my dad died this morning at 10:55. he had lung cancer. we had just found out about it in september....this has all happened so fast. and i am making myself angry because i cant even cry. why cant i cry??? i loved my dad dearly. i just dont know....there has to be something wrong with me.
2007-04-12 08:06:34 · 7 answers · asked by groundhog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't worry there is nothing "wrong with you" Everyone expresses grief in a different way. Some get angry.
In time you will go threw all the stages of grief:
The seven stages of grief are:
Shock or Disbelief
Denial
Bargaining
Guilt
Anger
Depression
Acceptance and Hope
Most people will see some if not all of the seven stages of grief in themselves as they grieve. You just happen to be on anger.
2007-04-12 08:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, let me say how sorry i am about your dad. it's a terrible loss. there is nothing wrong with you. everybody does this differently. you're probably in a bit of shock right now. nothing can prepare you for the death of a parent,even if you knew it was going to happen. the fact that is happening so fast may have something to do with it also. there are people to call, plans to be made, papers to be signed and taking care of the rest of your family. it's a lot to handle. give yourself time to take it all in. you'll most likely do your "falling apart"when all the running around is done and you can relax. i wish i had some magic words for you but, there is no such thing. you'll get through this. really.
2007-04-12 15:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you, every one grieves in different ways. My husband's dad died 5 years ago, my husband was traumatized but he never shed a tear, even thought they were as close as a father and son could be. Not crying doesn't mean you didn't love your dad. Take care, i'm so sorry for you.
2007-04-12 15:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH, hun!! There is nothing wrong with you. But it all happened so fast it just hasn't set in on you yet. Once things calm down and your life's settled into less of an uproar, you'll be able to deal with the emotional side.
Right now you probably feel you need to be there for your mom.
There is NOTHING wrong with you.
2007-04-12 15:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with you. Maybe it'll hit you harder a lil later then they'll fall. some ppl dont realize to the full depth when a person is gone. you know he passed but there is going to be a moment when its gonna hit you and then you will understand why you didn't cry immediately
2007-04-12 15:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by VINA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still in shock. You will cry, there is no time limit on when you feel the need to cry. There is nothing wrong with you.
2007-04-12 15:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are blocking your tears that happened to me too and I couldn't cry for a month or so.
2007-04-12 15:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by katie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋