my boyfriend and i split up after 6 months... he said we have gone too far sexually, but we havent even had sex. he says he feels like hes using me...but i dont feel that way. he still wants to "casually date" but im not sure what to do. any advice?
2007-04-12 05:27:25 · 7 answers · asked by Mego 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi (",)
Perhaps you should consider his past relationships, ask him about them, respect everything he says. There could be a reason for his behaviour due to something that happened in his past. Maybe not even his own relationship. It could be an issue that he saw happen to another person/couple. God forbid but it could be that his father ordered sex from his mother and now your bf doesn't want you to feel the way his mother did.
There are many things that it could be... my ex wasn't sure if he wanted to have sex with me because, one of the reasons Im sure, is because he was sexually confused- didn't know if he was more attracted to guys!
If you talk, Im sure you will come to it. Another possibility is his religion (even if he was only brought up with it and doesn't follow it anymore), he may feel guilt, wether consciously or subconsciously, as if he is going against something and he may be struck by lightning, he may want to only make love to you once you are married though he may be too shy or embarrassed to admit it.
I hope you are able to work through it and find a wonderful solution!
Best wishes!
*hugz
2007-04-12 05:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh thats got to be a first, a guy backing down from a relationship headed for sex. Perhaps your a bit full on for him or he feels insecure about his parts. Either way help him with it. Reassure him that he will be good in the sack regardless (or just fake it ehehehe)
2007-04-12 05:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bunch of crap. He's moving on due to , key word (no sex) ''We havent had sex". I think you need to move on because, there are so many "real" men out there who wont play games with you and tha's what he is doing "playing games". Girl start dating again and youll see whats out there.
2007-04-12 06:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, it sounds like he might be hiding the fact he is a virgin. try and take it slow and easy, and have fun dating until he is ready to go further with you. good luck :)
2007-04-12 05:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
roll wid it. he likes u but feels guilty. build up trust, then tell him that he is not using you and you love him.
2007-04-12 05:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
build the trust, if he feels like he is using you let him know that he's not(if you feel he isnt)
2007-04-12 05:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by walk with me in hell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-12 05:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋