Should father go to the courthouse and support his son?

Question

who spit in his fiancees face and pushed her to the ground? Or should he show a little tough love?

Answer 1

He can support his son without condoning his actions. He should insist that he get enrolled in domestic violence classes and support his son's efforts to get help with his problem. If his son doesn't acknowledge his problem and work toward solving it, then Dad needs to step back and love him from a distance.

Answer 2

I know it bothers you that his son doesn't like you, but he doesn't have to,

You are nobody to him.

Child support is the Law and his fathers legal responsibility, not a choice not a gift, not a favor he does for HIS child.

It is the very basic bare minimum that the law requires from and absentee parent.

Now tough love , is for when a kids isn't listening and indanger of hurting them selves or others.

My suggestion to you is to stay out of the business.

let his dad be the dad, and when you have your own children, be their mother.

he already has enough parents and family,

he is the kid and acting like an angry kid.
he is completely with in his rights,

Please stop medling and give the kid the chance to enjoy his father alone with out you around,

Why do you need to be there anyway.

You shouldn't have anything to say either.

If you can't say something NICE then say NOTHIN at All

Don't be jealous of the relationship the child has with his father, and don't intrude, they need alone time,

He is jealous of the fact that you are taking his father away from him, ( and you are) and you are starting problems between them.

-- i know this from personal experience,
My sons father and i have known eachother for 15 years

and women have come and gone but I have always been there for him, as a friend.

My son will always be his son,

He will always be my sons father.

i am now married, and his father is still his father, and my husband is not anything more than my husband

I make the decisions for my child, and his father and I discuss it.

If i need extra money, i ask his father.

and his current GF doesn't ever get involved. Ever.

This is why they have lasted so long.

So if you want your relationship to last, and be chaos free.

Leave them to be the parents, and keep that part separate.

And if the kid needs money, and the mother asks for it, then give it.

Don't get so jealous.

Answer 3

That's only for the family to decide.

Clearly, the young man who acted like that needs therapy or at least a rage-a-holic type of counseling. A father is always a father, though, and maybe through showing up in court the son will be more likely to attend some type of therapy -- or not.

Answer 4

He should go to the courthouse and support his son AND show some tough love.

Answer 5

I am trying to think what I would do if I was the parent in that situation.
My answer would be that yes, I would support my son. But, not because he behaved in such a manner. I would support him to own up to what he did.
I would encourage him to admit what he did and to accept his punishment.

Answer 6

YIKES... can't answer that question. As much as I would love to say that I would stand by my children no matter WHAT they did. I can't imagine involving myself in something like this.

I think that my asnwer would be no. Condoning his behavior would be more harmful than allowing him to face whatever punishment he recieves from the judicial system. I would, however, let him know where I stand and why I have done what I did.

Answer 7

If the son is showing remorse and it would help his case to show a united, supportive family behind him, then yes. If he couldn't care less, then no - let him face it alone.

Answer 8

Sorry the son was here first and I have no idea what the fiance did to provoke the attack. So unless I hear different he should support his son.

Answer 9

FOR ONE THE FIANCE SHOULD FIRST OF ALL DUMP
HIM AND HIS DISRESPECTFUL WAYS . JUST IMAGINE
THEY ARE NOT MARRIED AND ONLY ENGAGED . HOW
WOULD HE TREAT HER AFTER THEY ARE MARRIED?
AND AS FOR THE FATHER HE SHOULD OF TAUGHT
HIS SON NOT TO LAY HIS HANDS ON A WOMAN. SO I
THINK HE SHOULD LET HIS SON STAND ON HIS OWN
LET HIM TAKE HIS PUNISHMENT LIKE A SO CALLED
MAN...HUH HUH

Answer 10

it really depends on the parents relationship with his son. I strongly believe that women these days sometimes provoke or stike men first I think I would have to know the full story to come to a conclusion.