Well, whenever I tell my girlfriend I'm going to the store on the phone or in real life, she keeps thinking that I'm going to see another girl which I am 100% NOT doing... She always thinks I like another girl even though when I keep telling her, no I don't, I only love you... She thinks I'm lying to her...
Please answer. Thanks.
2007-04-12 03:30:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't lie her..
or change the girlfriend ...
2007-04-12 03:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
I would need to know if you've cheated on her in the past or if she has reasons to be insecure about her standing in your life? I just recently went through the same thing with my fiance - where I now question everything he tells me and wonder if he's really at work when he says he is. I totally have tripped out - but I had some reason for it. He has an ex who he shares children with and I know for a fact that she's been trying to pull him back. Long story but the point is, we are trying to work through it. He assures me he loves and wants me but he's concealed her calls and texts and sometimes doesn't answer when she calls. That makes me think something is up. I can not live like this and told him so. We didn't cancel our engagement but we did move the wedding back. We can't go forward until we deal with these issues now. So what I would suggest is if you are doing something to make your girl feel she can't trust you, STOP doing it! If you aren't, then she has some insecurity issues of her own, perhaps she was badly hurt by a liar in her life. Just try to have patience with her - trust me we don't "want" to be nuts, but sometimes we just can't help it because we are scared of getting hurt and losing you. Good luck.
2007-04-12 10:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you talk to her on the phone and tell her that you're going to the store and she accuses you of going to see another girl, tell her you are going to see a girl and hang up. Then show up at her door and ask her to go shopping with you and tell her that she's the other girl in your life and kiss her.
Good Luck
2007-04-12 10:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by ur_da_sore_on_my_dogs_ass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a crazy maker and it doesn't get better without therapy for her. She is dumping her insecurities on you. I have seen that once before to an extreme. A Friend of mine who worked long hours in dry cleaning 6 days a weak had a GF. This GF later became his wife, much to his friends consternation. Matters escalated. Wife though he was under the dry pressed sheets at work, which was ridiculous. So they divorced, and he was happier with her nuttiness's far away.
Your ff should be retold to cut it out that you don;t want to hear it again, and if it continues, she'll have to look elsewhere fr a man. tell her to get into therapy intermediately or you WI;ll; leave her.
2007-04-12 10:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's obviously had some bad experiences before. You've got to reassure her that you're not like whatever guy screwed her over in the past. It'll take time and a lot of effort, but you should definitelly do it if you think she's worth it. If you give it time and she's still that way, and drives you crazy with constant worry and possessiveness, then you may need to rethink the relationship.
2007-04-12 10:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are headed down a road of pain, my friend. She does not trust you, nor is your credibility any good with her, therefore, do you honestly believe she loves you? Next time you tell her you're going to the store, tell her she's absolutely right . . . . you're heading to the "New Girlfriend Store." You'd better get out now, before your life becomes a living hell. Trust me on this one.
2007-04-12 10:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are giving her no reason to distrust her, then I suggest breaking up with her. (This is the first time I've suggested this.)
But if you are not giving her any reason to distrust you then she has trust issues which will not subside, (at least not any time in the near future). I suggest you be honest with her and tell her your concerns with her trust issue. But look into yourself and your actions and determine if you are doing something that would give her cause for concern.
2007-04-12 10:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by labken1817 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to grow up for starters. Tell her you aren't seeing other girls, you are going to the store. Tell her if she doesn't believe her, follow you...then she will see you are going to the store. If this doesn't convince her, tell her you are going to leave her...then dump her....then when she is single, alone, and still insecure...she will know you are a man of your word, b/c you said you would dump her and you did.
Then your life will be much better without her and her insecurities.
2007-04-12 10:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She has a problem vith her self-esteem, she is jealous controlling freak. Life with her would be like to live in hell.
Drop her now. There is plenty of fish.
Don't get stuck on the wrong girl.
She might also done something bad herself and is projecting her guilt on you.
She is bad news in any scenario.
2007-04-12 10:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't make her trust you more. This is her problem, she is insecure. Ask yourself if this is how you want to be treated forever? If not, find someone else. These types of women rarely change.
2007-04-12 10:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she is a control freak and I would question her why she does not trust you. Without that trust how can she possibly claim to love you?
2007-04-12 10:34:27 · answer #11 · answered by Tamala 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋