i broke up with my bf 2 months back...im happy with my single life now..but few days back many people told me that my ex-bf is spreading all kinds of rumors about me..he keeps telling people all my secrets and all the things i used to do with him..it really gets embarrasing sometimes...if i wished i could too spread rumors about him but i dont want to do that coz i dont want to degrade myself so much..i dont know why is he doing all this..what do u think i should do.??????????
2007-04-09 22:17:26 · 20 answers · asked by cool girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is simply hurt that you have moved on and he has not. I would suggest going on with your life and everytime you hear a rumor, politely say to anyone who may know him (so it gets back to him) "it really doesn't matter what he says, his lies do not effect me and my new happiness!" When people start to see you are uneffected by all the crap, no one will bother wasting time talking trash. The whole point in spreading a rumor is to cause hurt and attention. Don't give him an ounce of it or a second thought!
2007-04-09 22:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely it's a way to get you back for all the pain you have caused him by breaking up with him. Guys have a funny way of showing how much they still care.
If you spread rumors about him, then you are stooping to his low level, therefore degrading yourself. There are a lot of people out there that say Payback is a ***** and think that revenge is the best option. However, in the end you both end up getting hurt and that's not what being a good person and a mature person is about.
I know that it will be hard to do this, but you need to confront him in a civilized manner. It's important that you tell him that by him doing this it has hurt you and even if you were to get back together, this would not help, it makes you not trust him. How can one trust someone, whom they had a relationship with, if they can't keep what was said and done between them to themselves?
If he continues to do this stuff after you have talked to him, then I would not talk to him until he has matured and apologized to you. I know it sucks and it will be hard, especially if you were intimate and still have feelings for him. However, you have to be tough...if you give in then he has the upper hand.
2007-04-10 05:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id like to say, do nothing. Retain your dignity and don't do the same thing to him. People understand things go on in a relationship that should be private between two people, and if they are any sort of decent human being themselves they will treat your ex boyfriend with the contempt he deserves. So if someone asks you is it true that you and whatshisname did a certain thing, ask them why they want to know... hopefully this will embarrass them into not expecting an answer, if it doesn't, just say , "I'm sorry, my relationship is private, its up to you what you believe, but I wont discuss it with you."
2007-04-10 05:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. Thats all you can do. And make it clear to people that the stuff he is saying is not true!
Don't stoop so low as to spreading rumours about him - you are right- you will be degrading yourself. Show him you're above him - you too can spread anything about him but you wont! Maintain a level of sophistication!
2007-04-10 05:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't lower yourself to his level it just shows everyone how immature he really is. if you just laugh it off he'll eventually get bored as the guy below me has previously said and make him look silly in front of everyone or if you've had enough a good response that would let you keep your dignity and make him embarrassed would be " it's over and done with Ive moved on why don't you do the same "
2007-04-10 05:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop to his level. Be the mature one about this and just think, hes the one being a 5 year old. That ridiculous really, guys like that deserve to be put in the trash. Best i got =| not to good at giving advice really lol. sorry.
2007-04-10 05:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Don 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. he purposely did it to make you mad. Instead of wasting your energy...responding to his childish reaction...continue to happily move on in your life. Best if you can find someone better than him. Show him that you worth to be with much better person. Friends who support you or know that you are on the right side will not take his words. Instead they will think he is very childish for spreading such rumours. I think he just can't take the fact that he is a loser.
2007-04-10 05:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may sound lame but just sit tight and let him spread those rumors. In time he will get bored and leave you alone. Besides, people will think its a case of sour grapes and not believe his stories. Don't stoop to his level.
2007-04-10 05:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by su 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
obviously u meant nothing 2 him if he is doing something childish like that forget him u dont need that crap & if u eva see him then tell him how great life is without him!Don't feel like u have 2 explain urself 2 anyone cause u don't have 2 it's not ur fault he has the verbal shits
2007-04-10 06:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to meet him in person, then say"Some people have been saying you've been spreading around rumours about me, is that true?" Then thank God that you are no longer with this loser, don't worry, in time others will know what a loser he is and they will totally support you.
2007-04-10 05:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋