I am right now 21 years old and doing my graduation and aim at becoming a professional. However my parents cannot afford to pay for further studies and right now I am getting many marriage proposals. I really want to prove myself and dream of a beautiful career. Thus I have only two options: work and save my money for my master degree or accept to get married. which one would you choose if you were me? And one more thing can we study effectively once a girl is married or there are too much responsibilities in a marriage?
2007-04-12 06:43:19 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Use sound logic and follow your heart
2007-04-19 17:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure what you meant by "Many Marriage proposals". I hope just from one guy.
I think Love comes before all else and if you are really in love and you know this guy is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then you should get married. If he loved your enough to marry you he should already know what your goals are and will support you in your continuing efforts to continue your education. I have been married for almost 4 years now (I got married when i was 20) and I am still continuing my education and so is my husband. I also want to successful career life, but work isnt everything. My husband and our families come first and if that means slowing down (not stopping) my education, then that's OK because I know I will get there and I have the support of my entire family and my husband to go at it.
2007-04-12 07:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You talk a lot about your career and how you want to succeed, but you didn't mention anything about your beau. You don't have to get married just because you've been asked several times. You're only 21 and have all the time in the world to "settle down" and get married. If you want to focus on your career, then do it. If your partner can't stick by you while you further your education, then maybe he's not ready to get married. Don't talk about life like there are only 2 options for you, you can have a marriage AND a career. If you're sure he's the right one for you, get engaged. Maybe you can wait to get married until you're farther along into your schooling. You shouldn't feel pressured to get married asap! Money isn't going to come any easier when you're married either. With a good education you can get further in the job force. Sit down and decide what your priorities are in life. You don't have to settle for something you don't want.
2007-04-12 06:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by laydebug66 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do anything you put your mind to. I am married with three kids and two step kids ranging in age from 4-15 and I am going to school right now. It is a little harder to make time to study, but it is possible! Make sure the man you decide to marry understands you want to continue with school. I may even be easier when you get married because then it will be your and your husband's income togehter so money won't be as tight as it would if you were doing things on your own. Ask the lucky man to be if he is willing to support you in your path through school and let him know what you dream of for yourself and him, if he isn't willing to be there for you while you finish school then he doesn't deserve you in the first place!
2007-04-16 17:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you limit yourself to only 2 options? Who says you have to get married? Would this marriage be for financial advantages?! It sounds almost like you would be getting married so that you could continue your studies. Why the either/or attitude?
Also, I never saw you mention 'love,' only that you were receiving many marriage proposals - almost sounds as if you were you were receiving many job offers! I hope you don't get married because it sounds pretty cold-blooded to me and you don't love anyone. What's wrong with you getting off your lazy butt and working your way through further studies? Why should ANYONE other than yourself pay for them?
Don't get married; you have too much growing up still to do. If you got married now it would be for the wrong reasons, and it would end in divorce. And divorce can be a lot costlier than weddings or masters degrees.
2007-04-12 14:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you marry a supportive man, then anything is possible. I have been married for seven years, and have been in school the entire time. First during undergrad and now finishing a PhD. So, I guess I would choose getting married to someone who is as excited about your dreams as you are. This person would support you during your master's education, and help out with home responsibilities so that you can study/attend class/etc. For me, I found that once I was married I was easily distracted from studying at home, so making a 'work day' out of attending classes and studying in the library worked out really well.
2007-04-12 06:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by trustme_imascientist 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would accept only a proposal from a man who wants me to continue my efforts toward a career. There is no reason that I can see why you can't do that, even if it takes a little longer.
But do not marry someone who does not agree with your goals.
Establishing a career is a safeguard for you both, and if you wait a little to have children, you will be able to do both.
Marriage is a partnership these days....so marry someone who doesn't want a wife for his personal servant...but instead wants his wife to be a partner with him, planning your lives together. He should be willing to also be a partner with you.
Cultures are different I know, but many cultures now allow for a women to work towards better education, better jobs, etc.
Working on your marriage is also a priority for both of you...not just your job.
Here in America our daughters try to be home with their children (or at least mine do), but also have gone to college, can teach, do physical therapy, or other careers as well as be at home with their children....and their husbands come home from work and also do their share....putting kids to bed....washing dishes, making dinner...they work together.
2007-04-19 16:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends upon your culture and what you accept. I would argue that it is quite possible to do BOTH. Why not continue your studies...anyone that wants to propose marriage to you would certainly love you just as much AFTER you have earned your degree. Or perhaps you can marry someone who supports your desire to earn your degree.
I don't think a woman should have to be put in the position of choosing one or the other of those things, any more than a man should.
2007-04-12 06:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that there has been NO mention of loving anybody. Why would someone so very smart set herself up to be used by some man just because he has some money? If you conceive a child right away you will never get that chance at a career anyway...wait, take out loans if you need to and have a life of your choice.
2007-04-16 12:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I met a person I wanted to marry, I would get married. Otherwise, I would stay single, work, and find an opportunity to pursue my career and my studies. Also, it is certainly possible to be married and working on a degree as well, just don't have kids right away. If you find a man who is supportive of your goals, achieving them together will be easier, not harder.
2007-04-12 07:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not a hurdle for further studies if girl is co-operative and have understanding about common objective.She can be an instrumental to inspire and motivate you for the achievement of final goal.
2007-04-16 20:08:56 · answer #11 · answered by laxmi kumar n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋