When i want someone I can never get a guy. But when I decide to accept being single and just be happy...dudes are asking me out!! I'm truley happy being alone and I like not having the drama a boyfriend brings. Plus I'm ultra busy and have little time to spare. I'm cool with going on dates, but I avoid them because I know these guys want more, and I don't. C'mon, why do guys want girls who are content being single and avoid the girls who want a realationship?
I know this doesn't descride every guy , but it sure does seem to be the pattern in most cases.
2007-04-12 04:22:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yup thats how it works. the minute a guy thinks you want a commitment they go running, but if your cool with being single, they're all over you. My advice.... stay single for a while, enjoy it. your right, there is PLENTY of drama that goes with having a bf. trust me, ive been in a relationship for seven years and i cant wait till he's out of my life so i can breathe again!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-12 04:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want someone, you may be trying to hard and putting out those vibes that scare men and they might think you want a LTR. When your satisifed about being single and just want to date, the guys relax. There is one Caveat. If the guys is dating you and is relaxed that you arent trying to get into a relationship, he will still want all he can get. God created man to mate and woman to nuture.Is it fair? I dont know. What I do know is when you get older both sexes kinda meet in the middle on this and both relax more.Hope this didnt muddy the water too much.
2007-04-12 05:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ret. Sgt. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright so answer me this, and you can message me if you'd like, Say I start dating a girl like you, We go out on one date and had an absolutly wonderful time together, I get your phone number and we chat on myspace almost every day. and we plan for a second date, nothing serious, but here is the twist i suppose... Say the guy(me) is moving to Texas in 2 months and you know this and you know he is going to follow through with it no matter what.... would you get involved? or would you just leave it at a couple dates and be happy with it.
I mean i just met a girl, who i think is pretty much in your frame of mind at the moment, now i really do like her, i don't think she has a clue of how much and i don't want to be pushy so i leave it at "just friends" we haven't kissed or anything like that but I know i want to, but i probably wont because i really don't know where she stands at this point.... just wondering what you would think of a situation like this.
2007-04-12 04:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a woman wants to be in a relationship she can come off as being a lil desperate which is not attractive. When it seems like a woman don't give a ****, a man think she's a challenge and a mystery, and starts to pursue.
2007-04-12 04:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by Audrean L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's simply how things work, things always come to you when you aren't looking for it/them. In this case a relationship. Couldn't find the right man for nothing while you were looking but now that you have given up on the pursuit they flock like wild animals. I wouldn't be too quick to push everyone aside as the man of your dreams may be one of them
2007-04-12 04:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys want the girls who aren't interested or the girls who aren't throwing themselves on them...if you want a relationship then make it appear that you are unavailable. if you want to stay single then appear available. If a guy asks you out then you just turn him down saying your not interested in dating:-)
2007-04-12 04:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls (not all) but most girls that want a relationship are very very very INSECURE. That's why guys avoid them.
2007-04-12 04:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the nature of human beings. Not only of boys. What is available you do not want and you want that what's not available.
2007-04-12 04:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by Subhendu S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What to you really want out of a relationship? What are your thoughts of what a guy should be?
2007-04-12 04:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
guys probably like you because you're independent and don't need them! guys are attracted to that confidence! it always seems that when you're not looking for anything that's when all the guys want you!
2007-04-12 04:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by JM 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋