see we already have done things together but he wants to hangout more and no me a lil bit mroe before we date.. one night one the computer he told this guy to stop flirting with me stop talking to me and if we hangout not to touch me.... and he told this guy that we are going to date... see we act like were dating but were not official yet... im getting sick of like waiting for when we can hang out hes in florida right now and when he gets bak were going to the movies.. so hopefully after the movies we can officiallly date
2007-04-12 06:06:17 · 25 answers · asked by softball_gurll13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never know but some people want to know their girlfriends more and see if they are the right girl for them before dating but the other conclusion is that he doesn't like you and he's putting it off and even though he doesn't like you he doesn't want anyone touching you.
2007-04-12 06:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the surface it sounds like it could be a good thing, but your details make me wonder. Is he wanting to get to know you better for real or is he "putting you on hold" until he's made a decision? Only you know the real truth, and it's only about what you feel. Do you feel like he's taking advantage of the situation? If so, tell him.
A guy that would "court you" = get to know you better before you date, would be a wonderful way to start a relationship. You also get to know him better and get to make a decision about dating him.
In an ideal world, this would be a wonderful way to build strong friendships and even stronger bonds of marital relationships as the future becomes reality. But, I'm not sure very many people are really ready to invest this kind of time.
Take control of you. Use your yardstick to measure and determine if he's worth the trouble. Many things matter even more than if he's HOT looking. Is he kind to you? Is he interested in you? Do you have similar value systems?... You may not want to DATE him after getting to know him, or you make recognize that he's a better friend than a boyfriend.
He has put the question on the table of "getting to know you", but you can use it to your benefit and satisfaction. Get choosy about who you allow to date you. You are very worth the effort.
I look forward to knowing what happens, keep me posted, if you don't mind.
2007-04-12 13:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't what you're doing now dating? When you get to be "officially dating" then what will be different from what's going on today? Is "dating" some euphemism for "physically involved"? Man, I'm OLD - I think of "dating" as "going out on dates". Part of getting to know someone IS going out on dates. If you guys really mean that you are thinking of sleeping together (or something equivalent) then yeah, it's a good thing to really know each other beforehand.
2007-04-12 13:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have they changed the rules of dating? I thought that if you were hanging out, going to movies together that was dating. How old are you and he? It doesn't sound like he is ready to date or be committed but he doesn't want anyone else talking or hanging out with you. The world is too big and full of great people to waste your time waiting and wondering about one guy. Broaden your horizons and talk to other people, you are too young to settle on just one indecisive guy.
2007-04-12 13:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by drwbama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. He obviously doesn't want to commit right now. He might be afraid of the implications of being official. If he stalls for a long time [as in months], you may want to bring it up again. Be sure to express your feelings to him, and things will work out in the end! Good luck!
2007-04-12 13:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wha's his background? If he's a holy-joe, this is appropriate. Even if he's a player, he may be looking you over as a possible serious relationship and doesn't want to ruin it by going too fast. Take a deep breath, then take your time.
2007-04-12 13:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tony Sprout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds possessive, be careful. With the whole don't flirt with her, don't touch her etc. That's a warning sign right there he's being possessive. Also, if you don't want to wait, then don't, find someone else.
2007-04-12 13:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lillian M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a bad thing, he obviously is attracted to you and wants to. He just want to take it slow. And there isn't anything wrong with that. It seems like he is just trying to really get to know his future g/f.
2007-04-12 13:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by 45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is good to know someone for a while longer to get to know them before you date it help the relationship out to see if you really want to be bf and gf
2007-04-12 13:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by airplanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's possessive if he's telling people they can't talk to you, that's your decision. But by all means get to know all you can about each other before you two get too serious.
2007-04-12 13:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋