My father keeps making comments because my 2 year old son loves to vacuum and he loves to help me cook ( I only let him help with the salad or something he couldn't get hurt with), but he loves to play with pots and pans. My dad said I am making him girly. Does anyone else have a child that enjoys playing with pots and pans and likes to clean?
2007-04-12 03:11:13 · 34 answers · asked by MommyofTwo 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Send him to my house, I could do with the help. ;0)
How is cooking girly?? All the top chefs in the world are men!
Ignore your Dad, as long as your child is happy, that makes you a good Mum.
Boys like gadgets and utensils are gadgets for little minds.
If you don't let him touch cleaning tools and kitchen utensils, you will make him a chauvanist, so I think you have the right idea and your Dad with all respect is a little outdated when it comes to raising children in this day and age.
2007-04-12 03:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by michelle a 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think any child, boy or girl, enjoys the same things. I haven't seen a child NOT be fascinated with the vacuum, unless they are the total opposite and frightened by it. And yes, all kids like pots and pans at some point. Also, I've noticed my daughter (2 1/2 yrs.) is very interested at helping me with anything and everything, so it sounds normal to me. They get so much satisfaction and self-worth out of helping us! I think it's really good for your son, and maybe he'll make someone a great husband some day! Plus, keep in mind those are both skills he will need in the future to take care of himself. So you are doing nothing but a wonderful job in teaching him how to do things on his own!
2007-04-12 05:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad stereotype? A two year old loves to do what his mommy is doing. But he might also want to push a toy lawnmower as well. And hey ... what's wrong with teaching a boy to cook? Have you seen the food network? Tyler Florence (yum, yum) and I love Mario Batali.
And if he gets a job to pay his way through college ... so many men take on the food prep at resteraunts. Besides, my dad was always the vacuumer. Your son should learn to be responsible, do his laundry, make things clean. This just means you're a great mom. Keep up the good work! The better your son is at chores, the better he will be at following directions at school.
2007-04-12 03:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to have a walk down memory lane. All children love to copy parents, grandparents, and he did as a child even though I'm sure he don't remember, but I'd bet money he copied his parents...by playing with pots and pans, etc.
This is normal. I assure you that you are not making a girly girl out of your son by allowing him to help make a salad, or to vacuum. If that were the case, my boys would be girly girls, and I assure you they beat on pots, pans...even tried to put on makeup.
Today at 12 and 8, they vacuum, and help with supper......clean tubs, mow the yard, and even help do the laundry...and whatever else we deem them old enough to be able to handle. And they are 110% boys...hunt, fish..and carry around critters in thier pockets.
Tell your daddy to chill....at 2, he's just copying what he sees....and he has to learn to do things somehow...
2007-04-12 03:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my brother was a toddler, he used to want to vacuum all the time. No matter where we were or what we were doing, he would find the vacuum and drag it out. He also used to play with dolls. He's not girly or anything now. It actually taught him nurturing skills. There is nothing wrong with it. It's teachin him things. He may be a momma's boy, but he's going to know how to cook and clean and be a good man. Which is the kind of boy you want to raise. Don't worry about what other people say. Good Luck
2007-04-12 03:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is 27 months and I have the same 'issue". Although I don't think it is an issue. I even bought my son a kitchen, of course with colours for boys and girls. Sometimes he even takes my pans out of the kitchen. I guess, he just wants to copy everything, including you cooking and vacuum cleaning.
In my case, I hope he will always help me to cook and clean the house.
Good Luck
2007-04-12 05:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mellisa V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This men that are still holding on to that men must got to work and not cook or clean. You are creating a boy that will be an awesome help for his future wife. I do the same with my son he is 9 years old and He is far from a girly boy. But he knows responsiblity. He can't have fun until he helps me clean up. He has chores like dusting, washing tables, helping me with cooking. Its a good thing and enjoy it while he still likes it cuz the older they get the more they complain about having chores.
2007-04-12 03:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by poohbear1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is normal behavior and interests for a child that age. Secondly even if he maintains this interest (wait...he will turn into a teenager and won't do anything but eat and sleep!!!!) it will help him to be able to take care of himself. Where is the down side to that? All my kids, including my son were taught how to cook, clean, iron, do laundry, etc. When my son moved out to go to college I gave him my iron and ironing board because he was the only one out of 4 women in the house who used it! He has taught his wife how to cook, do laundry and iron. Kids..(even boys) will want to paint their nails occasionally too...it's not a "girl" thing...it's a color thing and boys like color too! My son lived in a house full of women. One day when he was 3 I caught him pretend shaving...his face and his legs!...is he girly today? No. My daughter played with cars and had tool sets...are they manly? No. As a matter of fact cooking can help kids learn math, fractions, etc. Don't be intimidated by what your father is telling you. I know he is your father, but he is wrong. Most importantly don't let your son have or pick up negative ideas about his behavior that is perfectly acceptable!
2007-04-12 03:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by mental 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son will be 3 in june and he loves to help with everything. He helps the laundry, dishes, cooking, and picking up his toys. If I am unloading the dishwasher and he walks his he starts saying......."I wanna help you mommy". I let him put the pots away and the plastic utensils. I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as he isn't doing something he can get hurt on. I think it is positive for a child to want to help. You will want that later instead of a child you have to clean up after all the time. You are raising an independent son who will be able to do for himself and not have to depend on any women to take care of HIS home. Good job. Have fun watching helping him learn.
2007-04-12 03:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son LOVES to cook-he has a blue play kitchen and we cook in it all the time. His dad is a great cook so he will help daddy. And he loves to help mommy clean-the Easter Bun got him a play vacuum. I think it is great for boys to like these things, and there isn't anything wrong with it. He still loves tucks and trains, he can like a lot of different activities. And at his day care the boys spend more time in the play kitchen than the girls.
2007-04-12 03:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by VAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋