My sister basically just cut me completely out of her life because I do not follow the exact same religious structure that she follows. She is a very strict southern baptist, Where i am not and she know nows I will follow my own path that is not exactly hers and she wont have anything to do with me. I do not get it. Why would anyone cut anyone out of their lives because of a religious belief especially your own family?
2007-04-12 04:31:15 · 20 answers · asked by daisy322_98 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
realize family is nothing special as in, they are just people too. every family has a black sheep, sounds like you are yours. now this isn't a bad thing in full as most think, cause most black sheep's are the smartest in the group and are shunned by the rest due to feeling smaller, not as intelligent or even confusion.
my mom was the black sheep, she is easily the smartest, I am the black sheep in mine, and I am clearly the smartest. Sounds like you have the best head on the shoulders in the family.
plus remember, just cause some are aged as adults, doesn't mean they are mature as adults. many haven't learned basic lessons in life on how to deal with others, how to deal with conflict, etc. no offense, but sounds like your sister is one of them. like when you are 6 and you took her barbie and she pouted around the house....she's still pouting.
2007-04-12 04:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Funny you ask because I am Druid (my dad just calls me a "witch" with a tone in his voice) and he's a die-hard Southern Baptist. He hasn't quite written me off yet but he still lets it be known the one time a year that we speak that I'm just scum and I'm going to hell because I'm not some god-fearing lunatic. I tell him like I tell everyone else, I'm glad your beliefs work for you, but my beliefs work for me. I'm no worse a person, I still live a good and loving life, I just don't do it the same way you do. We can't all be YOU and it's not your place to judge me for what you call my shortcomings. So long as he's not shoving it down my throat we get along cautiously but most of the time he is and honestly that's what pushes me away FROM his beliefs is because they're forced on me. It's human nature to resent that type of thing.
2007-04-12 12:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jylsamynne 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they're shallow and arrogant.
Anyone who can not accept a person's choices is one thing, but when the person is family it's unacceptable. Family should be on your side no matter what.
Most of my family has supported my life change when i turned to Atheism. My traditionalist grandparents (one side catholic the other side lutheran) aren't very supportive of it, and my father's side(the lutherans) of the family is constantly trying to make me see their "right" way, and gradually cutting me out of their lives, but hey.... The way i see it is it's their loss! I am not a bad person for having different beliefs than them, and if they can't deal with my beliefs... I hope their lives are meaningful without me... I know that my life will be better without their negativity.
2007-04-12 11:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fundamentalism is the most destructive force today in religion and always has been. It splits families, nations and is the main cause for genocide in third world countries. With that being said, why is it so hard to believe that one would be ostracized from one's family for differing beliefs. They say blood is thicker than water and all you have is your family but God help us if we place our support system on those beliefs. One must follow one's path in life and have faith that it will grant us what we need to grow spiritually, intellectually and emotionally and thus enable us too spread love and acceptance throughout our lives. Who needs family that can't love and accept you unconditionally? Pray for those family members that find you unacceptable, they're trapped in a bad place and can't find a way out.
2007-04-12 11:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by metallic moment 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I was saved when I was 12, my father was a nonbeliever. He hated me going to church and began to isolate me from the family whenever possible. At 16 he made me leave home. I finished high school while working full time taking care of myself. After I had children he became interested in my life. He was sorry for the way he had treated me. He became saved in 2003 (he got there himself) and our relationship is much better. I never turned my Dad away even after he made me leave. Your sister is not behaving in a Christian manner, that is no consolation but it is truth. I hope your family is able to be reunited and I am sorry for the way she is treating you. I understand how much it hurts. I will pray for God to intervene and I wish you luck.
2007-04-12 11:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by future dr.t (IM) 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Actually it's the opposite. I cut them out of my life peacably because of the lack of respect that they afford me, specifically my father. It works for me actually, because I'd rather not go here and there for family stuff. They do not want to serve God, and I do. And so I'm here. I'm okay with it. No disrespect to them, but I really belong to Jesus, none of them have to know what that means.
2007-04-12 11:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby's family did that to him when he became a Christian, his family was Catholic. They called him crazy.
I am sorry that your sister is treating you this way. I am a Christian and one of my sisters and my brother are not. I love them and would never cut them out of my life. Maybe writing your sister a letter would help.
Take care.
2007-04-12 11:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by redeemed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know ere you come from, You have to walk your own path, do what you think is right, your sister is not being understanding.... you have to find what works best for you, you are not in the wrong until you KNOW your in the wong
2007-04-12 11:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by rednecked_blood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my brothers converted to christianity and now will have nothing to do with the rest of the family. Asatru was good enough for him growing up, but apparently now we're 'of the devil'. I've not seen my little nieces and nephew in over 5 years! I hate to think what kind of nonsense he's putting in their heads about the rest of us.
~Morg~
"Saved? From WHAT?"
2007-04-12 11:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by morgorond 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am a southern baptist and your sister has her own aggenda. we hate sin but love the sinner. if she thought your religion was wrong then why is she not trying to get closer to you to teach you about her faith? i think your sister has some problems.
2007-04-12 11:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by misse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋