the girl friend is killing me?

Question

me and my girl friend are having a baby in november which im really happy about but since she's been pregnant she wound stop having a go at me it doing my head in and if she keeps it up i cant see us benign with each over for much longer. all i wont to do is make her happy! iv tried talking to her but i don't really get that much out of her and i really don't know what to do??? any help will be thanked

Answer 1

you two need a major talk

Answer 2

She's feeling incredibly emotional @ the mo, if the baby wasn't planned she's probably scared that you're going to walk out (which u are planning), if it was planned then she's probably scared stupid about the 100'000'000'000'000'000'000 other things that women worry about while they're pregnant.
Just support her, keep telling her she's gorgeous, that the bump makes her look bloomeing & vibrant, that every outfit she wears shows she's truely beutiful, & that there is no better way to confirm your love for each other than having a baby (there's a song that says baisically that as well, try & find a copy).
& if she is a little grotchity just remember that for women all sorts of everything are going on inside, not just the growth of another life form, but their hormones will be sky-rocketing.
Bare with them, both, & love them both very much. You'll be a great Dad.

Answer 3

Hi

Although Hormones are all over the place- and the first few months of pregnancy make you feel horrible maybe she is worried about it and doesn't know how to express that. It can be very frightening having your first baby, not knowing what really is going to happen, worrying that everything is going to be ok-(its not all text book stuff!) maybe you should just sit down and talk things over with her, find out if she really is happy about it, ask her if there is anything she is worried about it and try to reassure her you are there for her. Try to anticipate that she might need a cuppa or to put her feet up or an early night. Try pampering and spoiling her little, you might notice a difference! A little patience and understanding is all it needs. Both of your lives are going to change forever now and you both need to think about that one-maybe thats whats making her feel edgy. You have a responsibility to her and your unborn child now so you need to sit down and sort it out at once because from now on in things will be different!

You can both get support from the Maternity services offered at your local surgery- midwives, gps and health visitors are all there to help, support and guide you- don't be afraid to use them- and don't forget you can go on your own to see any of them for advice.

Good Luck
Libby.

Answer 4

chances are shes just suffering from her hormones being all over the place - why not have a chat with her just explaining that whilst you realise her body is adjusting and changing and she going to have mood swings - that she needs to realise that this also affects you. Point out that this should be a very happy time for you both but you cant share in it as you're stressing over the way shes treating you.
Im sure she should understand that shes overstepping the mark and hopefully will back down a bit and consider you in the whole equation.
Hope all goes well and congrats on the new baby when it arrives!
xx

Answer 5

Sounds like her emotions are all, over the place and i know it's hard on u but her body is creating a life which is sending her body into overload take time out 4 urself and try 2 explain 2 her that this is a huge thing 4 u to go through as well.Good luck

Answer 6

First step: Learn to write. And learn to spell.

Second step: Recognize that your girlfriend is driven by hormones at the moment and that is very likely to affect her mood.

Last: Mention this to her and take some distance. Stop pleasing her. If she doesn't want to be pleased, it's no good being a lightning rod all the time. Get out, take some distance. Explain to her why you are doing that.
Don't get emotional and don't get into arguments - you can't win.
Just get out and let her deal with her own mood-swings.
Tell her you love her but that you are not a doormat.
And again: Do not argue. Get out.

Answer 7

Okay look i've had a baby n your hormones have your head all over the place chicks. You have to understand that shes prob scared n sick n worried ab the changes in her body n in her head. Its a huge adjustment n she's prob feeling insecure! It won't go on forever jus reassure her that you love her n you'll be there for her and let her talk to you in her own time babes. Good luck x x x

Answer 8

The thing is jordan, you g/f is going through so many MAJOR changes physically and mentally at the moment, changes that a man could never dream of going through--so my advice to you would be just to be there for her, compliment her on her looks every now and then, make her plenty of breakfasts in bed, spoil her rotten when you can, give her plenty of massages, plenty of loving...and more than that, ALWAY'S be sure to tell her that you love her, make it a point to tell her every day, show her that she is wanted by you. Change the way you think when the two of you argue--it doesn't hurt to back down now and again if it defuses the situation, just take some time out. Make sure you can be there with her at the ante-natal classes--and of course at the birth of your child--most important that one--as it is one of THEE most special privileges for a man in his life...maybe you can cut the cord too!! Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Jorden bare with it, its mainly hormones to why she is crabby with you.

Tell her also your not happy with it.

Dont worry she'll be herself again when the baby is born, maybe a little tired.

Try supporting each other at this time because if you cannot work as a team whilst shes pregnant then you'll find it a stuggle when the little one is born.

Having baby isnt easy and you both need to work together now!

Answer 10

just like to say congratulations to you and you g/friend..
this behaviour will be her hormones up in the air...she is probably feeling tired or in pain...or just fed up...
all the attention you are giving her maybe is just to much and can get quite annoying to some people.. step back a bit she will need you more during birth and after.....don't be all trying to do every think...she is only pregnant and she can still do a lot for her self... good luck for the future you will see every think will be OK once the baby is here..

Answer 11

HORMONES DUDE.. women when pregnant have these raging hormones and they don't even know what they want ... try to be there and offer all the support and say nothing.. compliment her on her looks because she is feeling fat and unattractive...rub her back and feet because they are most likely bothering her.. and when your apart do something just for you...afterwards go back to her with flowers or something she will like to show you love for her and child...gift for the baby can't hurt either