2007-04-12 08:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow--what a crummy mess to be in. Wish I had some really good advice for you. Just remember you haven't done anything wrong and keep your head up. Hang in there!
2007-04-12 08:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cousin didnt tell you cause she figured you'd be bias and find it hard to believe. everybody is going to have an opinion and untill the case is finished it can get better or worse. you in a no win situation you might as well be yourself and dont change.
Hang in there
2007-04-12 08:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by VINA 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think dat the only rthing to do...ignore it all
walk around with a smile...listen to an mp3 and juss ginore it all even though i understand dat itz probably hardd
2007-04-12 08:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ELI 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand that this must be very tough for you. Just remember that you are not at fault here. I am sorry you are having to go through this.
2007-04-12 08:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋