Ok so i have been with my bf for about 6 months now... he has this girl "friend" that he claims is one of his best friends. The thing is, they had sex a few times in the past. Im not ok with it and it will end up destroying our relationship if he doesnt stop talking to her. Am i wrong?
2007-04-12 05:18:02 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is up to you how far it ruins your relationship, as long as they are just friends it shouldn't matter but "best friends" isn't good,,, if they just talk now and then and if they talk in front of you probably no harm if they talk on a daily basis and hide the conversation then something is up.
You should be his best friend if your not then he's using you for sex.What is a relationship? Love,Best friends & sex
2007-04-12 05:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the first response to this question would be HELL NO!! But sometimes it really is just a friend thing. It is not right for you to ask him to quit seeing his friends to be with you (girls or guys). Friendships always last past relationships. Have you ever been able to be good friends with a previous bf? There is nothing wrong with talking to or asking advice from an old friend who may understand things because of the history they have. He should respect how this makes you feel though and try to be understanding of the situation. She may be someone you can be friends with too. But if he does things with her and doesnt include you then something else is going on.
2007-04-12 05:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by jalynnmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be wrong? The reason why you, and anyone else thinks that it's wrong is because you expect him to be drawn to have sex with this girl again.
Why is that?
Isn't there a reason why he's with you and not with her?
Besides, pushing her out of your boyfriend's life will only work if he wants her out. 'Forbidding' him to see her only makes her forbidden fruit.
So what do you do? Well, I would suggest that you start off by befriending this girl. Find out more about her. She might even be able to tell you that nothing is going on. Plus, it's a lot easier to try to seduce the boyfriend of a jealous woman than that of a friend. Guilt is your best weapon, so make sure you use it.
Also, as her friend, you'll be in a great position to get her hooked up with another guy. If she's dating someone else, she's not likely to be much of a threat.
Finally, if befriending her won't work, and you really want her gone, then I suggest talking with your boyfriend. You don't want to forbid him from seeing her. Like I said before, that's making her forbidden fruit.
What you want to do is to communicate how uncomfortable you are with the relationship that he has with this girl. He has to make the decision to not see her again. If it's his decision, then it will work. If it's your decision, then there's a great chance that it'll blow up in your face.
Finally, if none of that works, then you're going to have to break up with your boyfriend. But only after you've done your best to deal with the situation.
I'll be wishing you luck.
2007-04-12 07:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by stedh1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm in the minority here. He is absolutely entitled to keep the friends he wants, just as you are. Just because they had sex in the past doesn't mean they can't have friendly (read: platonic) relationship now. If you are uncomfortable with it, explain to your boyfriend why your are uncomfortable. Perhaps he can set something up so the three of you can get together. If you meet her, you might like her and become friends with her. I can guarantee your relationship will never work if you start to tell him who he can and cannot be friends with.
2007-04-12 05:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My first love and I were on and off again for 8 years. I am 32 and he is still one of my closest and dearest friends and we have not been intimate in 10 years. Telling him not to be friends with her might just drive a wedge between, not her and him, but rather you and him.
2007-04-12 05:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no you are so not wrong he is the one doing the wrong if i were you i would tell him that if he did not stop hanging out with her then you would break up with him even though you dont want to. See i also had this problem and when i told him tha he automatically stopped and we are still together.
2007-04-12 05:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Nes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No being pregnant indicators arise the day after having intercourse-so her abdomen soreness & nasuea have not something to do with being pregnant. that's to quickly for her to have any implantation or to additionally be pregnant. It takes everywhere from 7-9 days for implantation and then it nonetheless takes a rapid time to get any being pregnant indicators.
2016-10-21 23:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no definatly not it is totaly cruel to do that to you i say he is trying to make u jeaulious and if he doesnt stop talking to this girl then brake up with him if she had the power to sudduce him she can do it againg its easy for men to ghet caried away it is not normally for a guy to be friend with a gurl he had sex with and wat he is doingb to u is wrong if he wantr to be friends with her he ask to ask if its ok with u first after all ur the one who has yto deal with it and he should also respect ur feelings and trust and not take advantage of ur kindness u go right now and tell him how u feel about wat he is doing and if he doesnt respect it then he doesnt respect u which means love u enough to not want to hurt u ur feeling *** first not hers (ps no gurl would want to hang out with a guy she had sex with and broke up with unless she wanted something dont let her bring his memory back of those night cuz she end up taking him from u ) Dont let any guy take Advatage of u u have as much say in it as he does even more
2007-04-12 05:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Gossip Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not okay... You need to explain why this isn't cool. If he is a real man who loves and respects you, then he will cut that off immediately! If he fights you on it, then you need to leave ASAP, because he obviously don't care about you... you deserve better than that!
2007-04-12 05:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Amber....lets have a dry alcoholic work as a bartender...a thief work at a bank....if you dangle something in front of someone ...they may just take the bait. Dump this idiot!
2007-04-12 05:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by Win 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋