I have only two options infront of me, if you were at my place which one would you choose?

Question

I am right now 21 years old and doing my graduation and aim at becoming a professional. However my parents cannot afford to pay for further studies and right now I am getting many marriage proposals. I really want to prove myself and dream of a beautiful career. Thus I have only two options: work and save my money for my master degree or accept to get married. which one would you choose if you were me? And one more thing can we study effectively once a girl is married or there are too much responsibilities in a marriage?

Answer 1

if i were you...work and save money for your master degree because once you are married ... you cannot only think about yourself...there's too much responsibilities in marriage...i know because i've been there...i was 19 when i get married because i need to finish my studies and my husband the one who supports me for my schooling...after graduation...i become a mother and so on...i wasn't able to get the chance to work and get my dream job even after graduation..there's a lot of job offers for me...but i'm married and family comes first...so you're still young...enjoy life and fulfill your dreams ;>

Answer 2

I definitly think you should continue and fulfill your dream. Hard work pays off in the end. Also, you'll feel much better about yourself and appreciate your career alot more if the money were actually coming out of your pocket. You said you are recieving several marriage proposals which makes me think that youre not in one serious relationship. Dont get married unless your in love and its someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Also, dont get married just because you feel as though you dont have any other options to turn to. You are 21 years old, the possibilities as to where your life could go right now are endless. And yes I would say that marriage is too big of a commitment to be juggling along with a career at the same time- especially being a newlywed. Continue persuing your career and work towards doing what makes you happy. Good Luck with Everything!

Answer 3

You already know the answer to your own questions... You really don't need confirmation from Yahoo Answers for this, do you? Follow your heart. And remember a few years of marriage to the wrong guy in exchange for admission payments to school is like getting paid to be a..... Ok, marriage is supposed to be forever thing, right? Well, forever is longer if you're not completely happy. Work hard with your new degree, go to night school, take a few classes at a time and before you know it your done. Or join the military to get more college money (preferably the Navy or Airforce); it's only a 4-5 year committment as opposed to marriage. Girl, remember you can't grow while allowing others to make decisions for you, and you'll never be happy not making a decision.

Answer 4

Well I'm not sure what you meant by "Many Marriage proposals". I hope just from one guy.

I think Love comes before all else and if you are really in love and you know this guy is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then you should get married. If he loved your enough to marry you he should already know what your goals are and will support you in your continuing efforts to continue your education. I have been married for almost 4 years now (I got married when i was 20) and I am still continuing my education and so is my husband. I also want to successful career life, but work isnt everything. My husband and our families come first and if that means slowing down (not stopping) my education, then that's OK because I know I will get there and I have the support of my entire family and my husband to go at it.

Answer 5

(1) Are you talking about arranged marriages? Is this acceptable in your culture? If so, you need to think about the best man for your future. But if you decide not to get married, see #2. :)

(2) Get your degree and go find a job. Lots and lots of places will pay you to go to school! You can get a degree online or in night school. Marriage or education should not be your only two choices. Get out and live a little! Congrats on finishing your degree at 21. :)

Good luck! :)

Answer 6

You shouldn't get married unless you want to, and 21 is way too young to get married. You have your whole life in front of you, and so many things to do before getting tied down.

Married women can study just fine, however don't have kids just yet. You can finish your studies with your parents help, scholarships and loans can work just fine. Finish school, stay single until your late 20s or early 30s, then get married and have some kids. Life life, a young beautiful intelligent woman has everything at her feet to enjoy. Travel, meet people and become a women of the world first. Then meet the right man and he will love you for it.

Answer 7

If your dream is to become a professional and have a career. I would not get married.
Being married changes everything. Unless, your husband is also in college and understands that you are in school. You won't be able to do both things at once.
I would finish my degree and then get your career going, then think about getting married. If you plan on getting married, you'll find yourself with the question. Should we have kids?
If you have kids, you won't be able to finish college.
Don't get married if you aren't in love!!
There will always be guys out there for you.

Answer 8

Your question is the answer in itself. You word your question like you would have to settle for marriage. Settling for a marriage is a recipe for disaster. If you should want to get married with every fiber of you body. If you are settling (like you seem to be inferring) your only facing a bad situation. You are only 21 so waiting for a few years is not a big deal.

However, It is possible to be a student and be married. I did it. Admittedly it is harder for a girl, since having kids involves so much more for a woman. However, you are only 21. Why can't kids wait until after you graduate. As long as this is understood between you and your husband before you get married, why can't you get married and wait to have kids.

Just remember, that if you wish to have children, there is a limited time frame, so don't wait to long, (like until your 40)

Answer 9

WHOA! Who says that marriage is the end of education?? I'm in the USA and here a person can continue their education at any time they choose.

If you are in an arranged marriage, or y ou feel that said marriage will be the end of your education, DON'T. Hold off on marriage until you are the person you want to be.

If marriage can allow you to contineu your education, then go ahead. (Be sure it's someone you WANT to be with for the restof your life, too!)


I say: Do both. Marry the man who means the most to you(and there has to be that before you even consider it) AND start to save for your masters.

Answer 10

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