Let's get honest?

Question

Do you love one of your children more than the other? Do you love your child more than your husband?

I only have one child so I dont love one child over the other....but if I had to choose between my daughter and my husband I would choose her. Is that wrong? Does that mean I love her more, or just differently? Because I dont feel as if I love her more

Answer 1

The love you feel towards your husband is completely different to the love you have towards your daughter.
Your husband is your life long partner, who will always stand by your side no matter what and with whom you share things with.
your daughter has your blood running through her veins.
you love her because shes yours. shes your daughter.
so you really cant compare.
and every mother fears that they might not love their second child just as much as their first one.
but they end up loving both jsut as much.
only psycho mothers who have some mental thing gong on do weird things like love only one daughter.

Answer 2

It is a natural feeling for us moms to feel bonded and protective over our children, even if it does seem that we have more love for them than our own husbands. We gave birth to our children, we married our husbands. It is a different feeling of "love'. Sometimes when we have more than one child it can seem that we favor one child over another but I think what it really is, is that we can relate or get along with one child more than the other. I always question myself if I favor one child over another and found that it was the child I got along with the best was the one I seemed to favor. The end result, I really DO LOVE them all the same, it just does'nt feel like that at times.

Answer 3

This is so easy to answer - we love our children in such a different way than we love our partners. You can't compare - it's apples and oranges. Having said that, I hope you understand that you should not feel guilty about feeling that you would choose your child over your husband - your child needs you, your husband wants you.

Answer 4

I have a son age 29 and a daughter age 20. Having one of each ,to me, is like having the million dollar family. There is a sizable gap in their ages also. Gender difference and age difference negated alot of the usual sibling squabbles and competition. Both my kids are very different but I love both of them equally. Their needs for what type of love or affection I show them varies because of the above 2 reasons. Parents would give up their spouse before their kids as a natural act.The parents have had each other longer and are not blood related and it is nature to hold/defend your young.I would wonder if a parent chose their spouse over their child. Last of all, love for a spouse is different than love for your child. I would much rather die this minute than have to see either of my children die or my wife. Feelings of choosing a child over a spouse are normal in my opinion.

Answer 5

I don't have kids, my husband and I are not ready yet, but let me tell you my experience as a child and let you go from there... My parents split up when I was 4,... we (all 3 of my sisters and I) lived with my mom full time and visited my dad every second weekend. My mom always made it known that the youngest sister was her favorite. We always fought over that fact, it was always unfair and she got more things, more time, and even she rebelled from the attention, finally she ran away, mom decided that the 2nd youngest was her favorite then, only that sister loved the attention, and took every chance to make the rest of us know that mom did more for her and gave her more time/attention/money than us. My dad on the other hand, did always favor me, I was his first born (my older sister was from another relationship and my dad adopted her when he married my mom) but he always tried to make things fair, and so even though it was known I was his favorite, there weren't a lot of extras, and when there was, he still tried to give to my sisters as well, the jealousy was less, but there was still some anyway. No matter what you do, you will eventually find one child that you connect in a more 'natural' fashion. But please do not let communication slip or fall by the road side with any other of your children, as even at 6 years old, this impacts them in a big way. My mom and I see each other 2-4 times a year, I see my dad every month. I regret harbouring such hatred for my mom now that I am older, but I don't know how to cross the bridge to talk to her anymore, and I will regret it even more when she is gone. It is natural to prefer a child for certain traits,... but do not loose sight of the fact that all the children in your family need you, in their own special way. As far as children vs husbands go, a friend of mine has a 1 1/2 yr old son, and her house caught fire, ... she grabbed her son, called and called to her husband,... but she had to get her son out. she left the house without finding him. Turned out he was out in the pasture (actually rushing in to her when he saw the smoke) but he was glad to know that she chose to save the son instead of try to find him with the boy in her arms and maybe kill all 3 of them. so, ... i guess in what context are you asking about children vs husband? .... and I hope you never have to face that type of situation...

Answer 6

I love each of them equally, but I love them differently if that makes sense.

I.E., I love my eldest son because of his personality, strength and maturity and i love my youngest because he is adorable, funny and always has me smiling.

The love a woman has for her children SHOULD be different than how she loves her husband. You gave birth to your children - that is a bond that can never be broken.

Answer 7

I don't have kids but I can say I have "more" feelings for one parent over the other and more feelings for one niece over the others. It's normal, however, you should make sure you NEVER show it and never admit it. It would crush a kid. It was very clear that I was not the fave to my parents but my grandmother must've felt the need to make up for it. I felt very loved by her.

Answer 8

well see, i am just 13, but if i was in your position, i would try my best to love all my children equally as well as my husband, because if it wasn,t for him they wouldn,t be here, hope i helped alot.

Answer 9

I love my son and b/f but if i also i had to choose it would be my son.

Answer 10

ok ,,,, i love my dog the best,, he doesnt sass me,, loves me all the time ,,, and is soooo cuutttee