I know someone who never plans to get married in the future because he's afraid that any woman might not like him. he has a horrible academic records. Everytime he feels that he's falling for someone from a relationship that started with a fling, he tends to hold back. He'd be hurt to know that he's not worth living with because of his bad life in the past. However, he landed on a good job...
what if a woman is in this situation...
2007-04-12 04:02:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One cliche answer would be that Einstein had some poor years in school, but that doesn't apply here. The real issue is that this man has poor self-esteem, at least around women, and that wouldn't be much different if he'd always earned high grades. The poor school record is just an excuse. People with low self-esteem will always find something about themselves they assume is repulsive.
Once people are out in the working world, normal people aren't concerned about their dates' academic records. A major discrepancy in education level could be an issue, but failing classes in the past should not be an issue. I suppose there may be more women than men who would write off an academic failure no matter what, but most people wouldn't want to be involved with people who are that shallow.
2007-04-12 04:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is holds women at arms length so that he doesn't have to make a commitment... and you are merely projecting your own beliefs onto him.
He just has low self esteem.
I can give you an entire list of famous people who never graudated high school and became millionaires and billionaires. Like Henry Ford of Ford Cars and Sam Walten of Wall Mart and Dave Crock who started McDonalds.
Henry Ford was put on trial to prove him as incompetent to run a multi million dollar business because he had no college degree. So, they asked him a series of academic questions and his answer was, "Sir, why would I need to know the answer to that question, when I can hire someone to come up with those answers for me?"
Needless to say, the case was dismissed.
The truth is thus... We live in a world where the entrepreneur survives and if education was the key to getting rich... Then why are there so many college grads who are in debt and so many undergrads earning six figures?
He just wants to stay away from relationships until he finds himself.
2007-04-12 04:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His academic record shouldn't be a problem. Everyone excels in some sort of intelligence. Some are great academics; some are good with fixing things; some are socially gifted... Your friend's inability to succeed academically may be related to a learning disability and no reflection of his intelligence. Even if facts and figures aren't his thing, he will find someone who loves him for his own talents and qualities.
His biggest problem is self-esteem and maybe a social phobia as well. He should try therapy, so he does not limit himself in life with his distorted perceptions.
2007-04-12 04:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by yet_another_realist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can fall in love with the most unexpected person in the world.
Your educational background won't make someone truly love you however it can influence someone who loves you whether to act on their feelings or not.
Someone may not want to marry a person with a poor educational background for example because they feel that they can't deal with financial problems. I'm not saying that's the right way to go about things but it's reality, a lot of people dismiss their feelings because of their love's jobs/financial status.
2007-04-12 04:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i'd like to say that it 100% doesn't matter, and for the most part, maybe it doesn't, but it does matter in terms of relating to the other person. it's hard to be with someone you can't carry on an intelligent conversation with. now, if you're only talking about bad grades, then who cares? I mean, if he got a college degree and a great job, then it won't matter anymore. it matters much more in a high school relationship where bad grades tend to equal "loser".
2007-04-12 04:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not important at all, as far as love is concerned. If he's got and is holding a good job and has a good life, then he's got no real problem. He's just insecure about his past and is letting it affect his future. Seems as though he feels worthless when he shouldn't. He may need to talk to a counselor.
2007-04-12 04:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's Not important what other people think,and it doesn't matter if it's male or female, the bottom-line is what are they going to do with their future? Are they going to settle and sing the blues about their past academic records or are they going to pursue their dreams and ignore the past?
2007-04-12 04:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by pradavee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's really feeling that way, he should look inside himself to find out why. Does he want to learn any more than he already knows? Grades from school are not what makes a person interesting and self-assured. The quest for more knowledge is.
2007-04-12 04:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'not worth living" ok that's a lil extreme. a good education is important because most couples live off of 2 salaries and the prospect of being with somebody who can only work at Burger King while you have a bachelors degree in History isn't too sexy..
2007-04-12 04:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋