My child is involved in sports and has been for several years. We have been the parents who were always there, always did everything, always volunteered for the fundraisers, etc. Well this year things are different. We are tired and being involved just isn't as fun. We have slacked off somewhat, and some of the other parents are downright ugly to us. Why? Isn't it okay to back off from volunteering? We aren't leaving them 'high and dry'. Other parents have stepped up to take our place so I do not understand the hostility.
2007-04-12 00:59:43 · 11 answers · asked by Ms. Curious 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
You have done nothing wrong. The others are upset because now they realize the responsibility may fall to them. It's sort of like doing everything for your kids and then informing them it's time to do for themselves. They aren't going to say thank you- they are going to be mad that you aren't still doing it. You've done your share. Feel good about it.
2007-04-12 01:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Beckers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always ok if that is what you need to do! Those who are not understanding probably haven't hit that point in their lives.
I hit a point 2 years ago that I was at evening meetings for various organizations at least 8 nights a month. I also volunteered approximately 100 hours of my time during the work day each month. I finally had to sit down and prioritize. I wasn't spending important evening time with my family, things weren't getting done around the house, I was constantly tired, and becoming burnt out. So... I explained to each of the groups I worked with what was going on. I needed a break, the family needed a break, others needed a chance to step up to the plate, etc. I only had one person go off on me... everyone else was very understanding and knew that I would be back when I felt I could.
2007-04-13 03:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by usafbrat64 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under NO obligation to stay on. Expecially when you have done your part. Now it is time for others to do their part.
IF there are people who are hostile to you then just ignore them or tell them to volunteer themselves.
May be you can still be a part of it but say to the people i charge that you will only able to do a small part. AND BE ASSERTIVE. DO NOT feel obliged to say yes. If it is THAT important for a job to be done then they will find someone to do it - NOT YOU.
It is ok to take a break.
2007-04-12 01:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is quite okay ! Those who have benefitted, from your time and services, should be grateful for what they received. Volunteering, like everything else, has a beginning and an end. I always put my immediate family first, particularly my children. Anyone, who has a problem with that, has no place in my life.
2007-04-12 01:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Larry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely justified in taking a break. My husband and I did the same thing. We took some time off to re-group and re-charge. Isn't it funny how people respond? It's almost like you spoiled them and now they're having a hissy fit. Don't give it a second thought. FAMILY FIRST.
2007-04-12 01:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by ~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's alright to back off. Unto those other parents with a chip on their shoulders, I say, "Screw 'em."
I don't volunteer as much as others think I should either but my family is sane, I'm here for my kids and I choose what I will assist with.
2007-04-12 01:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to back off, but maybe you should have done it gradually. When you are all into volunteering alot of hours, then see someone stop, you feel betrayed. In other words you were part of the team, shared the same goals, then you dropped out.
2007-04-12 09:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
relies upon on the region and your company. in the event that they stated they might desire to place somebody off for 2 weeks and you volunteer, then you definately could have the flexibility to collect UC. in case you only say you want 2 weeks off, then no.
2016-10-28 12:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteering is always done by choice, even if other people forget or don't understand that. You are free to back out, although it is frustrating to have to deal with the critics who assume that it was your duty.
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2007-04-13 06:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's more than okay. You have helped out all along and deserve a break. You don't have to feel guilty about it, it's not like you are doing anything wrong.
2007-04-12 01:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sleeping Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋