so is it wrong to not want a big baby shower? i mean i don't want for any of my friends to go through any trouble. i don't even know if i want a baby shower in the first place.
2007-04-12 06:15:58 · 17 answers · asked by Hillary J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No, it is your choice if you don't want it then tell them not to throw you one. If they want to do something nice for you tell them you want to be taken out to a movie or dinner or something, something fun you want to do
2007-04-12 06:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want it, don't have it. No biggie. Not a big deal. I didn't want one for any of my kids (3) And I had to sit through the first one where I got gifts and really didn't enjoy it. Not a big deal if you don't want and or don't enjoy it. Really it isn't.
You can simply let people know, instead of a shower where gifts may and may not be wanted, you can ask for gift cards. That way not only do the people who want to do something and get something can, but you can use the cards for something you need when you need them.
You can just have a get together if you want, make it known you don't want something big, maybe just a get together for lunch or an afternoon, gift cards are alright. It's for you and the baby so it's not a big deal if you don't want one at all.
It's not wrong, don't worry about that, honest. Would you rather sit through something you hate rather than make it known very simply you'd rather something more of a lunch and get together with friends? Not a big deal. Relax.
If someone is upset or insulted by that, it's not your fault, because it's for you anyways, you should do what you'd like to do. So go for it. Just let them know.
Hope things work out for you!
2007-04-12 06:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bugster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all wrong to want a small affair! If your friends throw you a big shower...graciously go. I would speak to them first, let them know how you feel about it. A small get together sounds like just the thing in your case. If they are really your friends it is not really alot of trouble if they want to throw you a shower. Having a baby can be an exciting experience for you and everyone around you! They are probably really happy for you and want to express themselves. You may also just be a little hormonal right now, and are not wanting to feel crowded... that is fine and it can happen.
2007-04-12 06:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it this way -- I'd definitely prefer to be your friend, rather than friends with any of the greedy folk here who keep asking "Can I throw my own shower?" and the like.
Maybe you'd prefer just a little get-together? I'm surprised at how many people are big on "shower," while not, it seems, big on "little tea after the baby arrives." One seems to usually be just a gift-grab; the other, a nice little fete that looks infinitely more enjoyable for everybody concerned. At least the latter has a point -- meeting the baby -- that's laudable, unlike "gimme."
2007-04-12 06:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. It's totally up to you and what you feel like doing.
However, if you need baby items, etc - a big shower is the way to go. People tend to go all out on gifts, especially when it's the first baby.
It is a chance to get together, and celebrate the upcoming birth and new addition to the family.
Totally your choice though.
2007-04-12 06:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? No. Crazy? Yes. Showers are important for a couple of reasons. One, it is probably the last time you will be the center of attention, which I think is important because we all need to feel special. And two, if you didn't, you'd miss out on tons of stuff. Even if you don't need it, it's still nice to have, sometimes people get things you've never even seen or heard of, or maybe never even thought to get. If you have a couple of close friends and family members, they are probably fighting on who gets to throw it anyway, it's a fun time for everyone, except dad of course. Just let them do it, if it were real trouble please believe it wouldn't be done, relax, you have plenty to think about, stop worrying about how others will feel about a shower.
2007-04-12 06:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with my first, I was supposed to go to my shower, but wasn't feeling well. I had so many beautiful baby outfits afterward, and felt so bad that these caring people made sure that my baby was clothed well and I wasn't even there. Your friends would not be put out, they'd probably love it!
2007-04-12 06:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister in law had the same thoughts, and we did a "virtual" baby shower for her - sent invites & told everyone where she was registered. They could drop the gifts off to my house or my mom's. It was great - no trouble for anyone!
2007-04-12 06:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong not to want a shower but maybe your friends would like to celebrate your good news with you
2007-04-12 06:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by babysister32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh. I'm just like you. I hate baby showers. I hate going to them, so I didn't want to have one. But my mother-in-law insisted, so I grinned and beared it. I have to say, most of the stuff we got was pretty useless, except for a few kind people who stuck to the registry. It's more for other people than for you. Just try to grin and bear it and buy yourself a cute dress, and have fun.
2007-04-12 06:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone offers to make you a baby shower you can request that it be small and low key or that the party be a welcome baby party after the baby arrives. Best of luck.
2007-04-12 06:19:18 · answer #11 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋