2007-04-12 04:39:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope..I personally wouldn't spend thousands of dollars on a ceremony that last only about 30 minutes to an hour. But I am not against anybody else that wants to do it. A marriage at a courthouse can be just as good as one that had a ceremony.
2007-04-12 04:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I come at this from a different standpoint of being a dad whose daughter will probably marry within a few years.
Mother Culture has demanded huge weddings and receptions with an average cost of about 30 thousand dollars.This phenomenon started about the time kids started spending 2 grand to go to the prom. Mother Culture was there for that also.
You are no less married by going to the courthouse than having the big bash. I have attended these big bashes and 20 months later they were divorced. Don't give in for the line Mother Culture hands you. I have a standing offer to put 15K into my daughter/son-in-law bank account if they fore go the other BS. Just a simple ceremony and dinner for family and some friends after is plenty.
Too bad that people feel short-changed when they don't get to have the big bash. It makes much more sense to start life more financially stable.
Sorry, my tightwad, old age side is showing ( Plus I gotta look forward to this soon)( I'll just back back to the 1800's now)
2007-04-12 12:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ret. Sgt. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Sometimes it's nice to focus on the person in front of you instead of if you are pleasing the 200 guests you invited. My parents got married in a court room at the court house in their hometown and I still cried. They had maybe 6 people in the room when they said their vows and it was still the most romantic thing I have seen. Weddings are nice....but they aren't everything. I don't think you'll regret not having a wedding or that you are robbing yourself because look at who you are going to be with for the rest of your life....that's the most important thing and that's what you should focus on.
2007-04-12 11:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_me19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a personal decision.
When we got married we didn't have a "wedding". We got married on the beach in Destin, FL. We had some torches and an arch and a non-demoninational minister. We didn't invite anyone....although all of our immediate family came anyway. It was nice.
If you give up the big wedding you may also be giving up showers, parties, etc. So if any of that is important to you then go for the big sha-bang!
Follow your heart.
2007-04-12 11:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by personalwrappers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Weddings are expensive! People spend thousands of dollars for 1 day, and after it's over, life together will be the same whether you had that big day or not. I'd say skip the expensive wedding & use the money for a downpayment on a house.
2007-04-12 11:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by bmt330 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've always dreamed of a big wedding, you will feel let down, maybe even a little resentful.
But if you really love this person, being married and sharing your life together is what matters most, not the big fancy wedding!
2007-04-12 11:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by thegirlsnextdoor2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to have a wedding ie marriage ceremony or your not married.
If you mean a white dress, church, reception, honeymoon situation; marriages don't need all those things, they just make it more memorable. I know some people have regretted never having a big wedding and had one later on their 10th or 20th anniversary, a renewal of marriage vows followed by a reception with friends and family.
2007-04-12 11:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my husband and I din't have a wedding until years later. Our pastor came to our home and did the service. There were 5 people there (2 of them were myself and my husband) LOL. We had a great time and we went out to dinner after. We were in love and still are. thats all that matters. You save more money to do what you want as well. My husband surprised me on our wedding day with a 3 and a half carat ring because he loved me of course but also because we saved a lot of money just doing it our way. I wish you much luck on your wedding day and in your marriage!!!!!
2007-04-12 11:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by poeticscribe1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about a big wedding then the answer is No.
I married my husband under the big tree in our town with just
5 people there. But Hunny on our 10th Anniversary I got remarried on a Cruise ship, It was the best of both worlds, Good Luck on your marriage.
2007-04-12 11:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't really understand the question however it is making the commitment that is important not what you have on or the place. i am getting married in may and i am not having a big wedding and i don't fill as if i am missing out on anything.
2007-04-12 11:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by joanna l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋