Yesterday I had posted that my boyfriend's father had died. Well, they have decided on a date for the funeral. I wanted to know if I would get the sit with him and his family, or would his ex-wife get priority over me? Or would it be up to my boyfriend who sits with him?
2007-04-12 05:06:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am willing to put differences aside since him and his family have suffered a lost. I am not being picky, I just wanted to know what the proper procedure would be. They do have kids together. I repect the fact that she will probably sit with the family.
2007-04-12 05:19:18 · update #1
It's really up to your boyfriend. I would say it should be his current girlfriend as she is his current partner and family, whilst his ex wife is now more of a family friend.
The only reason I could see his ex-wife having any priority over his current girlfriend would be if he had children with her and felt it would be easier on them if they sat together.
2007-04-12 05:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by clint_slicker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the current "significant other" in his life, he will want you buy his side. If his ex-wife comes, and she still gets along with the family, she will probably sit with the family to help with the kids and provide emotional support for them. I know it's mean to say but, during this time nobody will be in the state of mind to deal with children. It's best, providing there is a good relationship, that she is there with children.
You boyfriend would probably be offended or hurt if you brought this issue up. He is assuming that you being by his side is a given.
2007-04-12 05:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by just being helpful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he wants you to sit with him when he sits with the family or would it be better for you to sit with the friends? Funerals are stressful and full of emotion, he might just need you to be his rock during this. Men feel hurt and pain and hopelessness at funerals just like women do. Be pleasant to the Ex. Don't fret about it if they embrace and cry together, they did share a past. He still needs you to be there for him.
2007-04-12 05:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is up to your boyfriend. He may want to lean on you for some emotional support. If they have kids together, the ex-wife will be sitting with the kids and the family. Just because she is there doesn’t mean that you can’t be.
2007-04-12 05:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Robin C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would take the potential stress out of it and either not go and allow someone who has had a long relationship woth both him and the family attend, or I woul;d go and sit in the back of the church.
respect is something you can always rely on to make a decision
2007-04-12 05:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Frankee06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex wife should not be beside him. However they should make room for her in the family section.
But then again if you are only talking about being with him for a few months things may be different.
Not everyone is "normal" so you might be surprised on their choice, who knows :D
2007-04-12 05:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit with him, she can either sit with the family or where she feels comfortable. Not next to your BF though. If your sitting there is going to cause an issue though, you should excuse yourself to sit elsewhere and be glad to do it. His family is going through alot right now and do not need any added drama from an ex wife, so if you have the abiblity to diffuse the situation by sitting elsewhere, do so.
2007-04-12 05:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but it is a package deal if she has kids from him...
Cant you all just get along for this one occasion
For goodness sakes his father passed. This shouldn't be an issue
2007-04-12 05:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex-wife is his "ex". meaning she has no business sitting there. on the other hand, it is all up to him. and who gets to sit where should be the least of everyone's worries, wouldn't you agree??
2007-04-12 05:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your boyfriend. He may want to sit with him mom or a sibling or someone else. His dad died! For goodness sakes.........focus on him and not on yourself.
2007-04-12 05:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Snow Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋