My boyfriend just started a job 2 weeks ago. It wasn't the kind of work he was into doing as it involved sitting behind a computer desk between 9 and 5. It paid a lot of money and all but he wasnt happy there. He just called me yesterday and sounded a little sad and told me he left the job as he wasnt happy there. he needs comfort now so what should i say to him? I mean it was a GREAT paying job but if he's not happy ya know. What kind of advice/encouragement can I give him? We are in a long distance relationship so all I can do right now is talk to him on phone and give him support, what smart advice can I give him about leaving the job? Please advise, best answer wins 10 points
2007-04-09 23:59:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that next time he should hold on to the job until he finds a new one. It is much easier to get a job when you are already employed. Tell him to figure out what he would like to do, and get some training in that field. That will make it easier for him to get a job he likes.
2007-04-10 00:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound so sweet; even that in my opinion would help any one with any thing they happen to be going through, just to have a friend like yourself to listen and care is more than most people get anytime.
And don't they say that it's the thought that counts? Your heart is full of love and consideration for him and overflows with compassion. What more can a person ask for?
As far as emotional consolation goes, he's got it with you, that's a given.
As for the practical aspect of the situation at hand, it is obvious that he has talents and is adequately educated to a degree that he will certainly get what it is that he is looking for... You could begin by asking him exactly what it was that he didn't care for in the last job and have him describe to you his idea of the perfect job... Listen carefully and when he's told you enough that you understand exactly what he really would enjoy in a job, you might encourage him by saying something such as: "I see what you mean... I can understand why that other job was so unpleasant for you! I'm sure you will find what you are looking for!" I don't even know him and I know that he will... Just think positive... Have faith in his decision (as long as you have no indication that he simply doesn't want to work, which I don't think is the case) and tell him that money isn't everything if it is going to drive him nuts with anxieties etc., that it is just not worth it and something that really works is this... Tell him that what he thinks about expands... that he must picture himself getting the perfect job that he wants to do right down to the last detail. Meditate on it... think about it, pray about it... look for it... check the newspapers, the employment centers, even go directly to the company or companies where he thinks they might have such a position and boldly ask for it... Ask, keep on asking and it shall be given... Keep on seeking and you shall find... Have faith that everything will be okay and your own positive feelings will have no choice but to rub off on him... God bless!
2007-04-10 07:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that it isn't too smart of him.
He'd been much better off looking for another job from a working perspective, than he is now.
I'm not saying it's wrong to leave a job that makes you unhappy; I am saying this is the wrong way of doing it.
That's what I would tell him. I wouldn't give him a pat on the back, because he doesn't deserve one.
2007-04-10 07:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he like to do? Give him suggestions for careers that would utilize his talents. If he needs more education, encourage him to go back to school. If he likes to work with his hands suggest an apprenticeship in a trade, plumber, electrician etc. if he likes to draw, suggest marketing or graphic arts position, or architect, redirect his talents into a career, after all you do have to work the rest of your life, you might as well do something you enjoy.
2007-04-10 07:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by cablegirl 50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhave to encourage ur boyfriend that in this beautiful there is alot of job if he doesn't wanna to sit behind the computer desk.happiness be must.ask him what he wanna to do?He can open a good restrorant or hotel also.There r alot of mobile companies he can work there.so goodluck
2007-04-10 07:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by beckham007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm him down and tell him not to worry. maybe has no fate to be working there. happiness is very important.
apply a part-time job while waiting for other opportunities to comes.
2007-04-10 07:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋