Just wondering if anyone out there in Yahoo land has ever left someone or been left because the other person's ex was a terrible person, or your ex was a terrible person. Even tho the ex is supposedly in a happy marriage, she has to have her NOSE into every detail of your life!
Im curious because SO MANY ex's cause problems, I want to know if them causing problems really works to end the new relationship!
Thanks
2007-04-12 06:26:47 · 17 answers · asked by Angel Eve 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yep, too many times!
She's calmed down a bit now over the years.
2007-04-12 14:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Stone Cold 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your focus is totally off. If you went through all that you describe, I can only imagine that you are still going through a healing of sort and that you likely still would benefit from some professional counseling. If you current fellow is in shock about what he learned from your high school "ex-", well, perhaps he just need a bit of time to absorb it all. You really cannot control how your current beau reacts to what he has learned or what he decides to do ultimately as to you and his relationship with you. I don't think you owe your current fellow any kind of explanation whatsoever. While you may be from your perspective at present a more together and stronger individual who makes better choices as to male flames, you cannot force Mister Right Now's hand. A way to look at is this: If the same cannot appreciate the person you presently are on the inside; and the fact that the past is just that, in the past, then you are better off without him anyway; and should move on with your life without looking back. By the way, you make no mention of a criminal prosecution of your ex-; and I find that very disturbing. I also think that the conduct of your ex- is in all likelihood a form of harassment; and you may want to speak to your local police department to see if criminal charges for harassment can be filed against your ex-.
2016-05-18 02:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AE:
If there is a child involved then unfortunately this will be the "back door" way into any attempt at dissolving your relationship - IF YOU LET IT. At some point there has to be both the "Give and Take". The "Give" on your behalf would be the child (or children) and associated visitation rights; the "Take" would have to be relative to a discussion between you and your spouse on "WHAT NOT TO SAY" or similar boundaries of "unauthorized" discussion to the Ex in your face (and/or other matters that should not be tolerated).
Other than that it would seem you have stuff together - the focal point on what can be spoken and what shouldn't be spoken is only important to you and yours. It sounds like a little more dialogue between you and your husband would go a long way - this way you both are on the same page striving for the same thing and keeping together what you hold important to yourselves, and the child/children.
Hope this helps and best of luck to you!
2007-04-12 08:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is a world wide problem and most of us think that the villans are the ex's. For the record mos of the time the problem is with the person were with. Yes, the ex can try to interfere, call and be disrespectful, or try to cause other problems, but.....the bottom line is that our mates are responsible to set them straight. They have to demand the respect for you and your relationship. Most ex's do the things they do because they are being allowed to. It stops when our mates decide to make us happy instead of them.
2007-04-12 06:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Felisha S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your boyfriend has to put a stop to the ex getting her nose in your relationship or it will never end...Unless there are kids involved there is no reason for him to have contact with her or her knowing anything about your lives..I just ended a relationship like your talking about..
2007-04-12 07:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, never happened to me. Once I'm out of a relationship, that's it. We're either friends or nothing. Fortunately, I don't have to worry about that with my wife.
I did, however, leave a relationship partially because of one girlfriend's kids. Cathy liked playing practical jokes, and liked making me the butt of them. I didn't like that, and that was the main cause of the breakup, but her kids went out of their way to be as awful as possible to me. I tried being nice. I tried letting it roll off. In the end, that was a contributing factor. The kids saw that Mom didn't treat me with a lot of respect, and they followed suit.
Because of this I was actually a dick about it and sent her a "see ya" e-mail. That's right, I was one step below Phil Collins, who broke up with his wife via fax. I couldn't handle her, or her kids, anymore.
2007-04-16 04:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they can only be a problem if the 2 of you let em. now I hate baby momma drama so when my hunnies ex started crap I um let say got real close and personal with her and explained the advantages 2 staying out of my business. Told her the first warning was a walk in the park compared to if I had 2 give her a reminder.
Its been a quiet peaceful life since I scared the **** out of her lmao. Hubby was only mildly shocked and got over it fast when she started to leave us alone.
2007-04-12 06:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The one and only way the ex is going to interfere or be part of your life is if you allow it. An ex is just that. Its the past and should remain there. One needs to move ahead in life and learn from the past not keep living in it.
2007-04-12 06:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by deborah_012003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
totally a relationship bust up... it is best to keep ur nose out of each others business.... with kids involved as well. Keep your new relationship out of your old ~~ dont get them involved. Its can effect the trust which so many relationships are built on.
2007-04-12 06:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by sinneragain 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't leave! That's exactly what the ex want you to do. Be the bigger person. Be extra nice even when you don't want to and she will look like an azz and you will look like an angel. The stronger your relationship gets the stupider she will look! Eventually, she will move on.
2007-04-12 06:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes my ex-bf baby momma wanted to know everything about me. I just got feed up of it because my ex-bf would let her run our lives. So it was easier for me to walk away. Then I find out that they are together after I have his son. But I guess garbage belongs with garbage
2007-04-12 06:34:53 · answer #11 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋