Everything is my fault. No matter how little or big the problem, it's always my fault. GRR I'm sick of it. How do you deal with it? I love him, but cr*p I'm tired. Thanks for letting me vent.
2007-04-12 03:11:45 · 19 answers · asked by to_sassy4_u 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh god i hear u hunni.
My ex was like that. so after about 5 months, i started treating him the same way and he HATED it, at the end of that week i was like see how mad you are from one of week of this crap... well this is how you always treated me. So for like a couple weeks he was awsome, and then 6 months later we broke up.. he turned out to be verbally abusive, and blaming everything on you hunni is a sign. So be careful.
2007-04-12 03:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by angelicsnowbabii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always feels good to vent, but sometimes we need to do more than just vent. Your guy sounds as if his view of things is narrowed down to only blaming you for everything that goes wrong in your relationship with him. I have to say, this does not make good of any relationship. It takes compromise, openness to talk about issues. If one partner wins, and the other is left feeling as you do, then you both lose. To win an argument is for both of you feeling like a winner, and that is by coming off feeling understood and validated, with a mutual plan on resolving the problem. Otherwise what you have is not a true relationship because it is only one sided. Without intensive couples counselling, I am afraid there is a slim chance your boyfriend's point of view will change for a long time coming.
2007-04-12 10:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the best thing that you can do is to check yourself first if youre really doing somthing for him to react that way and if youre 100% sure of your actions you ask him to have a heart to heart talk with you and explain it to him as honestly as you can. But if you are honest enough to accept your fault well then it is proper enough to let your guards down and say sorry to him and still explain how bad you feel. don't jump into decisions that you think you cant handle. God bless
2007-04-12 10:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by flannan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just think everything is your fault and you are letting your b/f or husband think it is also you just have to look at these things and put them in perspective the things that you are being blamed for are most likely someone elses fault but someone has to be blamed for them other then the person really responsible so you just have to tell him its not your fault its his and to stop blaming you.
2007-04-12 10:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
to me that sounds like a relationship that no one should be in. a relationship should never function on blame and guilt. it's give and take...and everyone makes mistakes that they should acknowledge. problems are never solved by pointing fingers. i would talk to him, tell him how you are feeling. in the long run, do you REALLY want to be with someone who is going to treat you this way? personality issues like this are very hard to change, so i'd be careful. and vent all you want, i'd be so angry if i were you! he needs to know how frustrated you are as well. that sounds exhausting to me sweety....good luck!
2007-04-12 10:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by SarahS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it really is your fault then grow up and change,
This sort of thing only happens when one partner is immature
If its not your fault then lead him to your truth.
Show him how your are actually right, and tell him you will not tolerate this crap any more.
2007-04-12 10:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has got one big problem. Does he think that he can walk on water. give him the flick, he is not worth the hassle. Life is too hard as it is. He is not part of the solution, he is the problem. Just tell him to ship up, or ship out..
2007-04-12 10:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by malroymck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him...maybe we should divorce. Since I'm the cause of all your problems, I'll rid you of that burden. It might just wake him up...for some reason some people always feel the need to be perfect, to always be right. It sounds like he's not a bad person, just a perfectionist who uses you as his scapegoat sometimes. Shake him up...tell him you can't live your life feeling like a failure.
2007-04-12 10:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by geehaw 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh wow, crap is a REALLY bad word... psshhh, whatever.
I was in a relationship like that and it was the 1st I had ever been in. I dont know WHAT it was, but something about him kept pulling me back! So we broke up and it has left me heart broken ever since. And that was half a year ago!
2007-04-12 10:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I hear u people never want to accept the fact that sometimes stuff is their fault. Instead they just blame the other person and then get pissed when you say it wasnt you. Sigh
2007-04-12 10:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Rick 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋