I did home stay for about a year (Japan) at my host family's place 4 years ago and they treated me like a real daughter. I'm studying in the same country now, but a different prefecture and go over to visit them during holidays. I never felt anything for him until I visited early this year. Somehow, I felt myself seeing him in a different light and I didn't know what to make of it. The feelings grew stronger and I really looked forward to spending time with him.He's single, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, and what some people would term an "otaku" (likes anime, manga, PSP, etc...).Sometimes when we're alone together, it seems like he shows more affection towards me than he usually does. I don't know what to make of all these and I don't know what I want.I've even thought of seducing him but... If things go awkward or anything then I'll hurt not only him and myself, but my host family as well...The age difference doesn't bother me but the commitment level is going to be hard to deal with.
2007-04-12 04:24:06 · 8 answers · asked by tefutefu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, commitment level would refer to how my host parents are dying to have grandchildren. So if I ever decide to get involved, I have a vague feeling that everyone around would assume marriage and kids. I'm still a student!!! Not to mention I have next to nil experience when it comes to seducing, dating or anything like that.
2007-04-12 04:47:11 · update #1
He's 35 and I'm 21.
2007-04-12 11:12:47 · update #2
You have a lot going on, what to you think you should be doing? Inventory of things. What is important to you? Is this really what you want?
2007-04-12 04:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go for it. It seems like both of you guys are pretty into eachother. You only live once. He sounds like a good guy. and since you're not staying with that same family he's not actually your host brother anymore, so it's not wrong at all. try it out. see what happens
2007-04-12 11:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with your feelings. He is not related to you even if you've always used the familiar term brother. If he is also interested in you then pursue it.
2007-04-12 11:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it and don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If you let the opportunity pass you up you will regret it later.
2007-04-12 11:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Puleeeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent related so go for a move
2007-04-12 11:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by partybabe_59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have alot going on. weigh pros and cons, benefits and repercussions, hormones vs. emotions.
2007-04-12 11:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every one learns sooner or later.. what is the age difference anyway?
2007-04-12 12:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it's wrong, it's wrong. Else, I don't see anything wrong about it. Just don't call him brother...that's all! :D
2007-04-12 11:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by Subhendu S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋